Reincarnate said:

That's me to a "T" also...

Mostbeautifulgrlntheworld said:

I'll be at the Invasion...

Byron said:

Its a date, me you and a hooka pipe.

Mostbeautifulgrlntheworld said:

Guess I have to answer my own questions now, huh??...lol

1) What is it that makes you decide to go out on a date with someone??...Is physical attraction enough??...True, immediate connection??...Boredom?? Sex??

Nope...it's the hooka.

Byron said:

Would u just shut up

Ocean said:

Ocean said:

96...

Byron said:

BITE ME why am I posting on this thread grrr..notice I edited Byron LOL
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Ocean said:

Ocean said:

You're simply giving into the inevitable...

Mostbeautifulgrlntheworld said:

<--(hitting you with the chair you just fell off of...)

1) What is it that makes you decide to go out on a date with someone??...Is physical attraction enough??...True, immediate connection??...Boredom?? Sex??

I tend to date someone with whom I can see building a possible relationship. I look at everyone as potential mates. I will admit, the physical is what attracts my eye initially, but it's the personality and connectivity that makes me hang around after the first date.

If I just wanted to do the funky panda dance, I'd let someone know upfront and not bools**t around with lunches, brunches and other empty-ended interactions.

2) When the date ends, do you usually already know that there's not gonna be another one? And if so, do you tell the poor guy or girl this right then and there, or do you wait until they call you again?

If sparks don't fly the first time out, it's usually a tell tale sign that we won't click. Plus, that'll be confirmed if the person doesn't call me back a week after our date ended. If someone really is interested, they'll initiate a phone call. I like to use the callback as a sign that someone is interested in me. If I'm part of that first-tier of people their dating, they'll call me or txt me within 24-48 hours. If not, they're just not that into me and I move on.

I'm too California to tell someone upfront that I'm "never going to call them again." I'd usually say something very generic at the end of the date like, "it was fun/cool. Bye/See you later." And then I don't call them back. I prefer this approach because it leaves people with some shread of dignity -- albeit cold.

If the date went sour, I'm like Mario Winans: "I don't wanna know."

3) Have you ever gone out with anyone, and had them tell you that they weren't interested in a "date #2" with you? If so, how did you take it? Did you want another date with someone who didn't want one with you?

No. Usually, if they don't like me, they won't return my phone calls or voice messages. I am a child on the move. I'm not going to waste time on someone who isn't going to waste time on me -- period.

4) How long on average does it take, after first meeting someone (casually, thru work, school, whatever), for you to say to yourself "I want to spend time alone with this guy/girl"??...

Depends. If I'm mainly into the physical and don't see a future with the person, I'll rush to do the funky panda dance and go on about my business. But I prefer that we're both on the same page with that, because I don't want to hurt someone who *is* in fact "into me." If I really like someone, I'll go on several dates and then take the time to do it the "old-fashioned" way.

5) How good are you at picking good dates??...Do you end up finding out that a lot of your dates are far more boring/immature/ditzy/rude/etc. than you imagined them to be??...Or do they end up pretty much being exactly how you thought they'd be, with no surprises??

A lot of my dates tend to be with folks that mean well, but for one reason (or another) we didn't work out. They're not bad people, we just didn't vibe right. I have run into arrogant a*holes, non-communicative cats, ignorant folks, racists, etc. and all of this is largely uncovered in the first few encounters -- so I use the first few dates as a pilot period.

6) Do you go on dates for the purposes of hopefully starting something that will lead to a relationship??...Or do you go on dates for the experience only, and without any thought of a second date, nonetheless a possible relationship down the road??

Yes. Many times. I usually date to find a partner. But there are times when I date just find someone to be with "for the moment" (if that makes sense). Someone to hang out with and do the little critter jig. LMAO @ my terminology. . . and I'm done.

Byron said:

"hello my name is doctor green thumb..."

JANFAN4L said:

Funky panda dance??...Little critter jig??...What are you dating, farm animals??...lol

MrTee said:

I was a little slow last night...lol

Byron said:

Love it*!

JANFAN4L said:

And thanks for answering so thoroughly... ...It's interesting seeing how people approach the whole act of "dating"..

1) What is it that makes you decide to go out on a date with someone??...Is physical attraction enough??...True, immediate connection??...Boredom?? Sex??

Well, I don't have a lot of experience in "dating". I guess you'd call what I did prior to getting married more of "hanging out" and really, I think I've only been on one real date in my life and that was afterwards.

