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PrintableI sometimes think I am still in love with the fantasy that is the one that got away...
I say that because it's been 15+ years since we broke up, so I know that neither he or I are the people we were then. Those people don't exist anymore. I agree with Number23 about how what we probably actually miss is ourselves back when we were together with that "one great love". I've thought that for years actually, and it makes the most sense to me. I do miss that person, too, who HE was back then -- but I know he is not that same person now. I think it would hurt me more to see him, now, and have reality shatter my memory of him and my time with him. | |
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Yes I'm over her, been over her for some time.She's not over me though, she still talks about me to people that we both know. She always wants to know who I'm seeing and when I run into her I can still see how she feels about me. I don't feel anything when I see her like I used to, my heart stays in my chest instead of floating in the sky like it used to with her. | |
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Janfriend said: The night is bitter,
The stars have lost their glitter; The winds grow colder And suddenly you're older - And all because of the man that got away. No more his eager call, The writing's on the wall; The dreams you dreamed have all Gone astray. The man that won you Has gone off and undone you. That great beginning Has seen the final inning. Don't know what happened. It's all a crazy game! No more that all-time thrill, For you've been through the mill - And never a new love will Be the same. Good riddance, good-bye! Ev'ry trick of his you're on to. But, fools will be fools - And where's he gone to? The road gets rougher, It's lonelier and tougher. With hope you burn up - Tomorrow he may turn up. There's just no letup the live-long night and day! Ever since this world began There is nothing sadder than A one-man/woman woman/man looking for The man that got away... The man that got away. Janfriend, I love this song! Ella Fitzgerald certainly does the emotion justice. Those lyrics are chilling. | |
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SynthiaRose said: Janfriend said: The night is bitter,
The stars have lost their glitter; The winds grow colder And suddenly you're older - And all because of the man that got away. No more his eager call, The writing's on the wall; The dreams you dreamed have all Gone astray. The man that won you Has gone off and undone you. That great beginning Has seen the final inning. Don't know what happened. It's all a crazy game! No more that all-time thrill, For you've been through the mill - And never a new love will Be the same. Good riddance, good-bye! Ev'ry trick of his you're on to. But, fools will be fools - And where's he gone to? The road gets rougher, It's lonelier and tougher. With hope you burn up - Tomorrow he may turn up. There's just no letup the live-long night and day! Ever since this world began There is nothing sadder than A one-man/woman woman/man looking for The man that got away... The man that got away. Janfriend, I love this song! Ella Fitzgerald certainly does the emotion justice. Those lyrics are chilling. I've never heard Ella sing it. I'll have to check that out. I think I've only heard Judy Garland's version | |
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It occurred to me that I never answered this question....well I don't think anyone got away from me....I set them free.
I have no regrets or fantasies about anyone from my past. That was then and this is NOW! I have known lots of people over the years that have gone back to the well so to speak and have further complicated their lives. I for one am not wired that way. Once the words are said and I have turned the page on that person, then I don't look back... nuff said  | |
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Janfriend said: SynthiaRose said: Janfriend, I love this song! Ella Fitzgerald certainly does the emotion justice. Those lyrics are chilling. I've never heard Ella sing it. I'll have to check that out. I think I've only heard Judy Garland's version 
Judy's the one i've heard most. Also, Jeff Buckley sings a pretty acoustic version himself, on mystery white boy. Anyway - gorgeous song. | |
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It took me a long time to realise that my first love was all in the past and I was making way too much of it than it was really worth.
As Bono out of of U2 once sang; "You glorify the past when the future dries up" Or alternatively, think of fireworks and what they print on the box: "Never return to a firework if it fails to light"... or else it may just blow up your face and hurt you like hell. | |
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rocknrolldave said: It took me a long time to realise that my first love was all in the past and I was making way too much of it than it was really worth.
As Bono out of of U2 once sang; "You glorify the past when the future dries up" Or alternatively, think of fireworks and what they print on the box: "Never return to a firework if it fails to light"... or else it may just blow up your face and hurt you like hell. well put  | |
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I have my "What ifs" but I dont have any that Im in love with that "got away", Im still friends with most of my exes...the ones that still live close etc. But yes I definetly have a couple "what ifs" | |
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PurpleThunder said: I have my "What ifs" but I dont have any that Im in love with that "got away", Im still friends with most of my exes...the ones that still live close etc. But yes I definetly have a couple "what ifs"
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EarthAirFireWater said: PurpleThunder said: I have my "What ifs" but I dont have any that Im in love with that "got away", Im still friends with most of my exes...the ones that still live close etc. But yes I definetly have a couple "what ifs"
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PurpleThunder said: EarthAirFireWater said: Hey gorgeous! How are ya??I'm fine thanks hon hope you are too! | |
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EarthAirFireWater said: PurpleThunder said: Hey gorgeous! How are ya??I'm fine thanks hon hope you are too! Im pretty freaking fantabulous actually!  | |
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Not anymore!
I met him at the age of 22, he was 25. We were crazy about each other. Had lots of fun, and great sex. We were gonna live together, we found our place, paid the rent.. But something in me said this wasn't right. He was recently divorced, and something told me that he was gonna break my heart.. I never showed up at the apartment! I had thought about him alot over the years. Then we ran into each other 20 years later. He said he'd often pass by my mom's house to catch a glimpse of me. Anyway, he became my fiance.. And, for 6 years it was so fun, so easy. Then one day he started to get verbally abusive towards me.. He changed in a heartbeat. I ended the relationship... So be careful what you want, it isn't always what it was. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect, it means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections... unknown | |
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PurpleThunder said: EarthAirFireWater said: I'm fine thanks hon hope you are too! Im pretty freaking fantabulous actually! really? YAY!!!!! good to hear  | |
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sag10 said: Not anymore!
I met him at the age of 22, he was 25. We were crazy about each other. Had lots of fun, and great sex. We were gonna live together, we found our place, paid the rent.. But something in me said this wasn't right. He was recently divorced, and something told me that he was gonna break my heart.. I never showed up at the apartment! I had thought about him alot over the years. Then we ran into each other 20 years later. He said he'd often pass by my mom's house to catch a glimpse of me. Anyway, he became my fiance.. And, for 6 years it was so fun, so easy. Then one day he started to get verbally abusive towards me.. He changed in a heartbeat. I ended the relationship... So be careful what you want, it isn't always what it was. Oh my god, Sag10! But at least you can say you know for sure. It sounds like a dream to meet him again and get married to the man you used to love. Too bad he turned out to be abusive ... your original instincts were right I guess. I recently saw a foreign film called Remember Me, My Love... and a male character runs into his old flame while in a debillitating marriage and it renews his life. The concept sounds soo romantic. Why all of a sudden is this an obsession for me? I'm about ready hire a private investigator to find out if he's with somebody, how many children he has, what he's doing for a living ... so I can stake out my plan. We are never going to just run into each other because we live 250 miles apart and have no more mutual friends. | |
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I don't have a "one that got away". Every break-up I've had has been either me doing the leaving or not so serious anyway...
Although, I think I'm still someone's "one that got away". Weird.  |
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