WTF.....out of the blue...my partner, who i have know for years, told me that she had had a lesbian fling with a school friend when she was about 15. she said she was staying overnight with this school friend and her parents were out and her friend started kissing her and that, being totally innocent, responded and they ended up having oral sex with each other ....
...she has always said to me that the thought of doing that to another female makes her feel sick so i was amazed that she told me this. i thought she was winding me up but she has sworn on her parents life this is true. she asked me what i thought of this, and to be honest, i am not sure.....i just think the thought of my partner having a lesbian experience very confusing.....i know teenagers have these little flings with their friends, she said it happened just once, but when its your girlfriend.....WTF

how is this confusing to you?

brownsugar said:

...
...
well the thought of two teenage girls together is not an unpleasant thought for most men but when its my partner.....WTF

I would take it as, a lot of people experiment when they are younger... I wouldn't put too much emphasis on it.. How will this NOW effect your day to day life with your girfriend? Did she suddently decide to be a lesbian now? Did she decide she is now attracted to women? Or do you just feel sort of betrayed because she kept this from you? The problem may be lying more with you, than with the actual situation itself. Also why did she choose now to tell you about this?

Just some food for thought!

Don't overreact!!! She took you in her confidence. Don't make her feel weird or allienated. Turn this into a positive experience. Open up communication

blackbob said:

it was in the past. besides you learned something new about her. do you see it as a negative or a positive?

BabyCakes said:

...
...
she said she must have blanked it out.....i suppose it was just a bit of a surprize to me....i have know her for a long time and i would never have thought she would do something like that....but it was a long time ago.....still..that image of her and a schoolfriend at it.....not sure how i feel about it :confuse:the brainless sex drive in me finds it a turn on but the thinking part of me finds it a bit disturbing.....you learn something new every day eh....
[Edited 7/6/05 11:06am]
[Edited 7/6/05 17:04pm]

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Ditto

blackbob said:

I woudl be more suprised as to why now all of a sudden out of the blue she told you....

I woudlnt' take it for much more than its worth.. unless you suddenly see her checking out women... She probably just wanted to be honest with you.. and felt she wanted to get it off her chest.

blackbob said:

Don't you think you'd be disturbed no matter the sex? This sounds to me less about being disturbed over a same sex experience than it is the thought of your girlfriend being with anyone else period.

To me this is not a big deal. Be happy that she feels comfortable with telling you esp after her initial reactions you saw in the past.

Trust me at 15...it is SO not a big deal. Even with Boys...again, not a big deal. Though I do doubt she'll ever do it again.

It was just one experience in her life and it has no reflection on who or what she's doing today.

I'm with cakes and supa...it happened a long time ago...who cares man....she could have told you something much worse than that...be glad!

So, will you tell her now about YOUR experience?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

...
...
hi supa, mate.....no i think it is the fact that 1..she never told me....2.she had told me many a time that doing something lesbian turned her stomach then turns round and tells me this....3. i find it a turn on but am confused at the same time.....it is not a big deal.....it was twenty years ago....just didnt expect it from her thats all

pardonme4livin said:

PANDURITO said:

...
...ehhhh .....what would that be.....christ i was 19 before i even kissed a girl.....nothing to tell about my teenage years

blackbob said:

Well, anytime I hear my fake boyfriend tell me about experiences he had with chicks I feel fucked up too It's more of a jealousy thing tho. If I'm in love with someone I can't fathom the thought of someone touching their hair let alone a full fledged session

..
what do you mean by fake boyfriend?
[Edited 7/6/05 11:21am]

pretty much every woman i've every dated has had a lesbian experience in high school, it's so normal it's almost weird when it DIDN'T Happen. there was a point in the early to mid nineties when it became fashionable and i've known a couple of girls who did it just to fit in (or at least that's what they told me) it's probably happened to a lot more people than you realize.

I want a lesbian experience.

Nikki23 said:

Ask around Nikki...I am willing to bet there are lots of girls here that'll volunteer..... ( ask Joey! He's really a she )

blackbob said:

Check your orgnotes

pardonme4livin said:

Ok i will ask around but i'm not asking Joey

Nikki23 said:

me too.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yeah now you might be able to have 3 somes!

CarrieLee said:

Said the Jello covered lady

blackbob said:

Just a thought on this, I wonder if the expirience of this night has given her the turned stomach feeling she talks to you about. Maybe this expirience was not as great as it could be imagined, and as a result, the thought now makes your girlfriend feel sick of the idea.
Just another too, she has now told you, and although you may have liked to have heard it before, ultimatly she has told you off her own back...as I understand it, which I see as a positive thing
I hope this help a little

Bob
That was awhile ago. I bet there are things you did at 15 years old you wouldn't do today? If you want to bring another woman into the bedroom just ask. Don't be shocked for her wanting to invite another man in bed with you two. Save the trio stuff for your casual friends. Once you share your partner with another person, you will never look at your partner the same.

BabyCakes said:

that's exactly what i was thinkin--experimentation, nothing more.