U can be like BUSH...grenade yesterday ...planes buzzin round the house today...
never know what he's thinking.

I just got one dropped on me yesterday when I got home. Basically my hard drive went caput. 2-3 years of work on it. As you all may or may not know, I create music on my computer. I have no idea how recently I backed up either. And I have a live show in a week and a half. I am pretty devastated. Trying to remain calm. Trying to keep it together.

I have looked into data recovery...and it is expensive like 1-3K to get it restored and it may not get restored completely. Right now my partner has taken it to work to see what the techies over there say or can do about it.

So, It's not the end of the world...and worst case scenario, we play a set. ANd try to recreate some of the songs or something. I can at least make a CD to sell at the gig.

Thinking the positive. hoping for a good even adequate outcome.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Staying focused on the positive definitely helps you to endure it. It takes strength to do that, sometimes everything you've got.

Lleena said:

The human mind is an incredibly strong and resilient thing. If we can tune-out the meaningless noise that surrounds us, we can focus on that which truly matters and you'll be amazed at what can be accomplished through self-discipline.

I have no words of wisodm of my own to add...the words on this thread have helped me immensely though!

s erryone...especially Anx

Ace said:

Yes it is. I've always wondered about how some people endure the most terrible circumstances and come out the other end with their spirit intact. It certainly is resilient.

When life drops a bomb on me, I try to stay as busy as possible so that I don't obsess. Even though I still am thinking about the issue, my mind is forced to think about other things, too, thus my "bomb" is being processed more subconsciously (to a certain extent). Often, I find I've come to some conclusions and achieved some peace/acceptance by the end of the day.....
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AnotherLoverToo said:

Staying busy is essential to not losing your everlovin mind



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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

I learned way back in school that it was five stages:

Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Despair
Acceptance

Odd that I still remember this almost 20 years later.

ummm... I always call Darin. Funny, but it's true. I tell him what's going on and then I usually need to be alone for a few hours to a few days and then I call him again once I've processed everything on my own. And he always knows what to do. Or at least listens to me.

Well, it used to happen to me alot from time to time.

But I've come to expect the worst from any situation.

Something changed my life a while back. I was home sick one day and just happenned to be watching Oprah.

On her show, one of her guests was this SEVERELY disfigured girl from (I think Venezuala or something like that). She was in a car accident a few years ago and she caught fire all over her body for 45 seconds, long enough for the fire to melt her nose, lips, all her hair, ends of her fingers, toes, ears, and other parts off . She lived, but is constantly in pain and has gone through over 45 reconstructive surgeries, and still looks only vaguely human. I mean, just the sight of this girl was unerving--very unsettling especially since the images of her prior to this car accident showed that she was a very beautiful girl. She looked, in my opinion, exactly like evanstar3 does. But now, all of that is gone. She is currently waiting on the U.S. to legalize facial transplants (a new technique where the face of a dead person can be transplanted on a burn victim--yes, it's true).

When asked what she hopes for, she said..and I quote, "to find true love".

It affected me very very deeply since even with all her trials and tribulations--even with ALL that was taken from her in a mere 45 seconds, she still had hope.

I face everything now with her in mind...always. It could be worse, and there is NOTHING you can not take steps to recover from.

CarrieMpls said:

I call Carrie, and talk my BF, and call Shawna, and call a few other people and orgnote/email some folks.

I'm all about the verbal processing party. The input from each person helps shed new light on whatever the situation may be. Then, after all that verbalizing I lay low for a bit and work through in my head what I wanna do.

Oh, I also like the cleaning party. When you can't control the world outside, you can AT LEAST control the space you live in

Anxiety said:

I've been there for the past month, so I feel for you

I pray.... a lot, talk to family and friends, sleep way more than I should.
I try to focus on what is is front of me this moment and I do not allow myself to think too far a head.

AsianBomb777 said:

And that is what I'm talking about When I look at my situation, I know I can get through it and that there are many more people in very much worse off situations. Counting my blessings, in spite of the shite

oh and I laugh! You need to find humor in even the sickest shit, you have to laugh or you'll lose all your marbles.

Anxiety said:

I know how u feel hun ...just take one day at a time and I agree with Sweeny ..try to find the humor in it somehow....if u don't laugh you'll cry

althom said:

you gotta wean yourself off that blue loo

Hang in there Anx...laughing and cleaning house, PERFECT...remembering that maybe there is a "reason for everything" ...simple words and certainly cliche, but works for me...when I am able to keep it in front of me. Wishing you the best...

I drop a bomb back in2 life!!

but don't tell anyonez!!