Excuse me for being nieve

Yesterday, I had sex for the first time. To make a long story short. He didn't cum in me but some got on my leg. But today i feel sick and keep nothing down...could I be...? I know i'm probably freaking out about nothing but..this is new for me...gee I feel like a 15yr old.

Post-coital nervousness syndrome.

Um, highly unlikely...and usually pregnancy and its effects take longer than 1 day to make themselves known.

Byron said:

I've figured that...but somehow being me I still freaked out...I'm still nervous

lyecry said:

Then do what you need to do in order to get peace of mind.

alright

lyecry said:

seriously, it's most likely nothing. stressing yourself out only makes your body react badly, so relax, okay?

hoping that you are feeling better now
nowwwww
why wasn't he wearing a condom ?

fishbellyblack said:

Is that something which really matters at this point?

ok, first of all, its highly unlikely .... however, the female body is such that if you get it all confused, or worked up about "am i ?", then it will start to give you false signals that you are .... further working you up into the "am i ?" terror

ON THE FLIP SIDE... if you are really in tune, and you know your body well, it IS TOTALLY possible to know right away that you are pregnant. i knew every single time i was before the doctor could confirm, thats by blood or urine... he said, this is amazing - blood tests show positive after 72 hours, how did you know ?? i said, i dont know really, i just DO

the give it all away clue for me each and EVERY time was my boobs... i would go to lay down across the bed, or give my man a hug, and my chest hurt like hell. it was always my first sign and that always started for me within like 24-48 hours.... as far as keeping things down ?? i only had one case of morning sickness, and that was with my last child.. so, im not the one to ask about that.

wait a few more days, dont get worked up about it, if you are, you are.. if you arent you arent, worrying wont fix the problem either way relax, and hope for the best


OHHHHH one more note, if you get a test at the docs, and it comes back negative... and the symptoms dont go away - GO BACK !!!! thats how i ended up with the first child i gave up for adoption. i thought i was, guess i was to early pregnant to know, they said i wasnt... i thought, well i must be trippin walked out, tried to forget all about it, and the symptoms, AND the fact that i shoulda been having a period... when i finally DID find out, i was 5 and 1/2 months pregnant so, take charge of your body. you know you better than anyone

and congrats on the first time

analbolique said:

ofcourse it matters, for one he wouldn't have come on her leg

fishbellyblack said:

Right, but how does answering why he didn't wear one solve anything at this point? Do you think it will stop her from feeling sick?

analbolique said:

exactly, its a bit late for all that kinda talk...

just relax, let your body tell you what to do next

analbolique said:

do u think what u said will stop her from feeling sick ?

fact is she made a decision to have sex
poor judgement, naivety or for what ever reason
they never used protection
i feel that is the lesson to learn here
if anything her feeling sick is a good thing
she made a mistake, i hope she learns from it ...

fishbellyblack said:

way to be supportive

you sound like a LOVELY person

nakedpianoplayer said:

ok if you say so

fishbellyblack said:

She's the only one who knows what will give her peace of mind. Maybe she's worried about a possible pregnancy, maybe it's an STD or perhaps the relationship with the guy and how to take it from here. I don't know what's really bothering her. Perhaps all she needs is a good talk with this guy or a friend.

As far as saying she made a mistake, that's assuming way too many things none of us know. From the info she has given this could have been a long-term boyfriend she had unprotected sex with. Let's not act like it's a sin to do that. It happened and next time she needs to be more prepared if she doesn't want children at this point which I'm sure she realizes now. What good will it do for you to know why they didn't use a condom? Satisfy your curiosity?

analbolique said:

i see what you are getting at
but i wasn't asking her to give me a reason why she didn't use a condom
i was questioning her judgement on not using one

there is a difference ...

give the poor girl a break.

i agree with many others here. If you need the peace of mind, then do what you have to do sweetie.

TheFrog said:

arm or leg ?

fishbellyblack said:

maybe just a little finger.

TheFrog said:

ok got to blow my cover now i only came on to delete this account


firstly relax

secondly don't wait a few days, Go now to see a doctor or contraceptive clinic where you can talk to a nurse about what happens next....

i don't know where you are or your religious views ehtical problems but if you are not ready for a child you can always take the emergency contraceptive pill at this stage which is much better than waiting a few days, weeks and then the ways to not be a mother are much more traumatic.



try not to worry but i really do urge you get to a clinic to talk through your options i know in the uk we have some good places who given your circumstances give great practical advice, information and support



hope you are ok.

brummytwat said:

hey you.

TheFrog said:

brummytwat said:

won't you please stay?

Hey lyecry,

It is quite difficult to give advice on an org thread but I will do my best.

It is probably easy to recommend going to speak to a family planning clinic (planned parenthood in the U.S. I think) first of all. They will be able to chat to you properly and put your mind at rest. I will do my best here as well.

If you have regular 28 day cycles and were on any other day than 11-16 you should be fine. Even if you were in this window the chance of pregnancy is slim; especially as he withdrew.

Also consider his sexual history, pregnancy is not the only thing prevented by condoms, and discuss this with the clinic also.

Your sickness is due to your nervousness so please try not to worry. You have just had a great experience and you should be enjoying it not worrying about mightbees and whatifs. Despite what others might say it is impossible for any physical symptoms before about 3 days.

On a lighter note:

Sperm are great swimmers but I don't think there is a reported case of any making it to the tubes from the thigh!

TheFrog said:

Or a toe....?

RocknRollDave said:

lyecry said: