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MarieLouise said: LolaM said: Can I ask if your parents would have a problem with leaving you at the house if the parents were smoking pot while you were there???? You can. I never was in this situation as a kid, and my parents hardly know anything about drugs. They never smoked a cigarette, let alone a joint. So it's a guess. I did go to a house as a kid where the father was walking around naked. My parents found this a bit strange, and asked me to tell them if this was bothering me. I talked to the girl instead (I was ten at that time) and she asked her father to stop this. He did. As for the weed-question, I guess my parents would find this very weird, but they would leave it up to me to react in the first place. So many beautiful friends of me have fucked up parents, in one way or another. As do I, in a way that they were always fighting in front of other people. This is no drug, but certainly something that was embarrassing and harmful. I truly think your have the right to react as a mother, but you can't judge the kid for its parents. Children will be confronted with pot, sex, violence, cigarettes, alcohol no matter what. Sometimes these things pop up a bit earlier that you expected as a parent. You have the right to react as a parent, but it may not disturb the friendship between the kids. I think what I would try to do is to inform them the best I could. If my kid would feel uncomfortable I would try to talk with my kid and with the parents. But I do assume it is rather hard to discuss issues like that in a discrete manner. (btw this naked father totally flipped out when I explained to my friend what a blow-job was. I was ten, I knew what it was and she asked me about it. My parents supported me, her parents found me a freak ) It's all a question of where you put the stress. Thanks for being so honest. I was just wondering if they would worry about passive smoking and stuff thats all but since it didn't happen no worries. Oh by the way, someone's mother freaked out at me for explaining what a condom was. She wasn't impressed [Edited 5/17/05 7:58am] I'll leave graffiti where you've never been kissed | |
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MarieLouise said: You can. I never was in this situation as a kid, and my parents hardly know anything about drugs. They never smoked a cigarette, let alone a joint. So it's a guess. I did go to a house as a kid where the father was walking around naked. My parents found this a bit strange, and asked me to tell them if this was bothering me. I talked to the girl instead (I was ten at that time) and she asked her father to stop this. He did. . OH MY DEAR GOD IM BEGGING YOU NOW if its true that we only get the things we can handle in life.... PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE dont let this or anything else close to this happen to my babies for i fear that i would end up in jail for what i would do to that man - and i probably wouldnt do well in jail One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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muirdo said: tell them to move to Amsterdam.
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LolaM said: abierman said: But Carrie, I'm almost a hundred percent sure you've had a drink (also a DRUG) while being around kids.....I know I have! Abierman, do you think drugs (such as pot) and alcohol are in the same class?? This is not an attack just a question. first this: eventhough I grew up & live in Amsterdam, I do not smoke pot! Sure, when I was younger I experimented with it, just like almost every dutch kid has. Pot (or any other 'drug')just doesn't do it for me, it introverts me while I like being extravert. Fact is though that alcohol is a harder drug than the occasional reefer. Alcohol makes you lose control over your body. To me they are not the same, alcohol disorders you physically, pot makes you think slower but you stay clear in the head! But wait, I am not encouraging anyone to do either in front of kids. I prefer to have a drink, but the danger is just around the corner! And that danger is more dangerous than the occasional high from a joint! | |
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abierman said: LolaM said: Abierman, do you think drugs (such as pot) and alcohol are in the same class?? This is not an attack just a question. first this: eventhough I grew up & live in Amsterdam, I do not smoke pot! Sure, when I was younger I experimented with it, just like almost every dutch kid has. Pot (or any other 'drug')just doesn't do it for me, it introverts me while I like being extravert. Fact is though that alcohol is a harder drug than the occasional reefer. Alcohol makes you lose control over your body. To me they are not the same, alcohol disorders you physically, pot makes you think slower but you stay clear in the head! But wait, I am not encouraging anyone to do either in front of kids. I prefer to have a drink, but the danger is just around the corner! And that danger is more dangerous than the occasional high from a joint! I think you've never smoked enough pot. | |
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Exactly Ever heard of someone smoking so much pot that caused the person to die ? No ! Nor can it cause brain damage or loss of memory like alcohol can (Korsakov) (replying to Abierman) [Edited 5/17/05 8:09am] | |
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abierman said: LolaM said: Abierman, do you think drugs (such as pot) and alcohol are in the same class?? This is not an attack just a question. first this: eventhough I grew up & live in Amsterdam, I do not smoke pot! Sure, when I was younger I experimented with it, just like almost every dutch kid has. Pot (or any other 'drug')just doesn't do it for me, it introverts me while I like being extravert. Fact is though that alcohol is a harder drug than the occasional reefer. Alcohol makes you lose control over your body. To me they are not the same, alcohol disorders you physically, pot makes you think slower but you stay clear in the head! But wait, I am not encouraging anyone to do either in front of kids. I prefer to have a drink, but the danger is just around the corner! And that danger is more dangerous than the occasional high from a joint! see, thats what we BELIEVE when we smoke pot we think that it doesnt really change us much and that we are the 'same' just feeling better and more relaxed.... hell, i thought the same thing back in the day !! have you ever walked in on someone that was completely stoned and you werent high at all ??? have you looked in their eyes and realized that they just werent there ??? pot changes your mental state, theres no way to get around that - its just the truth. and if you are not clear upstairs, then you are not only thinking slower, your reaction time is slower, your physical ability is not the same, and your thinking is not the same. One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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JoeyMFinCoco said: I think you've never smoked enough pot. four years in boarding-school was more than enough..... | |
