i just love the level of serious debate on this site...

I was serious you stupid twat

I was serious you stupid twat

I'm so mildly upset right now. Sitting here in my bedroom, bored and alone, while my wife is out down Khao San Road partying away. She went out at lunchtime to meet a friend who's over from the US and is leaving for Chiang Mai tonight. She said she'd be back at 3 or 4pm.

She called me at 5pm and said she wanted to stay out later, but I told her I wanted her to come back before 6pm so that we could have dinner together and watch a DVD. She agreed, but here we are coming up to 9pm and she hasn't come back. I'm starting to hate Khao San Road and in particular bloody Gulliver's Traveller's Tavern. She'll come back around 2am after the bar closes and tomorrow she'll say she's sorry and vow to stop going out.

I can't complain about her otherwise, but she has this one flaw that is so frustrating. She can set out with the best intentions, but she always ends up drinking with her friends and coming home late. Once she's in that bar she's powerless.

I can't call her because we just canceled her contract and are in the process of changing it.

I could have gone with her and we'd have come home together, but I don't particularly like her friend. I want her to be able to go and see her friends in the daytime without her ending up in some bar and staying out all night.

What should I do?

Sounds like you need to shut the fuck up and get a life outside of your marriage.


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I'm so mildly upset right now. Sitting here in my bedroom, bored and alone, while my wife is out down Khao San Road partying away. She went out at lunchtime to meet a friend who's over from the US and is leaving for Chiang Mai tonight. She said she'd be back at 3 or 4pm.

She called me at 5pm and said she wanted to stay out later, but I told her I wanted her to come back before 6pm so that we could have dinner together and watch a DVD. She agreed, but here we are coming up to 9pm and she hasn't come back. I'm starting to hate Khao San Road and in particular bloody Gulliver's Traveller's Tavern. She'll come back around 2am after the bar closes and tomorrow she'll say she's sorry and vow to stop going out.

I can't complain about her otherwise, but she has this one flaw that is so frustrating. She can set out with the best intentions, but she always ends up drinking with her friends and coming home late. Once she's in that bar she's powerless.

I can't call her because we just canceled her contract and are in the process of changing it.

I could have gone with her and we'd have come home together, but I don't particularly like her friend. I want her to be able to go and see her friends in the daytime without her ending up in some bar and staying out all night.

What should I do?

in my relationship, I may go out like once or twice a month, but I usually go with Chris, but then he knows when Im stressed and tells me he knows I need a night out, and watches the kid (s). There are times that the nights he plays out, and he stay s out to late he knows hes in trouble, and I will let him know, he usually has a good excuse. like since he doesnt drink sometimes he plays DD for everyone

he plays Dungeons & Dragons?

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I thought I'd get responses like yours.

Not to worry. I know it's hard for people to empathise when people are so individual, but thank you to the people that have tried and offered some advice. I'll bear it all in mind and try to straighten this out a little.

Oh NOOOOO I should have clarified Designated Driver



Oh wait did you want to ask him to come over and play

Fauxie...just think how gigglie she is goona be when she get's back...could be an advantage for u.......pillow fight and tickle party...



ps....I do see the serious side of this too

I said....PILLOW FIGHT

Hehe. We had a fight the other day. No pillows though, just grappling. Needless to say it was a lot of fun. I have a massive reach advantage though. It hardly seems fair. She's determined though.

...or you could just follow my example and let it keep happening and just be pissed off about it a lot...?





Do as I say, not do as I do

can lead to a very Happy Ending ...

Sounds like you need to shut the fuck up and get a life outside of your marriage.


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Exactly!

A kindred spirit!

My pissed off is more like most peoples' indifferent though. I find it hard to get too upset. She's was always a good girl and all the changes I've seen in her since I met her have been positive. In some ways she's put more in that I have, though she was more of a rough diamond than I. I understand that nobody's perfect. This is an ongoing work in progress like any other relationship and as long as we're moving in the right direction I'm sure we'll get there in the end. If not, I'll just be pissed off about it.

I thought I'd get responses like yours.

Not to worry. I know it's hard for people to empathise when people are so individual, but thank you to the people that have tried and offered some advice. I'll bear it all in mind and try to straighten this out a little.

I was trying to think for ages how I wanted to respond to this thread, but it sounds like you just summed the whole thing up right there

I thought I'd get responses like yours.

Not to worry. I know it's hard for people to empathise when people are so individual, but thank you to the people that have tried and offered some advice. I'll bear it all in mind and try to straighten this out a little.

yeah.

it's hard to find anyone to play with, when you're a 7th level Cleric like me.

I thought I'd get responses like yours.

Not to worry. I know it's hard for people to empathise when people are so individual, but thank you to the people that have tried and offered some advice. I'll bear it all in mind and try to straighten this out a little.

How often does it happen? I can understand if this is a regular occurence (several times a week), it would be rather upsetting, but once in a while a girl just needs to go out and have some fun with her friends...

Do you think she owes you time or something?

I guess I am being sort of cold here. But if you don't give her room to do what she wants to do, it'll get worse.

Let her do her thing. You don't own her.

Get yourself a hobby, stay busy...get a makeover...do something exciting for yourself...

Let her ass hang out, man.

You can't make her be someone she's not.

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Used to be once every two weeks. Now it's around once or twice a week. Her sister's staying here right now as she's having trouble with her husband. As she's going out more now, it's influencing my wife too. Her sister's not out with her tonight though, but she hasn't been the best influence an older sister could be, and that's totally out of character too.

Even if it were once a month it'd bug me. It's not the going out, it's the sneakiness of it.

I just don't want to have to go with her everywhere to make sure she won't end up going out. She was supposed to be meeting a friend for lunch and then picking up some groceries on the way home for dinner.

I welcome all advice, be it from the school of empathy or from those who'd appear, remarkably, to have perfect relationships.