TheFrogSpawn said:

not half as surprised as i am !!! lol but seriously she needs to ditch this character and and get a man who's on the same wavelengh !!!

nakedpianoplayer said:

lmfao! hell yea spank my ass and call me bitch. It's gotta be all about that type of shit. Hair pulling just before the orgasm real can intensfy things up a bit. If the problem is he just comes to quick youd be better of just working your stick... YOU JUST CUM TO QUICK ID RATHER WORK MY STICK get a little satifaction hahaha great song. Anyways..
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danielboon said:

Co-sign!!

It seems like you already know te answer.
He sounds like a very nice person. a good guy, but it's obviousl not what you're looking for, since you said, and I quote "i mean, if i gotta get myself off, what the fuck am i doing with him to begin with ?" meaning you don't really need a nice guy around, you just need sex. If he's nice, that's extra.
At least that's how I interpret what you said.

So, as nice as he is, it's not what you're after. so move on, so you can find the right one for you, and also, so he could go and find someone who DOES want him the way he is, and not waste his time with someone who will just drag this thing for a while and then dump him.
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SomeoneElse said:

AnotherLoverToo said:

Hello redhead

SomeoneElse said:

listen... its not ALLLLL about the sex, and as i have also said, we have a great time together, we laugh, we have fun !!!! however, sex is an important part of a relationship, i dont understand why thats so hard for folks to understand ?? is there really a group of people out there that would date and not have sex ???? i mean, unless there is a physical problem, you know... well than thats different.

but, all im saying is... hes GOT to last longer, how can i make that happen ?? cuz, i'm hungry for some really downhome mindblowing sex, you know, same as someone else might be hungry for some homemade icecream ???? i have a craving, and it needs to be filled

Nekky, have I told you lately that I love you sweetie?



All I'd have to say to this is tell him what you need, but remember that sex is a give and take. His wants and needs are important to. In the end, the goal is that you both got yours.

nakedpianoplayer said:

If you can't accept other people's opnion, then why ask for advice?

Nobody here said that sex is not important.
What I was saying is that it seems like you don't match sexually, so instead of wasting both of your time, when you already know you're not sexually compativle, do both of you a favor and move on, so you can start looking for a better match. Right now, from what you're telling us, it seems like maybe he doesn't understand how big of a problem it is, and thinks that everything is good. That maybe there's a future. So instead of wasting his time, set him free to find someone who will be more compatible with him. Mentally, physically and sexuallly.
Or, try and solve the problem, by first of all, make him more aware that there is a problem, and how important that problem is for you, and try together to find a solution.

SomeoneElse said:

well, that sounds like good advice and i will try to talk about it with him.. i just didnt want you guys to think that sex was the only thing i was looking for... its just that when thats messed up, its hard to see that things have a potential for lasting, thats all....

Nothinbutjoy said:

and sweetie, have i told you that i love you lately ???? youre a doll, you have always SOMEHOW been able to understand me and i thank you for accepting my silly ways and still seeing that im an alright gal

much love to ya sugar

Seriously, if the sex is bad don't waste your time on him.

nakedpianoplayer said:

Most of us love sex, you're not alone. For some people it means more in a relationship than for others, but still has a meaning.
BTW, I think I could probably be in a relationship with no sex. I guess it's because I'm not equipped well enough to satisfy a woman. Then again, that's where my tongue comes in handy

Sweeny79 said:

youre such a sweetie

i love the folks here that understand me

have a FANTASTIC day doll

nakedpianoplayer said:

The way I see it.... sex is the glue that holds a relationship together, if that is not what it's supposed to be everything else will fall apart.


You have a fantastic day too sweets

SomeoneElse said:

see, there ya go we're not talking size issues here at all its lasting power that im after and yes, that tongue comes in VERY handy

Sweeny79 said:

No offense, but I can't tell you how much I disagree with that statement. I'm wondering Do you mean that statement to apply across the board: that no matter why the sexual aspect may falter in a particular case that the relationship will fall apart? or do you mean it to apply more so to casual relationships vs serious, committed situations?

Sex IS important and an important part of a relationship but shit, what if it is not something feasible for someone for some time (years, or even indefinitely), for whatever reason?

I have a female friend who due to physical reasons was unable for YEARS and YEARS to be sexually active. Physically, mentally and hormonally she just couldn't. Her husband stuck by her anyway, all that time, because they have such a bond and he cares for her beyond the sex...as a WHOLE person. She felt terrible that her situation affected him sexually that way and told him if he felt that the loss of a sexual life was too much for him to handle and if he wanted to leave her she understood, but he chose to stay with her and said that his love for her was greater than that.

OTOH, I've also seen women whose husbands or boyfriends dumped them flat due to the same type of situation because their desire for sex just far outweighed what they felt for their wife/girlfriend as a whole person. It's heartbreaking to see these woman get tossed aside like that as if a working vagina is the dealbreaker.

Again it's NOT that I don't realize how important sex is to a relationship or that it doesn't play a really integral part, especially so for some and especially for younger folks, because I totally understand that. But I have a hard time wrapping my brain around the theory that sex is the "glue" that holds an entire relationship together and without that the relationship will fall apart.

Bodies get sick and certain parts don't work as they should, people age, accidents happen, etc....love, and compatible minds and souls that can relate to one another beyond the physical, to me, are the glue that holds a *real* relationship together and hopefully a relationship has more depth to it past a working penis or vagina.
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You know what I'm wondering, where Kay is throughout this WHOLE thread.....









And NPP, I hope all goes well for you. If you don't feel that you aren't getting the satisfaction you sould be getting in the SEXUAL department or any other department for that matter, then why put yourself and him through all the shit? How come you just haven't told him, "if you can't control the shit, then I'll find someone who will and you can get to steppin'"? I woulda done that a LOOOONG ass time ago. Hun, I hope you find the RIGHT person for yourself in all ways neccessary. You DON'T need to be going through all this bullshit. If he can't serve you right, then drop his ass on his head and walk away Much love to you sweetie, peace







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KaleidoscopeEyes said:

hey, just to keep myself clear here, i did say somewhere on here that its different if there was a physical problem....like, lets say with Christopher Reeve, that was a strong relationship to begin with... and after the accident, sex would have never been the same. in THAT kind of situation, its shallow, rude, horribly insensitive, and WRONG to leave your partner !!

i was and i can only assume that folks on this thread were talking about normal relationships - and what it means to have difficulties in matching up sexually.

just needed to be clear on that point...

Tish4 said:

i gotta ask..... whos kay ???

and the rest of the comment you made right on sweetie

nakedpianoplayer said:

Kay= Klhk



and I'm sorry, but that "drop him on his head" shit had me dying laughing! But seriously, hope everything goes well

Tish4 said:

ahhhhh klhk i understand now ....

thanks for the good wishes i'll let you know how things work out