TheFrog said:

You seem a little touchy today.. Maybe if you got a little sleep at night instead of parading your (over-priced) wares around soho into the early hours...?

RocknRollDave said:

nakedpianoplayer said:

Well I'm sorry but I kinda agree with fishbellyblack. I can't believe that people are so silly to have sex without protection. Girls need to learn to respect their body and look after their health. If you can't discuss contraception then you shouldn't be having sex!!!

Having said that you need to deal with the problem at hand. Do a pregnancy test (first thing in the morning is best) and go to a clinic to get tested for sexually transmitted diseases. After you get the results, you can decide what your next step is.
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is this a Dr. Phil thread???

PREDOMINANT said:

hey hun, great advice... i agree on all, except of course what i've highlighted for you. i wish you were here to see the look on the doctors face, i will never forget it... with my last child, brianna, i went in after feeling - well - like i was pregnant again. we did the pee stick test, it came back negative... i talked to him about how i was feeling and that i just KNEW i was and the test had to be wrong - so he said, ok, lets draw blood and i'll call you with the results tonight. so there i was, waiting on that call that i knew would be positive, he said, no - im sorry, you are not pregnant. so, 2 days later (im pretty sure i didnt go the next day - though i may have, im pretty hardheaded ) i went in and said.... look, i KNOW im pregnant, we have to do another test... he tells me...

ok - but, you know, blood tests are extremely accurate and they show the results within 72 hours of becomming pregnant so there is very little chance that you are .. blah, blah, blah.. i said, yup, lets do it again... so we did, and the pee stick said negative. so, im sitting in this office knowing damn well that this isnt true... and i requested another blood test JUST to be sure - he left the room, said, i'll be right back.. came back in about 4 or 5 minutes. when he came back i said, do all these pregnancy tests come back positive eventually ??? like, even if it showed up negative, does it ALWAYS go to positive after a few minutes ???? he said, what are you talking about ??? and when i showed him the test, there was an extremely faint cross sign on the test strip - he sat back, looked at me, and said, now i have NEVER seen this happen, youre right, lets draw blood. so we did, and he called that night with the results....


now i take care of those results everyday, her name is brianna kaye.... and YES it is TOTALLY possible for a woman to know shes pregnant before your 3 day window.. this i know to be true. and all the way through my pregnancy, he would mention the fact that i just kinda 'knew' and that being a younger doctor - this was his first year of practice - he promised me that he would always listen to the woman from then on... because, medicine is only science, its not perfect... but a woman knows her body


the rest of your statement i agree with 100%
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If he had no condom on of course semen got in her. Precum which doesn't have sperm but it can still carry disease. It is known for precum to have the highest level infection in it than the sperm itself. But i say yes he did cum in u a little if it was on your leg. Whe ni screwed girls i did same thing too but not after til i let some in first. Its just natural to keep the penis in while ejaculating the first 3 seconds,

saintsation said:

dude you are insane.

If you're in the US, go straight to a Planned Parenthood.
They will give you the answers you are looking for, are a trusted source in a comfortable environment and will not tell your parents you visited if you don't want them to. If you did not use any protection at all, you should also get emergency contraception (what's known as the morning after pill). The whole thing may seem scary, but you will feel a million times better once you do. They can also help prepare you for your future sex life, should you choose to have one at this point.

TheFrogSpawn said:

thank you i take that as a complement.

saintsation said:

U know, I did'nt use to wear a condom. I got a bashing on here too (and deserved it!). I would just cum on her chest (or face.....thats nasty)

Anyway I practise safe sex now.

thesexofit said:

Well i been with my ex for 2 and half years and never ever used a condom. Thats what i loved about it, i didn't have to use it.

thesexofit said:

Good on you. I remember being a bit upset about your stories. It's good that you've informed yourself.

And to you girl, don't worry too much. The chance you're pregnant is really very small. But pregancy is not the only thing to wonder about. It's a sad thing, but you've got to be careful. Although I know this is difficult in the heat of the moment... but still...

MarieLouise said:

U guys informed me. So big thanx. Iam surprised u remembered. I can't blame my growing up in shitty surroundings but my parents just never taught me anything.