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nakedpianoplayer said: see, thats what we BELIEVE when we smoke pot we think that it doesnt really change us much and that we are the 'same' just feeling better and more relaxed.... hell, i thought the same thing back in the day !! have you ever walked in on someone that was completely stoned and you werent high at all ??? have you looked in their eyes and realized that they just werent there ??? pot changes your mental state, theres no way to get around that - its just the truth. and if you are not clear upstairs, then you are not only thinking slower, your reaction time is slower, your physical ability is not the same, and your thinking is not the same. I understand what you are saying and I agree to a certain extend....you shouldn't smoke pot when you mentally unstable or depressed. Believe me, I have enough experience to know. | |
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CarrieLee said: Um try not to take this the wrong way...but what the fuck do you care what this woman thinks? Or your child for that matter? You are the parent, you know that what's going on is wrong and YOU enforce the rules! When I was growing up if my mother said I wasn't doing something then I didn't do it! No questions asked! This woman obviously has no right being a parent or having other people's children in her house. She sees no problem with doing drugs while children are coming in and out so what do you care what she thinks?
And there you have it.. it seems You (the mother of the 7 year old) and the Pot smoking Momma both have the same problem. You both want to have your cake and eat it too. Pot smoking Momma can't spark up IN FRONT of you, upstair, (when the kiddies are downstairs), and then get pissed cause the little girl "exposed" her so called secret, she sure as hell didn't give a damn when she flicked her bic in front of you now did she....hmm And you want to enforce your personal rules & ethics, yet be popular in your 'hood... sorry but that aint gonna happen. Both of y'all need to act like grown ass women. Mean what you say and say what you mean. No need for cat fights, she likes to smoke you don't.. end of story. This isn't a passing judgement thing at all... It's a preference in the way you raise your kids. Now her getting all in a hissy fit 'cause she was exposed is bullshit, she must have took you to be another type of person (just like you thought she was all religious). Let that be a lesson to both of you about assumptions. She should THANK YOU that you are not the report to the police/DCF type of gal who could have put her ass in HOT water. You need to get to know someone before you expose you kids or personal habits to them. Let that be a lesson for us all.. I know it is for me, and if nothing else I THANK you for that!! Nammie [Edited 5/17/05 8:11am] | |
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abierman said: nakedpianoplayer said: see, thats what we BELIEVE when we smoke pot we think that it doesnt really change us much and that we are the 'same' just feeling better and more relaxed.... hell, i thought the same thing back in the day !! have you ever walked in on someone that was completely stoned and you werent high at all ??? have you looked in their eyes and realized that they just werent there ??? pot changes your mental state, theres no way to get around that - its just the truth. and if you are not clear upstairs, then you are not only thinking slower, your reaction time is slower, your physical ability is not the same, and your thinking is not the same. I understand what you are saying and I agree to a certain extend....you shouldn't smoke pot when you mentally unstable or depressed. Believe me, I have enough experience to know. well thats true too but thats what the feeling of being high is... its the altering of your brain. so, everytime you get high, you have the effects of that. One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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abierman said: nakedpianoplayer said: see, thats what we BELIEVE when we smoke pot we think that it doesnt really change us much and that we are the 'same' just feeling better and more relaxed.... hell, i thought the same thing back in the day !! have you ever walked in on someone that was completely stoned and you werent high at all ??? have you looked in their eyes and realized that they just werent there ??? pot changes your mental state, theres no way to get around that - its just the truth. and if you are not clear upstairs, then you are not only thinking slower, your reaction time is slower, your physical ability is not the same, and your thinking is not the same. I understand what you are saying and I agree to a certain extend....you shouldn't smoke pot when you mentally unstable or depressed. Believe me, I have enough experience to know. But that's exactly the reason why some people use drugs regularly. It's like self-medication. [Edited 5/17/05 8:12am] | |
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nammie said: CarrieLee said: Um try not to take this the wrong way...but what the fuck do you care what this woman thinks? Or your child for that matter? You are the parent, you know that what's going on is wrong and YOU enforce the rules! When I was growing up if my mother said I wasn't doing something then I didn't do it! No questions asked! This woman obviously has no right being a parent or having other people's children in her house. She sees no problem with doing drugs while children are coming in and out so what do you care what she thinks?