Physical attraction is not enough. The numbers of guys that I've actually taken, in my life, were based upon their personality and sense of humor and intelligence, rather than their looks. I know there are tons of people out there that say that a person cannot be attracted to something in someone other than their physical attributes, but, to me, that only takes someone so far. If a guy can make me laugh and can hold a decent conversation other than topics about partying or college junk... then, there's a possiblity in going out at some point. I am not saying that someones looks don't play a part, only that is isn't what attracts me to a person. Never an immediate connection, never boredom and absolutely never to do with sex.

2) When the date ends, do you usually already know that there's not gonna be another one? And if so, do you tell the poor guy or girl this right then and there, or do you wait until they call you again?

When I've gone out, it's usually ended up being a long term relationship. The one real date that I'd had... I told him that night that we wouldn't work. The reason was that he was ready to jump into something, I was looking for more of someone to just hang out with... nothing solid. And, he ended up talking to much about material things that he had.

3) Have you ever gone out with anyone, and had them tell you that they weren't interested in a "date #2" with you? If so, how did you take it? Did you want another date with someone who didn't want one with you?

No, I haven't. Again, other than that one, I've had long term relationships with those I have gone out with. Other than that one, the shortest was seven months.

4) How long on average does it take, after first meeting someone (casually, thru work, school, whatever), for you to say to yourself "I want to spend time alone with this guy/girl"??...

It takes a while. It's never been instant with me. A while of hanging out/talking.

5) How good are you at picking good dates??...Do you end up finding out that a lot of your dates are far more boring/immature/ditzy/rude/etc. than you imagined them to be??...Or do they end up pretty much being exactly how you thought they'd be, with no surprises??

Again, I don't really do the whole date thing. I did for a very short period of time a couple of years ago and ended up really just going on the one. Saw a couple of others and hung out, but it turned into something I wasn't interested in even friendship wise. Problem here was I rushed instead of talking a bit before spending time with someone like I used to do and ended up doing. The good thing is that one of the guys turned into a very good friend after we'd ended whatever it was we had going on a not so friendly basis. So, I guess... if I rush, it turns out they're NOT what I expected. If I stick to the old way... it usually turns out they're exactly what I'd expected and more.


6) Do you go on dates for the purposes of hopefully starting something that will lead to a relationship??...Or do you go on dates for the experience only, and without any thought of a second date, nonetheless a possible relationship down the road??

Go out without the thought of a relationship developing from it. Usually, it turns out after knowing one another for a while, then going out, we usually just keep going out and end up in a relationship.

I do know that I don't like dating. There was a three month period of time where I thought that because I was finding myself single that dating is what I was supposed to do. All it did was stress me out and I found I'm not that type. If it happens, it'll happen and all will work out. Meeting someone, loving their company or conversation over the phone, leading to spending more time together until eventually you've both found yourselves feeling more for one another is what seems to work best for me. It just happens.

Nosey!

Mostbeautifulgrlntheworld said:

I know just the place!

AzureStarr said:

...so many good points made..

Byron said:

Pathetic attempt Byron.....(pity post )

Ocean said:

It's about time...afterall, I gave YOU so many already...

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Looks like I may need directions...lol

1) What is it that makes you decide to go out on a date with someone??...Is physical attraction enough??...True, immediate connection??...Boredom?? Sex??

Could be all three, depends on what your goal is in getting to know someone or if there even is a goal.

2) When the date ends, do you usually already know that there's not gonna be another one? And if so, do you tell the poor guy or girl this right then and there, or do you wait until they call you again?

Yeah you pretty much know, and I would just avoid them until they went away other than tell them I wasn't interested in them, but in general I think you BOTH know at the end of the date if this is something that you are going to continue.

3) Have you ever gone out with anyone, and had them tell you that they weren't interested in a "date #2" with you? If so, how did you take it? Did you want another date with someone who didn't want one with you?

Nope and nope

4) How long on average does it take, after first meeting someone (casually, thru work, school, whatever), for you to say to yourself "I want to spend time alone with this guy/girl"??...

Sometimes right away, sometimes after a few conversations.

5) How good are you at picking good dates??...Do you end up finding out that a lot of your dates are far more boring/immature/ditzy/rude/etc. than you imagined them to be??...Or do they end up pretty much being exactly how you thought they'd be, with no surprises??

No surprises

6) Do you go on dates for the purposes of hopefully starting something that will lead to a relationship??...Or do you go on dates for the experience only, and without any thought of a second date, nonetheless a possible relationship down the road??

It depends, see answer to question 1.

And for the record, I think the whole structure of " dating" is silly. I'd rather just hang out with someone and if something happens so be it.

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JoeyMFinCoco said:

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Fauxie said:

Sweeny79 said:

Byron said:

HEY! I CAN SEE YOUR AVIE! And it's really cool!