This being the last day of his vacation I planned to take my youngest to the car museum http://www.ohtm.org/

And then get hot dogs in town http://www.midcoastmaine.net/wasses/


I told him he could bring a friend. So he calls, explaines, and I get

"Is it ok if his mom comes too?"

I stifle whats going thru my mind- no his mom can't fucking come what the hell

and say "I thought it would be fun just for us to do together"

and a few minutes later "but can his mom come"

-"I thought it would be fun to take the Porsche and his mom wouldn't fit, I guess they could meet us there"

so finally he returns with "he doesn't really want to go, so how about I go over his house"

I tell him it's the last day of vacation and we were gonna do this. He could go over tomorrow while I'm at work.

So now our fun day out has become this enforced thing.

No more, my wife can plan this stuff from now on, I'll just chaufer

I've experienced that, too, with my son's friend. I didn't understand it. I don't invite myself when they call to ask my son to do something with them.

I've also had a parent call me and demand that I promise that my son and his son could play together over the summer. I kept saying, "I don't think I can promise, but I don't see a problem with them hanging out a bit during the summer." The father of this kid comes back with, "No, I need you to promise". WTF?

Your son will forget all about wanting to go to his friend's house when you get out there and do your thing!

Blueapples.

Don't give up. I get frustrated by things like this as well, and my husband says I'm "difficult" when I don't go along with "self-invites." But I look at it this way. There are times when I want to give my best to my kids, only my kids, not my kids and everyone else who decides they want to come along for the ride.

If that's being "difficult" so be it. Life is difficult sometimes.