... and I' devastated.
I just don't get it!!! Everything seemed to be OK - well to me at least. And then he goes and picks a fe of the dumbest reasons I have ever heard in my live. Nothing but empty phrases which couldn't possibly mean a thing to anybody. Like he just needed a reason. So I think he has just stopped loving me. See I haven't stopped loving him. I... I... I feel like I've been run over by a truck!

Now I know that you don't know me and you don't care and why should you? It's none of your bussines. But it's late in the evening here and I'm sooo sad and lonely and I'm trying to fight the erge to call him. Even writing a senseless post on a stupid forum so I bunch of complete strangers could read it and yawn is better than calling him. He'd be bothered cause he doesn't love me anymore.

Don't feel to bad. He probably is an ass anyway, you just didn't see it because you where to much in love!

Thank you. Well yes he must be an ass. he broke my heart doesn't that alone mak him an ass.

I checked your profile and you are too pretty to be lonely for too long! Go out and be social- there's plenty of fish in the sea!

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i know i dont know you but i can totally relate. i recently went through something very similar. its so hard. but keep your chin up....know and re-evaluate your worth. because thats where your strength comes from. and you need your strength right now. feel your pain, heal your heart, learn from it and move on.

Awww....

i'm feeling for ya right now. I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. We sorted it out a day later and are trying again. But that one day was hellish, even though i was the one doing the dumping. Its truly a shitty time, and you feel like you'll be miserable forever more. But i know from past relationship break ups, you will begin to feel better sooner or later. Hopefully meet somebody whos more right for you, and before you know it you'll be wondering what you ever saw in your ex.
At the moment you're probably romanticising your relationship, remembering all the good times, and all the little things about him you adore. Its difficult not to do this. But try thinking of the negatives in your relationship, things he did that got on your nerves, fights you had etcc. With any luck you may convince yourself slightly that you weren't meant to be anyway.
Tell yourself that you are now a free agent, ready to meet that someone who will be right for you.

I would... but I keep on hoping he still cares and we'll get back together.
Do you think there's a chance we'll get back together? Is there ANYTHING I could do? Anything?

O Lord if only this night was over somehow... I only need to get through this night...

You can do better, he needs to finish growing up

Hint: and (stalk)

ludika said:

You look young; is this your first real heartbreak? I guess it doesn't help you much right now - and it's not much of a comfort anyway - but you get better at handling these things as you get older. You recognize the feelings and can learn from what happened previously and how you handled it then. It never ever gets easy though.

Fighting the urge to call whoever hurt you can be one of the hardest parts, I know. Make sure you've said everything that needs to be said to each other before you stop yourself from calling him. You don't want questionmarks eating away at your peace of mind as you try to live through this.

2the9s said:

Now that's an advice!

Oh my god you made me smile! Thank you!

ludika said:

"Where darkness greets u - b grateful - it is giving u the opportunity 2 shine ur light."

love

Anji said:

retina said:

Well my first heartbreak... I was a teenager once and my heart was broken monthly back then. But yes this was my first serious relationship it lasted 2 and a half years and I CAN'T BELIEVE somebody would just end it just like that without telling a reason that has a tiny little sense...

Well yeah... I'll get through it. Someday. But tonight is hell.

ludika said:

i did the same thing....but once i realized that he didnt love me anymore...things became much easier for me. because then i could move forward and stop thinking of things might have been. but i beat myself about it for along time...because i thought for sure there was something that i could have done better. in the end...i gave it my all, and so did he.....that being said...it wasnt enough.
the hardest thing to do is move on, without looking back. but you can do it. and in order to get over him....you have to do it.

best of luck sweety....

ludika said:

You see, you still have some huge questionmarks hanging in the air right there. You have to straighten them out before you can move on. So don't be too adamant about not calling him. It's not a self-serving purpose.

Shit girl, I know things like these can suck very hard. I've once cried three years over a boy who had left me, I felt so silly but couldn't help it. Anyway, if he's giving you stupid reasons he 1) doesn't love you enough 2) loves you, but doesn't want to be in a relationship for one reason or another

I doesn't matter what the reason is, the thing is; you need to go on! Don't let anyone tell you how fast you have to get over it, listen to your heart, not only the part that still loves him but also the hart that loves yourself and believes in your own strength. It might be weak, whispering, but it is there and one day will sing again...

ludika said:

Theres always a chance.
One of my good friends was dumped by her fiancee last week, the timing was rather dodgy to me as he was just about to go on a lads holiday to Mexico

She was soooo upset, we had to get her drunk on friday night and talk man-hating talk for a while.
Anyway, hes been calling her from Mexico saying hes nnot sure he made the right decision, and theres a chance they'll get back together when he returns. (After hes had his fortnight of fun shagging about in my opinion, grrrr....)
Shes delighted of course. so the moral of the story is, yes theres a chance.
And believe that if you want to, even if it just helps you get through the next day.

I dont think there is anything you can do. I'd suggest do NOT make contact with him, dont make yourself appear needy. If he is considering getting back with you, this may put him off, but if you maintain your dignity and remain cool he'll have more respect for you.

You are such a beautiful girl in the profile pic, he must be an idiot to lose you! i have no doubt you'll have many guys willing to be your rebound man in the meantime!

retina said:

You think I should? I think I should too but it seems like he doesn't want to talk. I know him pretty well by now and he'll just keep on repeating those lame phrases. he obviously doesn't want to clear things out.
I'll call him anyway. I'll TRY. just not tonight, it's too late, I'll sound like a maniac.

I don't know you well, and yes, from the profile pic it would seem you could probably get anyone you desire. I'm still sorry for your pain

If you really care, then I hope he'd realize soon what he's missing, but don't wait up for him for too long, live your life to the fullest while you can

...and yes you are beautiful, but I guess we're not the ones you want to hear that from...right now...

Anji said:

Anji, you Goon!!

ludika said:

He owes you an explanation, that's for sure. I think the key is to make it clear to him that the truth, however harsh it may be, is welcome and that you're ready to hear it no matter if it's lack of love, another woman, whatever. Trust me, you will want to know the real reason to be able to eventually find peace with this breakup.

Call him tomorrow, when you've calmed yourself down and can speak in a normal manner.

It happens to the best of us, or so the cliche goes.

Do yourself a favor and do as I say, not as I do: don't call him. Concentrate on yourself. Do things with that empty time that will make you better. Go get a manicure, sit and read a good novel, whatever it takes.

This, of course, makes me a hypocrite, but it's advice that I wish I would better adhere to.

Nero said:

Hey Nero, you've been mysteriously absent from this one:

http://www.prince.org/msg/100/148852

OK thanks everyone!!!! You were all great!

I'm gonna go to bed now.. try and get some sleep. I know this might be mission impossible but I might as well give it a try. Tomorrow there's a new day, right. Thanks again.

THis may help.

I TRIED to follow this...but two years later...we still get up occasionally. Your best bet is to cut it loose for good. No post break up hook ups. THey are so empty in the long run

http://www.stopgettingdum...eakup.html

2the9s said:

Bad advice!