Sweeny79 said:

Thanks, hun...I drew it my own self..

Byron said:

I'm impressed!

Now draw me something.

Sweeny79 said:

Do you find many hanging out at the bar? lol

Sweeny79 said:

I will.. Check your mail after the end of the month...

Byron said:

Just like that? Draw me something damn it...

Byron said:

althom said:

Not really. I guess I should start going to the straight bar down the street instead

althom said:

After several of these... ...they all start to look promising to Sweeny...

there has to be physical attraction or it will not work. You are not going to go on a date with someone who you think is ugly.

1.She has to be good looking for me to go on a "date" with her.

2. If i was not interested in her after the date i just would not take her calls anymore. I like it when the woman makes the first move so she ends up doing the folllow up call. Not me.

3.No i have never had anyone tell me on a date they are not interested. Most people would not have the guts to tell someone that. Except on tv.

4. if she is hot it does not take much time for me to decide if i want to spend more time with them.

5. I have been really good with my taste in women. It has never turned out good when people have tried to set me up. They never pick out pretty girls like i have. They have always picked plain janes or flat chested girls or girls like that.

6. I have never gone seacrching for a girlfriend. It has just happened. If you go looking for it, it rarely happens.

Spats said:

Oh, I feel your pain. That's just horrid!

I don't date People get on my nerves too easily & my job keeps me pretty secluded, I don't meet many potential dates. Sucks ass...

I'll answer all the questions in one brain-storming paragraph while it's on my mind after just finishing a very cool blanket-at-the-park watching 4th of July fireworks in the middle of the night kinda date....

I don't date in the typical sense of the word. For me, it always starts off as going out with a friend and just doing friend things... just enjoying each other's company, talking, getting to know each other. The more I get to like someone, the more they become physically attractive to me. Then our "outings" turn more into dates, and our relationship grows from there. I don't date anyone if I think there may be a good chance I won't like being around that person -- that's why hanging out as a friend works best before going into a dating mode. It's really hard to let someone go after they think they might have a chance to be something more serious -- sometimes they don't believe you after they think they've already perceived your love and affection toward them. But if you're still in the friendship mode, it's easier to let them know that you're not interested in them any more than just being friends. Plus, the friendship mode gives you a chance to get to know them before you even give them a hint that you might be more interested in them than just being friends. When a friendship date ends, nothing's expected. Maybe you'll get together again sometime soon, or maybe not. Maybe you're too busy, maybe not. Maybe you'll call or send an e-mail within the next day or two, or maybe not. The less you respond to the person, the more likely they'll get the message that you're not taking this relationship too seriously. But the more quick you are to respond, and the more often you respond, the more likely they'll get the message that you're showing some interest in this relationship and might want to get more serious. Male or female should both be responsible for getting in touch with the other -- this is how one measures the other's feelings for them. If only one reaches out, and the other doesn't respond or reach back, then it'll be assumed there are no mutual feelings. And that's probably where you get the message that the other person is not interested in another date with you -- they don't have to tell you point-blank, their actions (or inaction) speak loud enough. If they like you, they will get in touch with you. If you're not really sure how they feel about you, throw out a little bait here and there and see if you get any bites. If not, then you know. If the other person really had an interest, they wouldn't let much time pass before contacting you again for fear that someone else might win your heart. On average, it takes me at least two or three months after I've known someone before I start going on more intimate dates with someone and putting the thought in their head that I might be interested in going deeper with the relationship. Usually you can see it in their eyes, and you can convey it with your own eyes. The radiating smile, the bubbly laugh, the gleam in the eye. You'll know. It's not too hard picking out good dates if you get to know them first -- get to know their friends, watch how they talk and react around other people, listen to what interests them, etc. And yes, I personally am very picky and only start officially dating someone if I'm looking forward to a lifelong relationship. If they don't want the same, at least I've made another friend, and can continue to date other people... making more friends, until I find the one who'll both be a friend and lover, maybe even a sister, mother, wife.

i really don't like dating, i feel like i'm being handed a death sentence, and will be wasting my time. and giving them the wrong impression for going out with them in the first place. plus, there is really noone that i am even interested in at the moment. i did do some casual dating about 9 years ago, and got so sick of it, decided to never do it again. why waste my time and theirs?

sexinthesummer said:

Give up the and most men won't find it a waste of time.