So thanx to u and anyone else who told me to change.

lyecry said:

after my first time i worried until i got my period - not because there was a great chance that i would be pregnant just that's the kind of person i am. heck the last time i had sex i still worried until my period arrived.

however there is no longer a need for this kind of panic. it has been said before here but there are emergency contraceptives available.

canada & 'morning-after' pill

If taken within 72 hours of intercourse, the drug blocks pregnancy by preventing fertilized embryos from attaching to the uterine wall


for you, i hope that your first time was...

consentual
enjoyable
with a nice guy

and for all the other reasons besides pregnancy that i'm sure you now realize... i hope your next time will be...
protected!!!
so stock up on condoms since your at the pharmacy anyway

Not that this is relevant but my first time sucked. Peer pressure and booze mixed with dope made it a forgetable experience. What a waste. I hope lyecry had a better time then I did.

Thanks guys for your advice. As of right now I'm still sick and rested in the lounge in between my classes. Your advice has calmed me down a little.

To clear some things up:

1) Yes, there was protection but during the heat of things he slipped the condom off and when I noticed well the whole thing was kinda over.

2) No, Im not ready to have a child right now. My main goal is to finish college.

3)Yes, I am a religious person (not overeligious). And maybe it is the guilt I feel that making me sick.

But hopefully in a week I'll forgive myself and be back to eating solid foods again.

lyecry said:

is the dude still "seeing" you? you should give him hell for the ol' slippage move! it's not even funny really!

Shorty said:

I don't even feel like dealing with him right now.

Shorty said:

Well you right that is not funny for that. I used to do that sometimes too in the heat of the moment i would slip it off too and then afterwrds i used to hurry up and pu it back on like i was using it. Thats when i was a teenager to early 20's. I am almost 29 so i don't do that.

Like everyone else said... take it easy and wait a few weeks and take the test, or to be sure, if you're comfortable with it, get the morning after pill.

Since he wasn't wearing a condom, you could very well be pregnant, I mean, in all honestly there's a chance that you could have gotten pregnant, but it's highly unlikely that you'd be feeling sick if you were to be, since you only had sex yesterday.

I'm sorry your first time turned out like it did. And, a huge shame on him for doing such a shitty thing.

Byron said:

Yep.

saintsation said:

That's just horrible! I really didn't know that guys would sneak those off. I mean, getting pregnant over it would be bad, but you're putting your partner at risk of an STD (or yourself) and betraying the trust of the other person is just a shitty, shitty thing to do.

That's just scary. I'm glad you don't do that anymore!



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Wow,
people will talk about ANYTHING on this board.

lyecry said:

It seems like your having regrets. Love leaves you happy, not scared. I hope its was love making not just sex, and you didn't feel pressured. Do talk to your partner, and let him know how you feel. That's the best thing you can do right now.

AzureStarr said:

I didn't know either.

lyecry said:

Doesn't sound like he did that in the heat of the moment. Sounds to me like it was a very calculated move and I wouldn't be surprised if you're not the first one he did that with. That's a seriously fucked up thing to do and should be illegal as far as I'm concerned. Sounds to me like it stopped being consensual sex when he took it off without your knowledge and therefore approval.

analbolique said:

Agreed, agreed, agreed. That is a SERIOUSLY fucked up thing to do. God, how awful.

CarrieMpls said:

TOTALLY AGREE !!!!!

I can't believe that he slipped it off without telling you!! I think its probably the best thing if you don't have sex with this person again, I mean, how could you trust him. I'm really sorry that this happened to you. Even though people are telling you that its very unlikely that you got pregnant, please do a pregnancy test and get tested for STI's!! If he has done this kind of thing with you then he will probably have done it with others.

I went to get tested for STI's when I started going out with someone, I really cared about this person and even though I knew I had always been careful, its nice to get the all clear from a doctor. Its really not that bad to get the test done, its not painful at all and will put your mind at rest.

All the best with everything, hope your next time is a much better experience for you and with someone who you can trust. Take care

fishbellyblack said:

Yes, that's the lesson to be drawn from this, but first things first.