I just wanted to know. Someone here on the job, {i don't know why people think i am dr. phil) ask me that cause they still do it and hang out. But she said to me she been calling all day and he doesn't pick up the phone and disappeared for 3 hrs now. going on 4. What u all think. This is not me if u believe that?

an ex is an ex. so no, there's no such thing.

It sounds like your friend is confused about whether or not it's over. If they have truly split, then he isn't cheating on her.

Reincarnate said:

She keep telling me now they have some 19 yr old man that wants her but she scared cause it might piss off the supposely ex. Should i tell her to go to him and see how it would be or not. This sounds like my story. i can't believe her life is similar to mines at this time.

saintsation said:

I think that if her and her ex have ended it, she should feel free to see this other man.

I don't think men necessarily find it easy to tell a woman it's over, so it doesn't surprise me that a woman can be confused about this. If she needs to, she could tell her ex that's she needs a real break so that she can start seeing another guy ... I'm sure he will appreciate her straight approach.

She said she will do it and see what the 19 yr old is all about cause she thinks the ex is doing it.

saintsation said:

If she's doing it because her ex does, then I have no respect for her.

If the relationship is not exclusive and is mutually agreed to be *over*, and she and the ex are just basically f*** buddies, then there technically is no cheating going on because neither has any accountable anymore to the other as far as what they do, sexually or otherwise.

If your friend feels she is being cheated on by someone who is an EX (or is supposed to be an ex) then maybe she's got a greater emotional investment in, and attachment to, the ex than he has for her and she's hoping they'll get back together. In my opinion it probably would be best for both of them if they made a clean break of it, and stopped sleepign together. If she's truly just using him for casual sex there's plenty other people out there that could serve that purpose instead of an ex who comes with a lot of emotional baggage.

Reincarnate said:

Guys don't tell you when its over ,they just ignore you and move on .See us girls have a heart and explain how we feel and why we want to end it we are too emotional i suppose.

Heavenly said:

No date not sex, geeeee everyone minds in the gutter like me cause i told her same thing.

Just got interesting the ex called her telling her he coming over after work and he working. Welll nikki23 i guess women jus get paranoid too much, don't u agree. i tiold her to patch it up with him cause obviously u 2 still all on each other.

saintsation said:

Yeah very paranoid ,so is she happy now ?