And there you have it.. it seems You (the mother of the 7 year old) and the Pot smoking Momma both have the same problem. You both want to have your cake and eat it too. Pot smoking Momma can't spark up IN FRONT of you, upstair, (when the kiddies are downstairs), and then get pissed cause the little girl "exposed" her so called secret, she sure as hell didn't give a damn when she flicked her bic in front of you now did she....hmm And you want to enforce your personal rules & ethics, yet be popular in your 'hood... sorry but that aint gonna happen. Both of y'all need to act like grown ass women. Mean what you say and say what you mean. No need for cat fights, she likes to smoke you don't.. end of story. This isn't a passing judgement thing at all... It's a preference in the way you raise your kids. Now her getting all in a hissy fit 'cause she was exposed is bullshit, she must have took you to be another type of person (just like you thought she was all religious). Let that be a lesson to both of you about assumptions. She should THANK YOU that you are not the report to the police/DCF type of gal who could have put her ass in HOT water. You need to get to know someone before you expose you kids or personal habits to them. Let that be a lesson for us all.. I know it is for me, and if nothing else I THANK you for that!! Nammie [Edited 5/17/05 8:11am] One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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@ d: To me they are not the same, alcohol disorders you physically, pot makes you think slower but you stay clear in the head! But wait, I am not encouraging anyone to do either in front of kids. The first bold are the magic words. Then you messed it up with the others I'm the complete opposite. I can drink 8 drinks and feel fine, I take two tokes and I'm completely insane! | |
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JoeyMFinCoco said: abierman said: I understand what you are saying and I agree to a certain extend....you shouldn't smoke pot when you mentally unstable or depressed. Believe me, I have enough experience to know. But that's exactly the reason why some people use drugs regularly. It's like self-medication. [Edited 5/17/05 8:12am] AMEN ! One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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nakedpianoplayer said: JoeyMFinCoco said: But that's exactly the reason why some people use drugs regularly. It's like self-medication. [Edited 5/17/05 8:12am] AMEN ! that's admitting you're weak. I know I'm stable, although I do stupid things as well, but I know my state of mind is healthy. I know people like me who use drugs regularly, they like the game of control. And it is possible. I am just not tempted. I can medicate myself without the help of drugs or alcohol. My .... | |
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abierman said: that's admitting you're weak. I know I'm stable, although I do stupid things as well, but I know my state of mind is healthy. I know people like me who use drugs regularly, they like the game of control. And it is possible. I am just not tempted. I can medicate myself without the help of drugs or alcohol. My .... I didn't say it's what I'm doing. Didn't say it was a smart thing to do either. | |
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JoeyMFinCoco said: abierman said: that's admitting you're weak. I know I'm stable, although I do stupid things as well, but I know my state of mind is healthy. I know people like me who use drugs regularly, they like the game of control. And it is possible. I am just not tempted. I can medicate myself without the help of drugs or alcohol. My .... I didn't say it's what I'm doing. Didn't say it was a smart thing to do either. I wasn't talkin about you, I was talking in general... | |
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abierman said: muirdo said: tell them to move to Amsterdam.
people without.....talk shit when they're not asked! well why put it on a message board fannybaws. [Edited 5/17/05 10:35am] Fuck the funk - it's time to ditch the worn-out Vegas horns fills, pick up the geee-tar and finally ROCK THE MUTHA-FUCKER!! He hinted at this on Chaos, now it's time to step up and fully DELIVER!!
