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Printablerocknrollisalive said: rocknrolldave said:  posted post in wrong reply. Thick black country twat that I am
As you were [Edited 6/20/05 6:58am] 
You thick black country twat you 
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p0pstar said: rocknrolldave said: Pot kettle, kettle pot ps not getting the whole pot kettle thingy here 
Just ignore him... he's from Wolverhampton you know...  He really can't help it  | |
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Cloudbuster said: TheFrog said: 
get so drunk you crap on her side of the bed!  Then make her suck it up thru a straw.
Then snog her. Then make her crap on your side of the bed while you swallow your own crap! | |
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rocknrollisalive said: p0pstar said: ps not getting the whole pot kettle thingy here
Just ignore him... he's from Wolverhampton you know... He really can't help it 
i'm sure he should be reclassified as dudley  | |
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I think you need to sit down with her, preferably on a night where the two of you can just relax and talk alone, and explain your reasons.
I think it's healthy that you and your wife do things separately now and then, and I don't think you should be trying to stop her from enjoying nights out with her friends. But, I also think it's fair to say to her that if she's going to be out all night, to let you know that in advance so that you can make plans rather than sitting in worrying about her. We all have nights out occassionally where we're having such a good time that we don't want it to end, but if she's doing it regularly then she's not really being fair to you. I would phrase everything in a positive way rather than a demanding one, and see if the two of you can come to some sort of compromise. | |
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p0pstar said: rocknrollisalive said:
You thick black country twat you
you only came online to post that didn't you?
Nope... by my standards I have been posting prolifically this afternoon
I don't want to be here 
*cue lots of people telling me I should be grateful to have a job and that | |
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p0pstar said: rocknrolldave said: posted post in wrong reply. Thick black country twat that I am
As you were [Edited 6/20/05 6:58am]
quoted and you edited far to late Sorry. That'll be the Black Country Twat in me again. | |
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TheFrog said: Cloudbuster said: Then make her suck it up thru a straw.
Then snog her. Then make her crap on your side of the bed while you swallow your own crap! Then have a crap cocktail. | |
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Fauxie said: SpareSenik said: Mate, there's nothing to be worked up about  She just out on the lash with the girlies 
Stop feeling insecure because of your recently discovered obesity (  )and do some sit ups while she's out 
It's not all bad..... We're still the European Cup Champions 2005!, for foo'ks sake!
Yes we are.
But still, read the thread and u'll see what I mean. It's not about a girls' night out once in a while. Yeah, you threw in some more details while my slow ass was typing out my previous post
Please state for the record, is this serious? 
Coz I didn't want Thai papaya salad on me face... as usual
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rocknrollisalive said: p0pstar said:
you only came online to post that didn't you?
Nope... by my standards I have been posting prolifically this afternoon
I don't want to be here
*cue lots of people telling me I should be grateful to have a job and that Dunno about the job, but you should be grateful you have an and that at all, young man  | |
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I think you should tell her how you feel, maybe go out with her everyonce in a while.
As Carrie said, we need girls night out sometimes, but all with in the boundries of respecting our partener, and vice versa | |
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rocknrollisalive said: p0pstar said:
you only came online to post that didn't you?
Nope... by my standards I have been posting prolifically this afternoon
I don't want to be here
*cue lots of people telling me I should be grateful to have a job and that 
yeah with your lack of brain cells not only should you be lucky to have a job but also that you can breath and stuff independently
I see you are REALLY working hard today
why bother going in? | |
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These situations are quite familiar to many of us I guess. You should always remember that being together is not about ownership, but I must admit I'm also having troubles keeping that in mind. Still, I think it's best to stay calm at the moment itself, and remembering and celebrating how you can have fun on your own.. Later on, sit down and try to talk about what's bothering you. Keep in mind to be honest yourself; does it bother you that she goes out twice a week or, or does it bother you that she's not being very direct about her plans? | |
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ella731 said: I think you should tell her how you feel, maybe go out with her everyonce in a while.
As Carrie said, we need girls night out sometimes, but all with in the boundries of respecting our partener, and vice versa
Ah ha ha ahem, sorry. As you were. | |
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CarrieMpls said: Fauxie said: Used to be once every two weeks. Now it's around once or twice a week. Her sister's staying here right now as she's having trouble with her husband. As she's going out more now, it's influencing my wife too. Her sister's not out with her tonight though, but she hasn't been the best influence an older sister could be, and that's totally out of character too. Even if it were once a month it'd bug me. It's not the going out, it's the sneakiness of it. I just don't want to have to go with her everywhere to make sure she won't end up going out. She was supposed to be meeting a friend for lunch and then picking up some groceries on the way home for dinner. So if she called and said, Hey honey, I'm out with the girls... won't be back till 2am so don't wait up. you'd be better with that? Yes, although I'd rather she told me that before she went out. I still think she's going out a little too often, but I've no problem with her going out dancing with her sister once a week. I think what also bothers me is that they always go to the same place. Sure, I used to go there a lot when I was first with her, but she's been going there for the last 7 or 8 and hardly ever goes anywhere else. It's a weird mix of western sports bar and Thai sleaze. It's ok, but in a city like Bangkok there are a million other interesting place to go. As I said, her sister is having problems in her relationship. Yesterday my brother in law called and seemed really down as he couldn't contact his wife. I offered to go over there to keep him company and my wife said she'd go out and look for her sister. In the end my brother in law decided he wanted to go to Khao San Road to find his wife so we set off in the car. His wife then called as we were on our way to say she was home but that my wife was still there. We were nearly there when we found out that she too had gone home. Ok, so it was only about 10pm, but I didn't think she needed to go out again tonight. Her friend was in Bkk until 8pm when she had to fly to Chiang Mai, but my wife has obviously stayed in the bar. | |
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Fauxie said: I'm so mildly upset right now. Sitting here in my bedroom, bored and alone, while my wife is out down Khao San Road partying away. She went out at lunchtime to meet a friend who's over from the US and is leaving for Chiang Mai tonight. She said she'd be back at 3 or 4pm.
