Hey all...
I dont normaly do this but honestly this is the one place right now that feels normaly and undramatic for me and a place where whomever I talk to isnt gonna start crying including myself.
I have an older sister whom I havent spoken to in 6 yrs because her fiance at the time wrote me out of her life along with everyone else in my mothers family. Just after Xmas we found out through one of my moms friends that my sister was due to have a baby in October so the baby would've been a couple months old.
As far as we knew my sister had not made any effort to inform anyone in our family of anything because she thinks that all her issues in her life were caused because she comes from a broken home...our mom and her dad were very young when they were married and she was born. She has always been a person who looks at love by how much you give her in the materialistic sense but wont accept love as it comes.
Monday night I was at work and I called one of my moms sisters to ask her something and she springs on me that she has been in contact and spent time with my nephew since October and that he was actually born in August. She has bought him presents and he has visited with her and was at her grandsons b-day party. She also tells me she has a bunch of pictures of him and that I should come and see them...which I did on Wed morning immediately after work. While I was with her my grandmother calls to tell her that my sister just left her place with the baby. The thing is, I now had to go and tell all this to my mother. What hurt me the most was not that they were seeing her but that they were keeping it a big secret. All the pain I had 6 yrs ago has come back like a ton of bricks and my mom hasnt stopped crying...and I dont know what to do. Im hurt and angry and sad all at the same time and I cant stop looking at the picture my aunt gave me of him and my sister. I dont know why my sister would make an effort to go see my aunt and my grandparents and not even give my mom a chance to see her grandson.
Sorry...just needed to vent.
Here is my nephew Alexander with my sister...he was born with a cleflip and this picture was taken before the surgery to correct it.

Vent all you need to. We're always here to listen.

I hope she comes to her senses at some point and lets all others in on her new bundle of joy. She looks very happy with him.

I dont know what to say..

your family should get together and talk and get everything out in the open...

not the same but...

my dad has a grandchild from his son from a first marraige he has never seen, I am an aunt and i will never see the child yet i know my dads sisters and my nan see's the child and my brothers (who i haven't seen from a child) the rest of the family are open and they talk about stuff and it hurts us all especially my dad although he hides it well, we all do.

family is complicated i don't want to go into the reasons here, just to let you know I've been there too

Have you tried calling her? Maybe she thinks after all this time it's too late to try and call you guys (thinking you'd be mad). I wish there were answers for everything!!

awww PT

the ways of the human mind are indeed strange...it is hard to figure out ourselves let alone another persons thought patterns

i cant explain why people choose to push others out of their lives nor who they choose to reconnect with

i dont know what else to say really ... cept

i wish you understanding and compassion

dont stop the tears hun ...

they heal

I have a nephew I have never seen, nor prolly ever will..

..its in the past.. until its in the present I gotta keep him away in the past..

REDBABY said:

Machaela said:

Thanx Its for his sake... I could go see him, but darent..

REDBABY said:

I do too. He is about 20, I think

girl i know its gotta be tough.... least she is letting some of the family in... it may take her some more time.... i know its hard when U want things to be right... day by day