MarieLouise,
your situation brings up an interesting question.

I use what I call an "information of value" reference. before explaining that, I make it a point to be as honest & upfront with everyone as I can be; it's the right thing to do, & I certainly want people to treat me the same way.

there are certain pieces of information - depending of course on the person & the situation & the circumstances involved - that do not necessarily need to be revealed to someone.. even if this piece of information (or opinion) is considered to be "true" or "honest". Mach used a GOOD word in her post earlier in this thread-

DISCERNMENT

ideally we should tell the truth in every situation, even if sometimes it may "hurt" the recipient of this truth. however, if a certain truth or fact is going to do some type of harm to someone, do you really want to tell this truth to that person?

it becomes a question of
"do I want to relieve myself of this 'burden of truth' I am carrying, which will harm the other person"
or
"do I want to carry this burden of truth & keep that other person in a (more) positive place?"

if you genuinely believe that revealing a "painful" truth will benefit the other person, will help them to get to a better place.. then it's probably a good idea to reveal that truth.

if revealing that truth will send the other person into a destructive tailspin from which they may never recover, then you.. may not want to say that truth.


to bring this back to your specific situation MarieLouise :

everyone has their own preferences in a partner. me personally, I would not be in a relationship with someone who were that insecure. I would not want to debate myself so often on whether I should tell her something (or not) because she would be jealous or get bent out of shape or whatever. I would want to have the confidence of knowing that I could tell her something & yeah, she might react negatively for a MOMENT, but then we could discuss the matter, bring it to some sort of positive resolution & then we could get on with life.

since it seems that you are in this relationship for the "long haul"
you may want to think carefully before telling him something that will upset & destabilize him..
UNLESS
you are 1 of those people who likes & thrives on "drama" in their relationships, as telling him will certainly bring about a negative reaction & the resulting "back & forth" that takes place.



I would even be curious to know how this pans out, &/or how things are a month or so down the road..

Is there someone here who has the same problem as I have, namely being too honest?

I have a rather jealous boyfriend who freaks out on every boy that likes me, although he should know by now I will always be faithful to him.

My problem is that that I always want to tell him those small things that really don't matter that much. I know they will disturb him far too much, but still I feel like I can't hide anything...

...

Anyway, I told my boyfriend, because I felt I had to, and of course this has made the whole thing much worse, although he really shouldn't be scared.

Who has the same problem? Always telling everything? Or do you think you should always say everything?

I have a tendancy to be too honest and sometimes wish i had kept things to myself but it's not like me to keep things bottled up

I tend to just say what i feel and tell people anything they want to know and then deal with the consequences

believe me thinking back there are alot of things i think i should have kept to myself.