My boyfriend,dog and I moved into a new house on Friday night.
My boyfriend is like one big ol flame and the neighbors are like moths attacking him with neighborly cheer. While he was out doing yard work, neighbors came one by one to introduce themselves.
I'm a big fat recluse so I've been staying inside to avoid talking to anyone.
Well, today I went out to check the mail and Damn it...here comes a neighbor. I wanted to curl up in a ball. I just stood there and smiled and answered his questions. Then came his wife and I had to talk some more. I'm so introverted,it's embarrassing. They invited us to a pool party and I'll probably be too shy to go.
I feel so stupid & awkward.I just noticed I'm wearing all black for goodness sake. And it's like 99 degrees out. They probably think I worship satan.


I've been so shy all my life I thought I was getting over it. I guess not.

I'm sorry sweetie i wish i had some advice i go through phases like this but tend t come out and i don't know how



all i can say is talk to some friends about it, tell them your fears and worries


ohhhhh

but remember these people don't know you.....

you now have the chance to re-invent yourself you can be what you want

to them right now you are the most confident person in the world

no shared history.

or just imagine them naked maybe

i hate talking to people to especially when its too many, it seems like they want to get all in your business(when maybe they just want to be friends i dunno).but you just have to find a neighbor that you click with and don't mind talking to instead of a whole bunch of them at one time.

I've been retreating back into myself lately as well. I'm mostly an introvert, but I can overcome it sometimes if I really have to or if the circumstances are just right. Heck, I can be a downright social butterfly whe I want to, but that's getting fewer and farther between these days. Lately I'm finding myself completely avoiding social situations if there are gonna be people I don't know or too many people all at once. It's just so draining.
In other words, I know how you feel.

Thanks ya'll

I rarely have to deal with feeling like this. All of my friends and family know how quiet I am so I can just be myself around them.
But when it comes to strangers I dont want them to think I'm rude or un-welcoming so I try my best to be not so introverted but it's so uncomfortable.

ThreadCula said:

if you were in a group of your friends...

and an outsider came in and acted shy, didn't make eye contact, didn't interact much how would you feel about them?

would you think they were rude or unwelcoming?

You're way too pretty to be introverted.
Leave that for the uglies.

oh and it's helpful to not label yourself if at all possble if it's something you are trying to escape from....

other people can label us and it can be something that we can fight agains't and can possiblely motivate us to make a change

when we label ourselves it can often become a barrier to change something holding us back

I know how you feel. It's good to be in group social situations sometimes, but more often than not I'd rather be at home listening to music, watching a movie or reading. Sometimes the complications of interacting with a large group of people get to be too distracting and off-putting. And the older I get, the more I become a creature of habit. If my bf and I don't have our Saturday pizza and movie night, I get really bummed.

I wouldn't worry about it too much unless you feel like you're always avoiding people. Who says you have to spend your freetime with anyone other than yourself and your loved ones? It's your time, spend it as you choose!

Fleshofmyflesh said:

she is really pretty but outward appearences should have no bearing on how introverted or confident a person "SHOULD" be.


thoughtless post

p0procks said:

Don't be so hard on yourself.

Fleshofmyflesh said:

you will never know

thanks for the concern i am

p0procks said:

Oh wow. I never thought of it that way. No I wouldnt think they were unwelcoming. Just shy

p0procks said:

Thanks Flesh I needed that laugh. And thankyou for the compliment

ThreadCula said:[quote]p0procks said:[quote]




my councilling training works

ThreadCula said:

You're welcome.
And I'm serious.
You radiate light. I saw your picture.

ThreadCula said:

wow, your like me....just try not to think about it too much, try to enjoy yourself, I hope you do.

unlucky7 said:

Thankyou
I feel better now u guys have cheered me up. I'm trying not to think about it too much.

Fleshofmyflesh said:

Hey, I aint ugly

I'm very shy. I also tend to avoid going to parties etc if there's hardly anyone I'm going to know. It's a strange one because I always nearly end up having a good time when I make the effort.

Steadwood said:

No,but the cable guy met her. Not pretty

ThreadCula said:

....Awww ...


...OMG....Don't tell me you missed the Addams Family...

Steadwood said:

ThreadCula said:

Sista.....being shy is not a problem. But understand that you are seemingly limiting your external possibilities. Now, you may be just fine in this, but something tells me....(this thread) that you are now seeing my point as it is your point as well.

As much as I love my solitude and independent thought (so I think!) It is still necessary to be a person of the world around you. You grow in your own mind and body with the energy that you choose to accept and filter. Your character is ever building on top of itself with every interaction you make in the world. I think you have made your revelation clear here and just needed to know from your support group that you are safe with it!



Whap!!

Not to mention the upside in being a person that shows interest in their community which is really really becoming a big problem in folks no longer having that strong sense of community and keeping the sense of having a strong neighborhood for themselves and their families going like we once were.

DexMSR said:

Ahhh Dex...that's nice and all....but SlantEyed1 wants less talking and more naked pics....

fleshofyourflesh said:

How about respecting this woman's thread.....

Whap!

p0procks said:

this is one the greatest things I've ever heard.

DexMSR said:

Tell SlantEyed1 that - what you yelling at me for ?

DexMSR said:

Thankyou Dex.