twistedlemon said:

give up. ya know sometimes ultimately women know the answers to their own dilemmas, they just want someone to convince them they're wrong in these situations.

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give up. ya know sometimes ultimately women know the answers to their own dilemmas, they just want someone to convince them they're wrong in these situations.[/quote]


I guess so his friend told me he still likes me but he is too shy and hes scared. I just ...if he only knew the feelings I have for him. But then again I think maybe he doesnt give a rats ass. And I made it clear that I don't go kissing any boys for no reason. And with him it felt right...and now its like he doesnt want to even come near me. AND i know im not a bad kisser and my breath was minty fresh...

twistedlemon said:

your highjacking my thread can we concentrate on me people??!?!?! LOL
[Edited 4/16/05 17:38pm]

DenverMoon said:

SORRY JSUT MEANT TO SAY I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOIN THROUGH...AND IT SUCKS

twistedlemon said:

n/p... The guy I'm talking about flirted with me like crazy too. and of course I flirted back like crazy! He knows how I feel, people have told him, I have confronted him, but he says NOTHING..... but he still is very friendly towards me and he treats me like we are good friends and he is not friends with girls you know, he's shy and keeps to himself he is only friends with guys, but with me he is different. I'm so confused....

DenverMoon said:

well why don't you just step to him and just ask him whats up?

brownsugar said:

I think I have been too aggressive already.

DenverMoon said:

well if he doesn't get it maybe he doesn't want to and you should chalk it up as a loss and see other people

brownsugar said:

I think your right. It's HIS loss. Thank you

DenverMoon said:

it'll be okay...trust me

DenverMoon said:

I wonder if we have a crush on the same guy lolol

DenverMoon said:

If he's noticeably avoiding the issue, he may just be subtly trying to tell you he's not ready for anything like that right now. If you keep pressing the issue until he get's mad and has to be very blunt with you, its gonna make him seem mean.

Try putting some space between you and him for a while. Get on with your life and you never know it might be the kickstart he needs to get his ass in gear. If he's playing mind games with you, then return the favour

LolaM said:

Women play mind games, men don't.

analbolique said:

Bullshit!!!

CarrieMpls said:

eikonoklastes said:

Exactly. Pussy at his fingertips. A women shouldn't let herself be played like that.

Hotlegs said:

Yeah bullshit (thanks Hotlegs)!!! Men are just as bad so don't try to deny it. Maybe you don't play mind games but a lot of other men do.

LolaM said:

Hotlegs said:

The fact that thread is even here shows something's gone wrong. Damn self-help book, Sex In The City is my bible banality.

Stop analysing everything. Why not use some instinct and spontaineity?

Fauxie said:

Men constantly confuse me and my instincts are always totally out



and I'm far to spontanious it gets me in trouble

Good luck with it though



I think you should try and get over him now. That was a really mean thing of him to do. Scared my arse, that's no reason at all to stop talking to someone.

Offer him sex and take it from there.

SOunds like he really likes you but only as a friend. He probably hasn't addressed the issue b/c he doesn't want to hurt you. It's happened to me in the past and I've done it to men. Not saying it's right but that seems like it's his thought process by what you described.

On a side note...try to spend more time doing the things that will please you rather than wasting time on this guy. Just a thought.

EvilWhiteMale said:

that will make your situation so much better!
[Edited 4/18/05 12:17pm]

distance yourself from the guy until he decides what he wants. its obvious he wants a friendship, but you want more...correct?? I know what you mean about mixed signals. I went through a similar situation with my current boyfriend before we finally got together.

We were friends for about 4 years and we liked each other off and on. When we met i had a boyfriend and we hit it off so well when we first met that it quickly turned into a crush on both sides, but I didn't want to betray my boyfriend so I let him go as a friend. So way after me and boyfriend had broken up for good we found our way to being friends again, but this time he had a girlfriend and then our feelings resurfaced once again.

I went out on dates with other guys to get rid of my feelings for him and it worked for a while, until he expressed to me that he felt more for me than a friend even though he currently had a girlfriend. I too thought he was playing games by wanting his cake and eating it too. He ended up kissing me one day and that really drove my feelings into an up roar. He apologized saying that he shouldn't have done it and that it was a mistake. But then a month later he unexpectedly kissed me again, and this time i knew it won't no mistake. I tried to distance myself from him but it didn't work and sent me mixed emotional messages though the whole ordeal until i gave him an ultimatum....ITS OBVIOUS THAT WE CAN'T "JUST BE FRIENDS" WITH EACH OTHER, SO YOU NEED TO DECIDE IF YOU WANT TO BE WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND, OR ME!!! and if he chose to stay with his girlfriend, i would respect that by cutting him off and his friendship and would move on with my life.....I gave him space to decide and...

we are together now and have been for 6 months. Guys are weird, and always will be, but sometimes they need a little help now and then. You decide what is best for you what you can handle emotionally. It sounds like you will be sad without him, but you won't hurt emotionally over it (like as if you were in love with him). Besides, when guys see that other guys are interested in you, thats when they come running...

missfee said:

omg guys! He came up to me today and hugged me! he's never hugged me before. The reason he hugged me was because I asked about this huge bill that he had at school cuz he broke equipment there. We were doing a class project and he broke a camera, and I was the only one in our group to offer to help pay for it cuz it was a group project and when we sign out equipment it is everyone's responsibility.... he's so LOL

i think I'm going to turn into a lesbian ...life would be so much easier

Don't try and and decode da language!! Or you will demystify da code and it will be gone!!! And who wantz a clear and concise a is a and b is b code anywayz. Give us da confusion, it'z romantic, damn it!!