Let's say you are married to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, and they die - would you re-marry?

I had this conversation with a few friends the other night and this topic came up.They seemed to be offended that my sister, brothers & I don't have a problem with my Dad re-marrying. I explained that it is hard for us to see him alone. He needs someone to spend the rest of his years with. Then came the part of the conversation when they said that they would never marry anyone else if their spouses died. I think they aren't being honest with themselves. Honestly I would marry someone else if the right person came along and if they really loved me.

What would you do?

Of cousre you can re-marry if your spouse dies. Nothing wrong with that.

Do your friends think you have to be alone your whole life if your partner dies? What a croc.

one can never say never ... i know this

for me... i would probably NOT remarry

but i respect the choices of those that would/do

Thats a question which each individual decides.


As for me, prolly not remarry if I had a spouse that died.

hell, my amish granny re-married after my grandpa died.

if a 70something year old lady in a prayer bonnet can get remarried, anyone can.

Maybe I wouldn't remarry, I dunno, but i sure as hell would be getting my thing on.

i think they would remarry. they aren't the types to be alone. i would respect them just the same if they didn't, but they sort of make it seem like their lives will end if it ever happens.

My dad died 7 years ago this August. He and my mom were both 60 at the time. A couple years later my mom found love with another person. She was really worried about telling me and my brothers and sister, but I was truly happy for her. She could live another 30 years or so, and I wouldn't expect her to live those years alone. I knwo she loved my dad, but she needs to be loved and happy for the rest of her life, too. She's still with this same person today yet but they haven't married yet. I keep waiting for the day they surprise us with some news, but it hasn't happened yet. I'm very happy for her.

My wife and I had a discussion about this kind of thing, too. Neither one of us would expect the other to not remarry if circumstances like these happened. Each other's happiness is what we're both concerned about, and if someone else can make us happy when the other is gone, then we're both for it.

Steadwood said:

god bless, stead.

TheFrog said:

It's Ok buddy..

It was some years ago...Thanks though...appreciated..

Yes, if I found the right person

TMPletz said:

same with my dad. he's been dating this lady for some time now but they haven't made any decisions yet.

Kayleigh said:

I can't imagine someone even near as good as the man I'm married to.

I'd certainly have loads of sex with other men. Marry? Who knows... but loads of sex.

I think that most marriages survive on the basis of compromise anyway, so there's no one person that's absolutely perfect for another.

If my partner died and I found somebody else that I felt I could live with, I'd consider remarrying. My partner has already told me he'd want me to remarry if something happened to him, and I feel the same.

We love one another enough to know that we don't want one another to be lonely.