JoeyMFinCoco said:

why should i do that if i'm not interested at all?? they'll get the wrong impression, and think that i really like 'em, and then i'll have to hurt them!!

I don't get out much, which is a shame since I am in my 20's. I would like to date more, but I'm tired of all the crap that comes with it.

As a teacher, I don't have the time anymore. I take care of myself, but my interests are far different than most people in my demographic.

Living in Orlando (moved from ATL) has been a self imposed exile of sorts from the dating scene. Atlanta was vibrant, Orlando is a big theme park, so the nature of relationships here is somewhat transient.

CalhounSq said:

You're my soulmate, I swear...

Byron said:

Byron said:

Hmmm... I didn't read his comment as a pity post to me. Buuuut, I'll make sure to try and jazz my posts up a bit so as to not require charity posts in the future!

i am going to pretend i am 41 and dating



1) What is it that makes you decide to go out on a date with someone??...Is physical attraction enough??...True, immediate connection??...Boredom?? Sex??

it would be a connection i feel, physical attraction may play a small part but that would not be enough for me to date in itself ... boredom ? i think i have to many wonderful thigs in my life to do if i wanted, a date cuz i am bored would be very low on my list ...sex ? i'm not sure but i feel that a few dates would not end in sex with me anyway so i would have to say NO ...not for sex ...

2) When the date ends, do you usually already know that there's not gonna be another one? And if so, do you tell the poor guy or girl this right then and there, or do you wait until they call you again?

i would have to say that i would know ... and if for some reason i did not know before the date that there would be no connection ...that i would let them know asap

3) Have you ever gone out with anyone, and had them tell you that they weren't interested in a "date #2" with you? If so, how did you take it? Did you want another date with someone who didn't want one with you?

No i havent

4) How long on average does it take, after first meeting someone (casually, thru work, school, whatever), for you to say to yourself "I want to spend time alone with this guy/girl"??...

Hhmmm ... that is not something that takes time for me ... it's a connection i feel inside and is usually there when i meet them ...or isnt there

5) How good are you at picking good dates??...Do you end up finding out that a lot of your dates are far more boring/immature/ditzy/rude/etc. than you imagined them to be??...Or do they end up pretty much being exactly how you thought they'd be, with no surprises??

in the past there have been a few simple surprizes ... but i would think now with more life experiences that there wouldnt be too many more of them

6) Do you go on dates for the purposes of hopefully starting something that will lead to a relationship??...Or do you go on dates for the experience only, and without any thought of a second date, nonetheless a possible relationship down the road??

if you went on even the 1st date ...relationship exsists

a simple smile engages relationship between 2 people

relationships to me are very important ...they are my greatest teacher

AzureStarr said:

...We were having a "contest" to see who could garner the most posts on their thread, hun..lol She said my post was "pathetic" because she thought I was trying to jumpstart my thread again...lol...and she said her post was a "pity post", because she was only posting on my thread--and as a result, upping my post count--out of pity..lol...it's good.

Byron said:

I see. Still will jazz up for the future though.

Snap said:
That's always been my philosophy, too...try not to rush anything, and just be friends...that way, if nothing develops, at least you've made a new friend. Dating seems to skip that completely, and makes it a do-or-die scenario. Yeah, people sometimes become friends with someone they dated once or twice...but I prefer dating once or twice someone I had already become friends with.

sexinthesummer said:

Oh, damn...lol

COMPUTERBLUE1984 said:

Does that mean you can only date tourists??...

i'm no expert at dating, really. i've seen a lot of movies though and i'm always a bit put off by the games men and women play with each other in these romantic comedy type films.

so in my opinion i think the best thing anyone can do on a date - especially a first date - is to show total honesty. to communicate openly and sincerely.

for example if you think you really like the person you're with it's best to come right out and pop the question: 'i know we've only known each other for fifteen minutes but i can tell it's love. let's get married ok?'

this should impress the other person and you'll probably end up living happily ever after together. just my 2c

Mach said:

Couldn't agree more...

Byron said: