Is something wrong with me. Most people have that one friend. Someone they can always call up and tell their personal stuff too. I don't have any friends. My daily routine is to go to class and come home and stay on the computer for seven hours if I have a day off 10 hours. Is this normal? Am I a loner, that's what someone told me, in a nice way.

Awwwww. YOU CAN BE MY FRIEND !

there is NOTHING wrong with u hun...i totally understand...the only person that i can talk 2 is my sister and she's always busy....

my closest friend -- who knows me pretty damn well -- lives all the way in cali

you're not alone tho especially here on the org...

i lead the same life..school home pc...sleep..
and u kno what, sometimes being a "loner" is a positive thing
it was 4 me...thats how i discovered art and poetry...

variety1317 said:

REAL friends, not the one's online

but thanks,

unlucky7 said:

dont fills bad i am a loner 2 and i dont have no friends it hard 2 trust people and telling them things u dont what others 2 know ....it gets pretty sad and lonly...2 not have people u can hag out with ....

Friends happen when they're supposed to. Some people are so uncomfortable with their own company and so desperate for other people around, that they're willing to tolerate people that they don't have a whole lot in common with and who aren't really good folks to have around. Other people can hang on until the right folks show up on the scene, and have an easier time being by themselves until those folks show up. Maybe you're one of those people.

Anxiety said:

I like that, I hope so...I don't like "Friends" that much but I want a group of friends like that or like on "Seinfeld"

unlucky7 said:

i feel bad 4 u!

most ppl have friends, even if it's just one.
Well, I will be your friend. Do you like perverted women who speak thier minds? if so ornote me, we might can be good buds and surf the net and make arts and crafts and laugh and talk about Prince's booty, and go whoring together! U never know!

orgnote me!
[Edited 4/20/05 22:27pm]

Maybe you should start by changing your username!

It's pessimistic sounding!

2the9s said:

Don't listen to him!!!!!

I don't think anyone was more of a loner than I was...I tend to think it's just something you grow out of (or perhaps, finding comfort in who you are and allowing your social circle to be effected by that discovery is something you grow in to...)...

If nothing else...just continue to put yourself in situations where friendships/discoveries can be made...and continue to know and understand who you are internally, without judgement or fear.

Aloneness can be a beautiful thing.

Much art and philosophy can only be created by solitary creatures.

One of my favorite thinkers, John Stuart Mill, believed the very presence of other humans could distract the reflective mind from much needed introspection .. . and that the most civilized societies are those who respect solitude and privacy.

I go buggy if I'm around people too long.

Take great comfort in your predicament.

But be sure your tendency to solitude is an outgrowth of your nature.

If it's a result of extreme shyness or fear of meeting others, then don't be trapped by that ... join a club or social cause focused on something close to your heart. Don't be bound by fear.

But if your comfortable and at peace, cheers!

SynthiaRose said:

Beautifully said...

Byron said

Thanks, Byron.

Sometimes cliques seem so exuberant in there camaraderie that it can be tough for a loner to bear.

But, to be honest, I've been in the midst of that and, as a loner, I'm still just as alone when I'm in a phase where I have a group of friends.

I mean really ... there's joking, superficial chatter ... tv watching ... it's not really all that exciting. It's an illusion.

All I really need -- every now and then -- is a passing soul mate -- someone as strange and introverted as myself who passes by and shares some intense experiences with me.

I can live off that for a while, years even. I'm intense like that. Which is good, cause soul mates are RARE!

I may never get another one.

But scary as that is, I'm kewl with that.

Unlucky7, just wait till the next Celebration rolls around (please let Prince have another one! ). I'm sure you'll find some kindred spirits then

SynthiaRose said:

Again...so beautifully said. I couldn't agree more...

hiya sweetie.

nowt wrong with finding your own path by yourself, honey. friends will come anyway.

and anyhoo, you can always call me up and chat

Lil'Miss, don't get down!

I have a lot of good friends but I often feel like I lived on the North Pole alone and the last polar bear is a thousand miles away from me too...

At the risk of going on and on here, I can't help replying. I'm in a situation where I have no REAL friends. There are those who consider themselves friends of mine because they've known me 4 so long, but when it comes down 2 having someone commit 2 actually doing something with me, it's a joke.

Last year when I got tickets 4 one of Prince's Musicology shows, I asked one of my "friends" 2 months ahead of time if he wanted 2 go. He said he would talk 2 his boss and see if he could get the day off. As time passed, he continued 2 blow off what he said he would do, and I wasn't getting any response from him. A few days before the concert, he finally decided 2 ask his boss and by then it was 2 late because he couldn't get the day off then. Meanwhile I had asked another "friend" if she wanted 2 go, and she said she would send me the money. I never got it, and she kept putting me off. I ended up going with someone here at work that I barely know.

In general, I don't even bother going out anymore or calling anyone 2 see if they want 2 go out, because I simply cannot trust people anymore. No one seems 2 have time 4 me, so why should I waste mine?

I do wish I had just one friend I could talk 2 about anything - one friend that's not occupied with more important people all the time. But until then, I stay out of situations that only make me feel like more of a "loner" than I already seem 2 be.

paisley2002 said:

That's too bad. I hope you have some brothers and sisters you can rely on.

I'd recommend you join a church.

I myself am independently spiritual and somewhat agnostic ...BUT when I practiced Christianity in college, I met a lot of good, noble people at Bible study, prayer service and other events. (You won't meet too many at Sunday service. That's a busy time and not good for socializing unless you already know people).

SynthiaRose said:

ummmm,somthing like that or right on thanks, beautiful comment
Thanks everyone else...every single one of you