I'm so mildly upset right now. Sitting here in my bedroom, bored and alone, while my wife is out down Khao San Road partying away. She went out at lunchtime to meet a friend who's over from the US and is leaving for Chiang Mai tonight. She said she'd be back at 3 or 4pm.

She called me at 5pm and said she wanted to stay out later, but I told her I wanted her to come back before 6pm so that we could have dinner together and watch a DVD. She agreed, but here we are coming up to 9pm and she hasn't come back. I'm starting to hate Khao San Road and in particular bloody Gulliver's Traveller's Tavern. She'll come back around 2am after the bar closes and tomorrow she'll say she's sorry and vow to stop going out.

I can't complain about her otherwise, but she has this one flaw that is so frustrating. She can set out with the best intentions, but she always ends up drinking with her friends and coming home late. Once she's in that bar she's powerless.

I can't call her because we just canceled her contract and are in the process of changing it.

I could have gone with her and we'd have come home together, but I don't particularly like her friend. I want her to be able to go and see her friends in the daytime without her ending up in some bar and staying out all night.

What should I do?

Cloudbuster said:

Is that out of 1 or 5?

Number23 said:

Is that a sausage sandwich in the making or turd on bread?

TheFrog said:

Is that a steaming pile of shit or a steaming pile of crap?

Fauxie said:

10.

Oh, and thanks guys!

Cloudbuster said:

Hell, why not 100?

hmmmm

divorce is working well for my husband



wives

How often does it happen? I can understand if this is a regular occurence (several times a week), it would be rather upsetting, but once in a while a girl just needs to go out and have some fun with her friends...

Hhmmm ....

Fauxie - is this a serious thread? ( it appears from other's responses that it is not ?

oh, and i should just sit down, watch a dvd and get wankered.

let her have her fun, make her feel guilty tomorrow, and then reap the rewards!

Fauxie said:

Well, first off, you should DIVORCE MY WIFE, cos that's exactly the same kinda shit she does


Once, after several missed calls to her mobile at around 11pm (being a caring sould I was worried when I couldn't get hold of her at night), she finally phoned me to say she was "just finishing her drink", and then she'd be home. At 1:30am I gave up waiting up and was woken at 2:30 am when she finally stumbled in.
Fair play, I have NEVER told her how to live her life or where to be or what time to come in etc etc , but it just takes two things:
1) Honesty - "Hey, it may be a late one, don't wait up..I may just be finishing THIS drink, but I have my eye on at least another five or six..."
2) Fairness when the shoe is on the other foot. Me: "I'm just going for a drink after work, won't be late" Her "..oh but I thought we were gonna spend some time together, I have hardly seen you lately, I miss you....Ohh..." and other emotional blackmail.






Bloody women



My 2nd wedding anniversary tomorrow, btw

PS

Fauxie said:

CarrieMpls said:

Used to be once every two weeks. Now it's around once or twice a week. Her sister's staying here right now as she's having trouble with her husband. As she's going out more now, it's influencing my wife too. Her sister's not out with her tonight though, but she hasn't been the best influence an older sister could be, and that's totally out of character too.

Even if it were once a month it'd bug me. It's not the going out, it's the sneakiness of it.

I just don't want to have to go with her everywhere to make sure she won't end up going out. She was supposed to be meeting a friend for lunch and then picking up some groceries on the way home for dinner.

Go gay.

rocknrolldave said:

p0pstar said:

posted post in wrong reply. Thick black country twat that I am



As you were
[Edited 6/20/05 6:58am]

rocknrolldave said:

Very similar situation. I don't want to control her, I just want good communication and honesty. Simply ask and agree on plans first instead of saying one thing and doing another in a sneaky way leaving me up late wondering when she'll get back.

And Froggy, I went straight down to the corner and picked up a couple of bottles of beer.

SpareSenik said:

Yes we are.

But still, read the thread and u'll see what I mean. It's not about a girls' night out once in a while.

rocknrolldave said:

cook your own tea or get your wifey to do it for you







ps not getting the whole pot kettle thingy here

I am really not gonna be celebrating another wedding anniversary

Fauxie said:

get so drunk you crap on her side of the bed!

rocknrolldave said:

You thick black country twat you

Fauxie said:

So if she called and said, Hey honey, I'm out with the girls... won't be back till 2am so don't wait up. you'd be better with that?

rocknrolldave said:

quoted and you edited far to late

TheFrog said:

Then make her suck it up thru a straw.

Then snog her.