My ex/current and I have been known to have great amounts of sex over the past year and a half, and yes, even when we've been seperated. A lot of it is to do with familiarity, I think.

He's recently just had sex with a California ho-bag on a trip to Chicago. We are not in a committed relationship, and I've been dating around, but it enrages me. I'm fairly certain I can't stand to touch the man's Jimmy now that it's been in the care of another female, which, for the last year and a half, the only female who'd had any part of it was me.



Fact is, I've had sex with other people besides him during this time we've not been exclusive, so it's extremely hypocritical. It seems okay for me to do it, but not N.

I'm not even on speaking terms with him over it.

When you have sex with you boyfriend, you also have sex with his ex, and her ex, and his ex, and her ex and so on...

So always wear condoms.

I figured that much out.

This is a serious subject. I'm completely the same way.

That's why I don't do open relationships. I'd love to be that noble to say I'd let them be free to do whatever, but I know better. It's not even about fucking to me, it's about the intimacy, the kissing, touching and sharing things I personally only would want to share with one special person.
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NSFW said:

Right on man. It's sad, because it is hypocritcal, but it is the truth. Emotions are so fucking useless, I wish I didn't have any.

jerseykrs said:

So, is it tainted meat? Should I never touch it again?

Nero said:

As much as I want to say yes, I can't.

Lust is a powerful emotion, and I find that it often wins out with me.

jerseykrs said:

So, thinking of his penis as being forever disgusting and untouchable isn't quite right?

It's silly, isn't it, because I know he had sex BEFORE me, and it's not like he's CHEATED on me.

I'm also annoyed because we were even on how many people we'd had sex with before this past weekend, and now he's surpassed me by one.

That's even more ridiculous, isn't it?

Nero said:

Depends on what you think of it. It's a bit silly to say it is because he probably had girls before you which you didn't have a problem with. Technically it's no different. Feelings suck!

NSFW said:

They are ridiculous, you are correct.

I know my ex should seem used and untouchable to me. For the most part it does. But I know damn well, if it came down to "let's go!" , I'm forgetting all that. Just for sex though. I don't want to deal with her when it comes to anything else. It's fucked up shit, I know.

Nero said:

It's not like he cheated on you, but deep down inside you wish you were special enough to him not to want anyone else ever again. Right?

NSFW said:

That's exactly it. And the entire relationship we have is so fucked up... We get along famously, and I just don't really understand it.

But yes, you pretty well hit the nail on the head. I asked him if it had been better than what the two of us usually have, and he said "no." So that makes me mad, cos it's like, it wasn't even worth it. Unless he was just being nice.

CONDOMS.

beret1022 said:

Well, obviously.

all meat is eventually tainted

his
yours
theirs

i dunno... how can ya say his is when you been shaggin too

if its an open relationship then that door swings both ways ...

ya know

Mach said:

I know. But it's not fair.

Nero said:

Mach said:

I would close the door, 'cept he won't.

Nero said:

ahhhh... now it makes alittle more sense ...

find a guy that wants closed doors then hun

So your both tainted?

Be careful what you commit to. It can hurt.

Mach said:

You find me one. Men suck.

Nero said:

naaaa all men dont suck ...just as many do as there are women that do though

Mach said:

Okay. Fair enough. N. sucks.

Nero said:

and there it is ....

Mach said:

Any way... If he were roundsteak, I guess he'd be that damned freezer-burned dark brown colour.

Nero said:

oh hell gurl

Mach said:

But I'm still cut like some prime rib or something.

Even though I did the same thing. DAMMIT.