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"We just can't get a break!" indulge me, i have to vent a little...
i know a woman who has a wonderful husband, and adorable little boy they adopted, and a gorgeous home by the lake. she has been a stay-at-home mom for several years now, and is starting to build a home-based business that's getting off to a promising start. the other day, she told me about her son getting sick during a trip to the beach, where they had to spend several hours at the urgent care clinic. her comment to me at the time was "We just can't get a break!" while i understood her frustration, i couldn't help but think 'you have all the breaks in the world - come with me, and i'll show you people who can't get a break for real!'  i kept my mouth shut, yet the comment has been bothering me ever since.
fast forward to this afternoon. i received an e-mail from a woman who is both a client and a volunteer at our community center. she's probably in her mid-40s, and struggling to get her GED. she had been working a number of minimum wage jobs to support herself and her daughter, who i guess is about 19 or 20, and who lives with her. several months ago, she was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, which has made it impossible for her to work. yet, out of this, she has started a fibromyalgia support group for the area, in order to help others in their struggles with the disease. things were looking up - she was getting close to getting her GED, she finally got a set of dentures and looks 20 years younger... then, on friday, she got a call that her son was found dead in South Carolina. he was killed one day after his 25th birthday. i am speechless. there's a woman who has been dealt a rough hand, yet she was making the best of it. and now this. talk about somebody who can't get a break. | |
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I definitely hear you. And I do think the way she worded the comment made it even worse. But it can also be a problematic matter; should people with good jobs and good families never be allowed to complain? I know you're not saying that, but sometimes I can sense that people hold a grudge against me if I complain about something just because I'm healthy and have a nice family and friends. Depression, for example, can be as tough to endure for someone who has a decent life "on paper" as for those who don't. | |
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I so hear you!  | |
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retina said: I definitely hear you. And I do think the way she worded the comment made it even worse. But it can also be a problematic matter; should people with good jobs and good families never be allowed to complain? I know you're not saying that, but sometimes I can sense that people hold a grudge against me if I complain about something just because I'm healthy and have a nice family and friends. Depression, for example, can be as tough to endure for someone who has a decent life "on paper" as for those who don't.
i agree completely, and i was trying to remember that her perception of the situation was the truth to her at the time. having been through major depression myself, i know that one of the aspects is an inability to see the suffering of others relative to your own. maybe it was the words she chose, as you said, that made me think in those terms. | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: I so hear you!
thanks. i just had to vent. | |
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retina said: I definitely hear you. And I do think the way she worded the comment made it even worse. But it can also be a problematic matter; should people with good jobs and good families never be allowed to complain? I know you're not saying that, but sometimes I can sense that people hold a grudge against me if I complain about something just because I'm healthy and have a nice family and friends. Depression, for example, can be as tough to endure for someone who has a decent life "on paper" as for those who don't.
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IrresistibleB1tch said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: I so hear you!
thanks. i just had to vent. This is going to be a real strong thread.  | |
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Maybe she should turn vegetarian. | |
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JoeyMFinCoco said: Maybe she should turn vegetarian.
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That's what I call rich people's problems. | |
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Heavenly said: That's what I call rich people's problems.
that applies in this particular case, but i'm not sure that this attitude is limited to people with money. nor is disease and crime limited to folks without money, they just have fewer resources to prevent or respond. 
i guess i have a hard time understanding sometimes how people are unable to put their issues in perspective. | |
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retina said: I definitely hear you. And I do think the way she worded the comment made it even worse. But it can also be a problematic matter; should people with good jobs and good families never be allowed to complain? I know you're not saying that, but sometimes I can sense that people hold a grudge against me if I complain about something just because I'm healthy and have a nice family and friends. Depression, for example, can be as tough to endure for someone who has a decent life "on paper" as for those who don't.
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IrresistibleB1tch said: indulge me, i have to vent a little...
i know a woman who has a wonderful husband, and adorable little boy they adopted, and a gorgeous home by the lake. she has been a stay-at-home mom for several years now, and is starting to build a home-based business that's getting off to a promising start. the other day, she told me about her son getting sick during a trip to the beach, where they had to spend several hours at the urgent care clinic. her comment to me at the time was "We just can't get a break!" while i understood her frustration, i couldn't help but think 'you have all the breaks in the world - come with me, and i'll show you people who can't get a break for real!' i kept my mouth shut, yet the comment has been bothering me ever since.