She called me at 5pm and said she wanted to stay out later, but I told her I wanted her to come back before 6pm so that we could have dinner together and watch a DVD. She agreed, but here we are coming up to 9pm and she hasn't come back. I'm starting to hate Khao San Road and in particular bloody Gulliver's Traveller's Tavern. She'll come back around 2am after the bar closes and tomorrow she'll say she's sorry and vow to stop going out. I can't complain about her otherwise, but she has this one flaw that is so frustrating. She can set out with the best intentions, but she always ends up drinking with her friends and coming home late. Once she's in that bar she's powerless. I can't call her because we just canceled her contract and are in the process of changing it. I could have gone with her and we'd have come home together, but I don't particularly like her friend. I want her to be able to go and see her friends in the daytime without her ending up in some bar and staying out all night. What should I do? Sounds like you need to shut the fuck up and get a life outside of your marriage.
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p0pstar said: I see you are REALLY working hard today
why bother going in?  What a coincidence... I have found myself asking that very same question... | |
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Men get stick for staying out at the pub etc when their wives don't know where they are and not calling to say when they'll be back etc etc.
That is something I never do, and I can totally understand why it would piss my wife off if I did... So how come, when my wife does it and I get annoyed, it is me who is in the wrong again for being pissed off?  [Edited 6/20/05 7:11am] | |
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rocknrollisalive said: p0pstar said: I see you are REALLY working hard today
why bother going in? What a coincidence... I have found myself asking that very same question...
total waste of time if you ask me | |
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rocknrolldave said: Men get stick for staying out at the pub etc when their wives don't know where they are and not calling to say when they'll be back etc etc.
That is something I never do, and I can totally understand why it would piss my wife off if I did... So how come, when my wife does it and I get annoyed, it is me who is in the wrong again for being pissed off?
[Edited 6/20/05 7:11am] because you are a black country twat? | |
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p0pstar said: rocknrollisalive said: What a coincidence... I have found myself asking that very same question...
total waste of time if you ask me Simon, she's right. Let's just go to the pub right now | |
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p0pstar said: rocknrolldave said: Men get stick for staying out at the pub etc when their wives don't know where they are and not calling to say when they'll be back etc etc.
That is something I never do, and I can totally understand why it would piss my wife off if I did... So how come, when my wife does it and I get annoyed, it is me who is in the wrong again for being pissed off?
[Edited 6/20/05 7:11am] because you are a black country twat? i just love the level of serious debate on this site... | |
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If it dosen't happen often let her have her fun, you should have her make up for though, I'm thinking a really good "you've been a very naughty girl" session (the safe word is apple). Yes I am serious...
If you are really bothered by it, come w/a reasonable time for her to come home...no, not a curfew but an agreed upon time that you both will adhere to. You are married and that should be respected. If she is doing this all of the time...my freind you have a problem. Being in a committed relationship can become smothering at times and being "out" with her friends could be a way for her to feel fancy free. If you love and trust her let her "kick-it" on occasion. Women and men both need to get out and act silly sometimes, often as men, we don't think it is inappropriate for "our" woman to do such things but thay need their own space and freedom. Why do think at gatherings(of couples) you'll usally find all the women in one part of the house and all the men in another, you think men have nasty mouths...whoooweeee...trust me you don't want to be near their conversation. But it allows us all to speak freely amongst those who share the same perspective. I find it lonely being a loner | |
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rocknrolldave said: p0pstar said:
total waste of time if you ask me Simon, she's right. Let's just go to the pub right now Not yet... I have to pretend to work for another 2 hours... Patience, young David | |
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rocknrolldave said: p0pstar said:
total waste of time if you ask me Simon, she's right. Let's just go to the pub right now I love the way i get an invite | |
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rocknrolldave said: p0pstar said: because you are a black country twat? i just love the level of serious debate on this site... You're right... here we have a point which is already set in stone...we should move on to less clear cut issues  | |
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rocknrollisalive said: rocknrolldave said: Simon, she's right. Let's just go to the pub right now Not yet... I have to pretend to work for another 2 hours... Patience, young DavidSorry, Master Yoda   | |
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rocknrolldave said: p0pstar said: because you are a black country twat? i just love the level of serious debate on this site... I was serious you stupid twat | |
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Fauxie...just think how gigglie she is goona be when she get's back...could be an advantage for u... ....pillow fight and tickle party...
 
ps....I do see the serious side of this too | |
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rocknrolldave said: Men get stick for staying out at the pub etc when their wives don't know where they are and not calling to say when they'll be back etc etc.
That is something I never do, and I can totally understand why it would piss my wife off if I did... So how come, when my wife does it and I get annoyed, it is me who is in the wrong again for being pissed off?
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in my relationship, I may go out like once or twice a month, but I usually go with Chris, but then he knows when Im stressed and tells me he knows I need a night out, and watches the kid (s). There are times that the nights he plays out, and he stay s out to late he knows hes in trouble, and I will let him know, he usually has a good excuse. like since he doesnt drink sometimes he plays DD for everyone Its called communication, trust, and respect for each other  | |
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