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nakedpianoplayer said: well lovely... just lovely...
my daughter came home, went to go get her friend to play outside like i asked her to do last night.... 2 minutes later the freakin phone rings, its the neighbor and shes NOT pleased apparently, my lovely baby girl went over and informed her friend that she couldnt come over to her house anymore because they 'do drugs there'. shes nobody's fool she knew last night that what we were talking about with not being in houses that have drug use going on included her friend, so she felt it her JOB to tell the girl that. so, here we go, here i am trying to keep the peace between everyone... and she says to me, 'ummmm, bri was just here and told me she cant come to my house because i use drugs ??? i dont smoke IN FRONT of the kids - sure i may be smoking when they come in and i should put it out, sometimes i dont - but, its not like im DOING it in front of them' someone please explain that statement to me, and while youre at it, explain how the fuck i got in this shit to begin with !!! i TRUELY dont need these type of issues in my life That is because you neglected to have a conversation with that kids parents, and left the door wide open for your child to relay the message. Be the adult and have a mature conversation with the neighbors that make an impact on your childs development. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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DexMSR said: nakedpianoplayer said: well lovely... just lovely...
my daughter came home, went to go get her friend to play outside like i asked her to do last night.... 2 minutes later the freakin phone rings, its the neighbor and shes NOT pleased apparently, my lovely baby girl went over and informed her friend that she couldnt come over to her house anymore because they 'do drugs there'. shes nobody's fool she knew last night that what we were talking about with not being in houses that have drug use going on included her friend, so she felt it her JOB to tell the girl that. so, here we go, here i am trying to keep the peace between everyone... and she says to me, 'ummmm, bri was just here and told me she cant come to my house because i use drugs ??? i dont smoke IN FRONT of the kids - sure i may be smoking when they come in and i should put it out, sometimes i dont - but, its not like im DOING it in front of them' someone please explain that statement to me, and while youre at it, explain how the fuck i got in this shit to begin with !!! i TRUELY dont need these type of issues in my life That is because you neglected to have a conversation with that kids parents, and left the door wide open for your child to relay the message. Be the adult and have a mature conversation with the neighbors that make an impact on your childs development. i understand what youre saying, and i had planned to have the conversation... just wasnt sure how to word it, ya know ?? this all took place within 3-4 minutes of me getting home - so there was little opportunity to talk to anyone. i would like to discuss this with her, but based on last nights phone call.. shes pretty pissed with me right now, perhaps its best if i wait just a bit One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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ok, so you think smoking pot in front of your kids is wrong?
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AliG said: ok, so you think smoking pot in front of your kids is wrong?
How about drinking alcohol in front of kids? Do they ever see you drink wine, or beer or any other alcoholic drinks? i've addressed this several times on this thread. One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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AliG said: What if you lived somewhere where pot is legal. would it be ok then to smoke it in front of kids?
It's legal here in Holland (The Netherlands) I smoke pot , but i wouldn't smoke it in front of children [Edited 5/17/05 11:39am] | |
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The amount of times other parents have been pissed at me, either crap like this, where you just want your kid to stay away and they find out. Or then crap come up that can't even be imagined. But the bottom line is they are my kids and I decide what's right and wrong for them. Now I'm older than movies, Now I'm wiser than dreams, And I know who's there
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AliG said: What if you lived somewhere where pot is legal. would it be ok then to smoke it in front of kids?
THATS A GREAT QUESTION !!!! my answer, im gonna look like a real prude here my answer is still NO... i dont want my babies to think that it is ok to do PERIOD. pot is labeled a 'gateway' drug for a reason.... although i never experimented with any other drugs besides pot - and many dont - there is still the opportunity to crave a more serious high. lets face it, the way the world is today, there are so many pitfalls just waiting to suck your child in... i am trying my best to keep my kids on a road that is a little smoother. if i died tomorrow.. i just want my kids to remember that i loved them (thats first) but that i also expect the best from them.... that means KEEP YOUR ASS CLEAN AND DO WHAT I EXPECT OF YOU !! in my opinion, drugs lead to nothing good period ! now, do i think that my babies will never do it ?? hell no, im not that thick but its damn sure gonna be easier to control the issue if im not the one teaching them in the beginning that its ok. One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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nakedpianoplayer said: AliG said: ok, so you think smoking pot in front of your kids is wrong?
How about drinking alcohol in front of kids? Do they ever see you drink wine, or beer or any other alcoholic drinks? i've addressed this several times on this thread. someone who is high should not supervise children. Someone who is drunk should not supervise children. someone can have a drink and not so much as buzz. Very few people smoke just for the taste and enjoyment, and don't get at least a smal buzz off it Now I'm older than movies, Now I'm wiser than dreams, And I know who's there
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paintsprayer said: nakedpianoplayer said: i've addressed this several times on this thread. someone who is high should not supervise children. Someone who is drunk should not supervise children. someone can have a drink and not so much as buzz. Very few people smoke just for the taste and enjoyment, and don't get at least a smal buzz off it well said One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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