If a man just wants to go to the clubs, then he is not ready to commit to a monogomous relationship. Ya cant have your cake and eat it too.

luv4u said:

Damn Right.

luv4u said:

I disagree Luv...there are several reasons why I go out alone, none of them is
to pick up any numbers either.
My wife has never been a club lovin' gal, never been a tailfeather shaker.
I, on the other hand, LOVE to dance, always have. I've always enjoyed loud music, nothing compares to the BUMP at a club.
She would rather stay home.
Sometimes I go out with my sister, who shares my same enthusiasm for music.
Other times with my friends. She knows that I go and dance with other women,
and she's cool with that.

MsLegs said:

missfee said:

No. This, to me, is a sign that they're looking for something "better".

missfee said:

Time to put your foot down.

Ace said:

Tell'em Ace. I've tried to school them but they wouldn't listen.

I just don't see straight guys going out to the club and dancing with each other! It's one thing for guy friends to get together at the pool hall for a couple of games of pool/darts and drink a few beers, but any group of guys going out to a night club are going to dance with strange women- women dressed like sluts (NOT that that's a bad thing) rubbing their asses on your man's crotch, rubbing their tits on your man's chest. And that's just not appropriate behavior for someone in a relationship.

CynthiasSocks said:

Exactly.

Hotlegs said:

You and I are on the same page!

I don't think that being in a relationship should change the way each person, male or female, and their social interactions that they had prior to the relationship, however, (I don't think that just made sense, but I know what I'm saying and am too lazy to go back and edit), I do feel that trust is a huge factor in this.

If, say, the male or female lied, cheated, etc... all of that stops. You need to regain the trust and you need to stop going out until the trust is gained back. Baby steps back into it.

But, really... if that was your life prior, and someone got into a relationship with someone that enjoyed that life prior to you, you can't expect them to stop completely. Each person, I think, in a relationship, needs their own time. Going out with friends without the other person - socializing. Otherwise, you grow bored with one another and feel caged in.

It's all about trust, in my opinion.

There is nothing wrong with enjoying the club and dancing and all- you just don't leave your girl/boy at home! There are exceptions to the rule.

Another rule: If you met your boyfriend/girlfriend in a club, you'll lose them in a club.

CynthiasSocks said:

That's Right.

CynthiasSocks said:

Ahhh... but don't you think your boy or girl should be able to go out without you?

Yeah... I think there's a lot to be said on the last part. Depends on the people, but, for the most part, that's pretty much dead on.

AzureStarr said:

He can go to the movies without me- but not to a club, oh HELL NO!
It's not that I don't trust my man- I don't want any other man getting friendly with my man! Don't be flirting and buying my man drinks!! :catfight:

Remove the Temptation!
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CynthiasSocks said:

Well, the temptation is always going to be out there. It's up to our men to resist!

CynthiasSocks said:

I ditto that here on this end.

AzureStarr said:

But you see those pesky bar flys love to brake your man down- it may take weeks, but once they have decided that they will have him (or her) they will!

Mine is a gay perspective, but I don't think it's so different for you heteros!

Hotlegs said:

CynthiasSocks said:

Yes and No. If you think about it, lust is lust and a fuck is a fuck. The differences between you and I are on who we sleep with and how we get off. Other than than, we totally agree each other.

Hotlegs said:

You are my new org sister!


Add orgBuddy edit
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CynthiasSocks said:

Please give me the address to these clubs!

bkw said:

CynthiasSocks said:

The feelings are mutual.

Yes or no depending on the person and their intentions. Of course, you may as well include married women in this.

If I went out clubbing it'd be fine. I don't go without my wife much though. I let her go out with female friends and that's fine. It's nice to have the place to myself sometimes and for her to go out and have some fun.

Fauxie said:

Thank you Fauxie. Very good response.

SomeoneElse said:

I agree.

I'm a married man. I go out sometimes without my wife. She goes out sometimes without me. I've never been in any situations I shouldn't have been in and my wife has no worries about me when I go out. I don't feel tempted or worry about cheating on her. If I felt tempted I wouldn't go out clubbing. The level of your happiness in your relationship is most important, it would seem. I am less likely to cheat on my wife for the fact that I love her and I'm happy. I guess you just need to be in a good, trusting relationship. That way there's no reason why you'd even wish to cheat even if you could get away with it. My intentions are good so there's no problem. A bit of space without your other half is a great thing sometimes.

AsianBomb777 said:

Thank you.

Fauxie said:

That said, if you were my org wife and you wanted to go out clubbing on the org without me, I'd have to say no.

Fauxie said:

Interesting response.