OH God.....it's unbearable.
It's about fathers who've sexually abused their daughters.
One was a preacher. Actually abused her on the alter in the church.



We need vaPOOrize for these people.

Before I opened the thread, I was gonna post something like "nope - not watching Oprah - I don't have a large screen tv". But then I saw the subject matter of the show so I decided not to.

ReturnOfDOOK said:

So what is the value of all this "information"?

JoeyMFinCoco said:

I suppose it gives other victims courage - to speak out, to stand up.

ReturnOfDOOK said:

You've inspired a new thread

Fleshofmyflesh said:

Are you that gullible?

JoeyMFinCoco said:

Oh, and ratings.

Fleshofmyflesh said:

too many of these crimes go unreported, and the victims are struggling with overcoming the emotional anguish that follows. as hard as it is to watch the show, it's important that these crimes are discussed publicly.

ew! a mom and daughter that are sisters as well??? I love my dad. I can't imagine someting like that! gross!

this reminds me of that crazy black man in Fresno, CA that murdered his children and his daughters all had babies by him. he should get death!

it's great to have shows that give victims the strength to speak out and confront, but what bothers me is that you never see a proliferation of shows about how victims can come to a place of closure or learn to exorcise the anger/bitterness/guilt that comes with the process of confronting and speaking out. i know a few very strong people who have been able to come full circle in this process and shed the "victim" part of their lives, and i know so many more who have this huge ball of angry energy that they carry - righteous and understandable angry energy, to be sure - but i can just see it eating them up like cancer. placing blame on people and holding others accountable for what they've done is great, but the process doesn't end there. i don't think enough people understand that, and it's a shame.

Anxiety said:

but there's certainly only so much a one-hour show can do. the three sisters on Oprah's show actually said that they had forgiven their father, which is an important step toward what we like to call "closure" (god, i hate that term).

there's value in those shows that allow people to see others who have been through a similar agony. the rest of the process is probably best left to the support of family and friends, and the expertise of a professional therapist.

I missed this one, but a while back Oprah did a show on a similar topic. I couldn't stop crying.....my roommates couldn't stop cryin' either. I think that was the most I ever cried watching a tv show.

IrresistibleB1tch said:

right. i just think that a lot of people don't know that they don't have to consider themselves victims forever - that there's a next step. to some extent, abuse does leave a permanent scar, but i do think it's possible to work toward making those scars really small. a lot of people wear their anger like a badge, whether they mean to or not, and my concern with all this is that anger and bitterness can eat people up if not tamed or put into some kind of perspective, no matter how long it takes.

i don't know if i'm making a bit of sense.

There was also an episdoe last week on men raping babies. Very sad

Unfortunately, rightly or wrongly, I file these kinds of shows with 'Train Wrecks', 'When Bridges Collapse', 'When Machines Go Wrong' and the like.

I suppose I just find it hard to watch, though I also suppose I should try.

Anxiety said:

you're making all kinds of sense, especially about wearing the anger like a badge - it's very sad to see, and hard to deal with as an outsider.