Anxiety said:

Finally an honest response!

superspaceboy said:

what's the big damn deal?

people screw, ladies and gentlemen. that's all you need to know.

Anxiety said:

Finally an honest response!

Anxiety said:

I do think it happens more with gay men...or probably men in general than it does with women. At least men will own up to it more easily.

superspaceboy said:

i will agree with *A* reality that defines men as being more into promiscuity and women being more into attachment and intimacy. but i don't necessarily limit that theory to be *THE* reality. i've met too many exceptions on both sides, and lord knows i've been on both sides of that fence myself.

Anxiety said:

Agreed. And I think that even in these liberated times there's still a double standard. In many circles women who sleep around are still labled sluts/whores/what-have-you while it's still basically OK for a guy to do it. And that's sad.

superspaceboy said:

i will agree with *A* reality that defines men as being more into promiscuity and women being more into attachment and intimacy. but i don't necessarily limit that theory to be *THE* reality. i've met too many exceptions on both sides, and lord knows i've been on both sides of that fence myself.

Anxiety said:

Agreed. And I think that even in these liberated times there's still a double standard. In many circles women who sleep around are still labled sluts/whores/what-have-you while it's still basically OK for a guy to do it. And that's sad.

CarrieMpls said:

Except in the gay community...for some reason they are "sluts" and "whores" too.

CarrieMpls said:

yup, i think that's definitely true, but i do think that this double standard is finally - slowly - breaking down. though if a woman is promiscuous and not considered a "slut", then she's a ball-busting maneater. which, if i were a woman, i wouldn't mind being labelled as.

TwinkleBitch said:

yeah, but i think it takes on a different connotation in the gay community. i don't think there's as much stigma attached - it's kind of a teasey, jokey label.

And one night stands in the case of straight people are GOOD?
How else do you get offspring? You think people WANT to marry? No. People want to have sex. They do and then get knocked up and have to marry. Just the reason for so many divorces. But hey! We got offspring! Even MORE humans to devile the earth and hop around like locusts and fuck up the status quo.

AlienX2050 said:

yes I'm sure lol I've, um, never been with ANYONE actually let alone a one night stand

Natisse said:

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AlienX2050 said:

Never..

..and I dont consider them as *some* like I do it by the handful...

No and the idea of a one night stand disgusts me.
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superspaceboy said:

i will agree with *A* reality that defines men as being more into promiscuity and women being more into attachment and intimacy. but i don't necessarily limit that theory to be *THE* reality. i've met too many exceptions on both sides, and lord knows i've been on both sides of that fence myself.

JoeyMFinCoco said:

*ahem* JOEY me thinks your nose is growing

abierman said:

I think the question was if you ever had a one night stand and not remember the person's name in the morning. Sure if was poorly formulated, especially for a writer , but I think that's what he meant.

Ya'll can call me what you want to but I have...

I don't wanna count the times...

I think I'd be ashamed if I gave details...



I'd be ashamed if I spilled out particular places and with how many...



I'm not proud of this shit. I guess I'm sitting here in my office and wondering where my life has been.

I look at the women whom I've shared a bed. I look at the crazy stuff I've done.

I don't remember their names. And as I move on I wonder what the fuck was it for and what was I trying to prove.

I know one thing...I sure as hell know a few important things about relationships, sex and committment.

Shit, alot of these women were out for their own enjoyment just as I was..
...

AlienX2050 said:

Why be so hard on yourself? What's to be ashamed of. See that's what I don't get...I don't think it's a big deal. But to each his own. It's just sex and sex is NOT a big deal...certainly not as big as media/society tells you it is.

TwinkleBitch said:

Okay, I'm snapping out of that mode. I guess if you have done it enough, it becomes cold.

If you look at it as you do, I guess you're right. It's just sex. But I don't think I'm into the cold sex and cold people thing anymore.

Too be honest, I've seen more women do this than men.
...

AlienX2050 said:

Who said it had to be cold sex. SOme of the best sex I had was a one nighter. I didn't want it to be a one nighter...but he didn't want it to be anything more. I was pretty upset at his shallowness. He was 25 and I was 20. He seemed pretty mature...but now I look at it and we were both young and stupid. Funny, whenever I'd see him out and about...I'd definitely be on his "hit it" list, if he were on the prowl. I think I had sex with him a few times after that over the course of a few years (thus nulling the one night stand thing). And certainly I was always the one who'd decide if we would have sex. I never approched him...but I was the one in control.

TwinkleBitch said:

Have you ever had a one night stand and never talked to the person ever again?

Have you ever had a one night stand and never talked to the person ever again?

AlienX2050 said:

hell yes!