fast forward to this afternoon. i received an e-mail from a woman who is both a client and a volunteer at our community center. she's probably in her mid-40s, and struggling to get her GED. she had been working a number of minimum wage jobs to support herself and her daughter, who i guess is about 19 or 20, and who lives with her. several months ago, she was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, which has made it impossible for her to work. yet, out of this, she has started a fibromyalgia support group for the area, in order to help others in their struggles with the disease. things were looking up - she was getting close to getting her GED, she finally got a set of dentures and looks 20 years younger... then, on friday, she got a call that her son was found dead in South Carolina. he was killed one day after his 25th birthday. i am speechless. there's a woman who has been dealt a rough hand, yet she was making the best of it. and now this. talk about somebody who can't get a break. Hmmm... Sounds like the entitlement queen doesn't appreciate what she has. What a shame. It could be MUCH worse for her. | |
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IrresistibleB1tch said: i guess i have a hard time understanding sometimes how people are unable to put their issues in perspective. it can be a terrifying thing to step outside yourself and take a good honest long look few actually have the desire to do so shame that it is  | |
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Mach said: IrresistibleB1tch said: i guess i have a hard time understanding sometimes how people are unable to put their issues in perspective. it can be a terrifying thing to step outside yourself and take a good honest long look few actually have the desire to do so shame that it is That's the truth, and one of my biggest problems with society in general. No one can honestly look at themselves and see what they really are. And to step up to the plate and ADMIT your falliability is freeing. Truly a shame more people aren't more honest with themselves. | |
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gemini13 said: Mach said: it can be a terrifying thing to step outside yourself and take a good honest long look few actually have the desire to do so shame that it is That's the truth, and one of my biggest problems with society in general. No one can honestly look at themselves and see what they really are. And to step up to the plate and ADMIT your falliability is freeing. Truly a shame more people aren't more honest with themselves. well i cant agree with your "no one" ... most cant i agree but there are many that i know of that are able to do it | |
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Mach said: gemini13 said: That's the truth, and one of my biggest problems with society in general. No one can honestly look at themselves and see what they really are. And to step up to the plate and ADMIT your falliability is freeing. Truly a shame more people aren't more honest with themselves. well i cant agree with your "no one" ... most cant i agree but there are many that i know of that are able to do it i agree, many can, and i'd like to think that those can serve as an example to those who can't. yeah, i'm an eternal optimist! | |
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IrresistibleB1tch said: Heavenly said: That's what I call rich people's problems.
that applies in this particular case, but i'm not sure that this attitude is limited to people with money. nor is disease and crime limited to folks without money, they just have fewer resources to prevent or respond.
i guess i have a hard time understanding sometimes how people are unable to put their issues in perspective. Sometimes if people are suffering from stress, anxiety or depression, it can be extremely difficult to be able to step back and be able to put things in perspective. I'll leave graffiti where you've never been kissed | |
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LolaM said: IrresistibleB1tch said: that applies in this particular case, but i'm not sure that this attitude is limited to people with money. nor is disease and crime limited to folks without money, they just have fewer resources to prevent or respond.
i guess i have a hard time understanding sometimes how people are unable to put their issues in perspective. Sometimes if people are suffering from stress, anxiety or depression, it can be extremely difficult to be able to step back and be able to put things in perspective. that's true.  | |
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IrresistibleB1tch said: LolaM said: Sometimes if people are suffering from stress, anxiety or depression, it can be extremely difficult to be able to step back and be able to put things in perspective. that's true. I know its still annoying to see people with lots of money, flashy houses, cars, nice family get annoyed about the little things while people who have much worse lives struggle through the hardest of times. I think its got a lot to do with genetic makeup and also the different ways of life we learn from our parents. Going out on a complete limb..... it could also be that those people who have hard lives have known nothing else so learn to deal with their problems whereas people who have been more "successful" through their lives take knocks much harder because they're not used to dealing with them. Just my two pennies [Edited 7/5/05 6:21am] I'll leave graffiti where you've never been kissed | |
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i know you're not looking for a in posting this, but a for you nonetheless. | |
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TheFrog said: i know you're not looking for a
in posting this, but a for you nonetheless.thanks, Froggy, a hug from you is always appreciated! 
now we have to figure out what we can do to help poor Johnnie and her family...  [Edited 7/5/05 7:27am] | |
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How wonderful a human being is she!
And thank you Martina for all that you do to raise awareness! ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect, it means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections... unknown | |
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sag10 said: How wonderful a human being is she!
And thank you Martina for all that you do to raise awareness! I'm gonna keep a tally of all the "hug" emoticons you use today, Saggy! | |
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I think we could all learn to be a little more grateful for what we have.
Great thread Martina | |
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2the9s said: sag10 said: How wonderful a human being is she!
And thank you Martina for all that you do to raise awareness! I'm gonna keep a tally of all the "hug" emoticons you use today, Saggy!
Let her, she's in a hugging mood today
For you Sag
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AndGodCreatedMe said: 2the9s said: I'm gonna keep a tally of all the "hug" emoticons you use today, Saggy!
Let her, she's in a hugging mood today
For you Sag
Oh 9's, I'm a type of person!
ANd for you AGCM 
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sag10 said: AndGodCreatedMe said:
Let her, she's in a hugging mood today
For you Sag
Oh 9's, I'm a type of person!
ANd for you AGCM
That's FIVE! | |
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2the9s said: sag10 said: Oh 9's, I'm a type of person!
ANd for you AGCM
That's FIVE! ok here's one for you
now stop it | |
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AndGodCreatedMe said: 2the9s said: That's FIVE! ok here's one for you
now stop it
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