I'm kind of bewildered at this moment since I just received a
rather lengthy email from an ex of mine whom I dated about 3
years ago.

It was kindled when he apparantly saw me and a friend at the
movie theatre last week (although I did not see him).

He's been trying to keep touch on an off by the odd birthday
e-card and such but I've never responded to any of those.

So now comes this lengthy email complete with explanations
about the past and prospects for a possible future contact.

I'm still in modus over it.

Admitting, he was the most clever of the bunch and the one
who had his life on the tracks best. And since I've always
been a sucker for wickedly intelligent men (though hardly
ever meet them lol) the prospect of throwing each other some
hard mental nuts to crack ammuses me already.

However, there were reasons to break up in the first place.
Although he kind of explains in his email what caused all
of that to happen anyway.

He seems genuine and honest and just very keen on establising
some form of contact again.

What to do?

Would you? Or have you been in a similar situation before?

Nope never been in that situation but i think you should go ahead and stay in touch with him
The past is the past and maybe you gain a good friend

AndGodCreatedMe said:

well, he did write:

"things change, people change, and so have I"



i have to admit, looking back 3 years, I have
changed a tremendous amount as well. for one,
i would sincerely kick his ass if he tried to
mess with me again

IstenSzek said:

Well since you've grown and he did also, just give it a shot
maybe there's something waiting for you

Contact him AFTER the Invasion, so you have no qualms about kissing other guys.

Ahemmmm....

HamsterHuey said:

AndGodCreatedMe said:

I might have to recondider all the evidence; Isten is not attracted to me at all.

I mean; all the unused opportunities.

By having contact again, will it drag up old feelings or have u dealt with them
Deep down how would u feel having contact again, what is your gut instinct telling u, go with the first feeling u have, cause that ususally is the right one.
I'm still in contact with my ex, we are lucky, it was an amicable split and we get along brilliantly, however we will only remain friends, there is no chance of a reconcilliation.
Just think will u be ok with having contact with him if so then i say go for it, u will either gain a "new" friend or u could be lucky and it may turn into the most wonderful relationship 4 the both of u.
I wish u luck with ur decision and the outcome.
(hope all of the above makes sense to u )

HamsterHuey said:

well that could change coming weekend you know

HamsterHuey said:

I was already thinking about that I mean, there's no harm
in sending him a little mail to tell him we can have a drink in
about two weeks or so.
But for the invasion I want to be able to misbehave and not have
to feel bad after. Well, except for the unavoidable bruises from
rough animal sex

269 said:

it does make sense. and my first feeling was "hey, that sounds rather good"
so I guess I'll re-establish contact in a while.

IstenSzek said:

Do I have to prepare my husband abt somethings that could happen??

IstenSzek said:

have casual sex, hard & dirty!




yea, although it hardly ever happens.....not so familiar with the sex-with-your-ex thing.....In some cases I wouldn't mind though, but most of the times I fuck up severely , so it never happens!

AndGodCreatedMe said:

i'm not sure. i can't make any promises

abierman said:

i'll consider it.....

.....

.....

ok. that'll work for me

IstenSzek said:

shit, gay guys can get laid so much more easily.....(NO, I'm not considering!)

abierman said:

I question that

abierman said:

No one was asking anyways, so that works out brilliantly. Stop thinking ANYONE of the Org Gay Mob is after you. No one is.

End!

never had this happen most of my exs are greatful to be ex's

I think AGCM put it perfectly so long as you are both singing off the same hymm sheet



good luck

maybe this is where you luck changes or.....

He could be re-establishing contact cause secretly he was abducted by aliens and turned into a shape changeing monster and when he see's you for a drink he will morph into something really horrible like a toddler who will repeatly kick you and then the woman at the bar will give you attitude about the stupid bratt you bought into the bar and then she will get out a shot gun and threatenyou...


ok I think I'm getting a little silly now

Alcop0p said:

sounds like the kind of dates I go on regularly
so nothing I can't handle there

IstenSzek said:

ermmmm....

HamsterHuey said:

That is a shame. You two would make a very cute couple. And you're very intelligent...qualities he likes... I see what you mean.

It's happened to me. An ex contacted me after seven years and wanted to apologize for being such an ass to me (and he was...trust me). We exchanged emails for quite a while and when I suggested that we go to see a movie together that we might have both had cameos in (it was filmed at a concert we went to as a couple) he said yes and then stood me up.
So.....
He may just want to clear the air about things that happened between you. Be careful, honey!

SERENITY NOW edit
[Edited 4/23/05 9:37am]

Something to consider is maybe he never got over you...and has tried to keep in touch even though you haven't.

If you still have some feelings for him and are curious to see whats up and where he's at in life...You may want to start to establish a rekindling of the friendship. Once you are around him and hanging out, you'll know if he has changed.

Personally, I don't think people necessa change per se. They mature...hopefully getting rid of old habits and getting their shit together. But personalities usually stay the same. Like I said...you'll only know when you hang with him. Just keep in mind he has intentions. These intentions of his can certainly influence what you may or may not see with him.

Good luck.

applekisses said:

i LOVE your edit

IstenSzek said:

I thought it would work in this situation

IstenSzek said:

Well, people do change as they age. Some change for the better and some change for the worst.

But, if I were you, I would tell him that you'll give him another chance only if he will take some sexy, completly nude photos of himself (front and back) and send the pictures to pantegow@aol.com

klhk2booty said:

i think that'll scare him off for life

superspaceboy said:

I would never qualify myself as that, somehow. Maybe 'not dumb', or maybe 'not dumb all of the time'

HamsterHuey said:

Is "dumb" a metaphor for "horny"?