retina said:

TwinkleBitch said:

I guess there isn't really any problem, except that there is another woman in my life whom I care about a great deal. We are not together and we have both clearly said that we shouldn't get jealous if we see other people. But there is an emotional connection there and it's messing with my head.

I've very rarely gotten access to carefree exciting sex like this, so it's an opportunity I don't want to miss. At the same time I am wondering why she's so extremely attracted to me and if she does this with others too. Plus it's the situation I mentioned above (the main problem).

AzurePanther said:

Oh and YOU'RE Beavis!

2the9s said:

At least i dont have an ass for a head





Wait does he actually have an ass for a head?
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charlottegelin said:

Hey Charlotte!

I like your comment. It's very insightful. I should just smile and go with it and not think so damn much.

That's what you're saying right? Please?

retina said:

Listen, just get her some Hooked on Phonics and have at it!


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retina said:

Damn, that's what I said in more words. Or should I say "in words."


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TwinkleBitch said:

fully three quarters of the way down this thread and this is the first on topic post.

GAPeach said:

I know. Sorry I didn't reply, I just thought you might change your opinion when you read my addition to the situation (i.e. my reply to twinklebitch). But I guess I've still got the org green light to continue this?

XxAxX said:

That's what happens when 2the9s is first to lay his filthy paws on a thread.

charlottegelin said:

TwinkleBitch said:

I see. And if you contine having this relationship...HER attraction might get more and more intense...and breaking it off...even if it's just for sex might be very hard for her to do. Then you got a not so nice stalker...who could even jeapordize your current relationship.

I think that you should stick to the gal you want the most...whomever that may be. But, I would go for the non-stalker one. She sounds a little more sane. Do you have a future with her? If you do, then that should be a no-brainer. If you don't do you feel that ms sex kitten is the girl you want or could be? Or are you not allowing yourself to get emotionally attached?

You DID get to sow your oats for a bit...so there is that. But you may be dancing with the devil under a pale moonlight It's a shame that the girl can't remain unattached to you. If you decide to break it off...sooner is better.

retina said:

Oh, I did miss that response! Guess that does kinda change things.

TwinkleBitch said:

Thanks for taking this seriously. Not many people are.

To answer your question about if I have a future with the other woman: No, I don't think so at this point. She is truly wonderful and has a very special place in my heart. We have had such good times together. But there are certain differences between us that make it difficult/impossible to have a relationship. I know that she has always feared getting into an unhappy relationship and I don't want to risk being the one that makes that happen.

I really don't want to hurt her by giving in any more to my attraction to the "sex kitten" (and yes, sex is the only thing I'm interested in when it comes to her), but at the same time we can't go on in a half/non-relationship where we are not committed to each other but can't see other people either. It's really, really difficult and it's also a sensitive time right now since I will be leaving the country relatively soon and don't want messed up feelings for either of us when I do leave.

What is the sensible thing to do here?

retina said:

Even though you're not 'committed' it sounds as if there are still feelings there, on both sides. How guilty will you feel? Answer that, decide if you can live with the guilt (if any) and there you go.

retina said:

i'd figure out how i really felt about each of the people in question and go with that. be honest and true to myself. maybe end things officially with the first one and then go for the second one. who sounds a bit weird. sounds tricky though. actually, i dunno what's best for you to do. beats me. i'm no expert at this. fascinating read, though. good luck to all three of you.

CarrieMpls said:

I most likely will feel guilty, but should I? We're not together and never have been. If this keeps going we'll both be stuck in relationship limbo. On the other hand, like I pointed out, the timing is bad and I do care a lot about her. It's bloody confusing.

Dude, I am going through this same thing right now. Freaks.

retina said:

It sounds bloody confusing!
For me, if I know I'd feel badly about it after, I wouldn't do it. Whether or not you should feel guilty is kinda hard to say. On paper it sounds alright (not committed, no future) but if you were truly convinced of these things you wouldn't really be having a dilemma. You haven't moved on from her yet. I think you got it right in that its just bad timing.

jerseykrs said:

Can you describe your situation briefly? How are you dealing with it?

retina said:

I am ignoring her mostly. And NO MORE sex. That is key man. If not, you reap what you sow, know what I mean.

CarrieMpls said:

You're right, I haven't moved on from her yet. And deep down I might not be 100% convinced of those things. But I really do feel that it's way more likely that we've made the right decision than the wrong one. So I feel like I should move on and grab opportunities like these that don't appear very often. I'm always the one caring too much and analyzing things too much. I go to great lengths to protect the feelings of others. Why can't I just get to have a little easy-going sex without betraying my own true nature? Everybody else is getting it on left and right without worrying too much. I don't wish I was any different than what I am. But sometimes being me makes things difficult.

do you have a pet rabbit in the garden?

retina said:

Not to me, no


And what the hell are you doing on-line posting stuff on the org?!?!?! GO AND GET YOUR DICK SUCKED MAN!!!!!







Half your luck, son, half your luck.....

Slash said:

Slash said:

IstenSzek said:

Actually, yes, I do.

I'm afraid to ask the "hows" and "whys" here.