I just hate it when people start picking on the so-called 'newbies', for no reason. I mean, what do you have to be proud of? The fact that you've been a member of some purple-site for over a few years? Give me a break.

I'm sorry, but it just bothers me. Everyone has the right to ask questions, even if they are 'silly'.

I just don't get it. People have to act like they're part of the Prince.org-elite. I mean, this is an INTERNET-site.

Theocratic order?

I think we should be glad for every 'newbie' that discovers Prince. Or this site. Can't we be welcoming, or at least neutral?

MarieLouise said:

MarieLouise said:

nope. newbie-bashing happens on every online forum.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

So that reason excuses people to do it here? I personally don't care for it or find it funny. There are no stupid questions, just silly answers.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Yeah, and it's also a natural reflex of human beings to position themselves by bashing others. But 'it happens every where' is not a very solid argument to me.

MarieLouise said:

thing about it though is here, the "bashing" is good-natured. i've been on other forums where it's intentionally hurtful to newer people. you either get it or you don't. if you don't, tough.

I agree MarieLouise, and it certainly should not be institutionally condoned. Like this at HouseQuake for example:

http://www.housequake.com...adid=37666

It's actually a sticky in their GD forum! That seems incredibly uninviting to me. It surprised me because I've always thought that HQ was in some ways a more inviting forum for new users. But I don't know it that well.

Of course this stuff goes on as part of any social dynamic and I don't know if it can be regulated, but I hardly see it as the sign of a healthy and growing community.

By the way, do you see that in this forum or PM&M?

Good thread.

i remember being scared to death to ask any kind fo question in the prince music and more forum when i was a newbie. after a while you get over it, though.

JasmineFire said:

Silence newbie!

2the9s said:

you're not the boss of me!

2the9s said:

she's not new.

at any rate, i can understand that some people can be overwhelmed by the stuff they see on this entire site, not just on m & m. we are by no means your average prince fansite, y'know.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

he knows i'm not new. even under this name i'm not new.

i wouldn't say that this site is cruel to newbies but it can be a bit intimidating to someone who has never been here before. but then, as you get to know the site it's not that bad. if anyone starts shit you just hit the 'report msg to moderator' button. and then it gets fixed.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

All the more reason why we should not resort to average means.

It seems to be a rite of passage.

MarieLouise said:

What up baby girl?

Give me names! I'll pass them on to Milty right away!!!

JasmineFire said:

I never said it's a cruel site, but it gets silly sometimes. I don't want to be the moralistic angel or something, but still I think that we should try to evolve in a way. For a teenager, it's normal to build your own personality by bashing others. Later on, we should be able to make this bashing into criticizing.

Sometimes, the bashing is rather funny. To me. But I don't need to be amused on the behalf of others. Every one should get a proper chance on this site.

2the9s said:

btw Hands, how is this site not "average." I think the community is great! Anyone who knows me knows I love it. But how is the site itself not average?

Mach said:

Wow!

Great post.

2the9s said:

yeah, that was deep.

JasmineFire said:

2the9s said:

you've been around these parts long enough, 9s. think a little.

2the9s said:

just food for thought ya know

we are all each others mirriors ( sp ? )

it may not all be about the reflection we see but the image behind, holding up the mirrior

Mach said:

Okay, you went a little too far...

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

But my time around here and my thinking has led me to see this as a very average site that is supporting an extraordinary community.

As you know, it's not the "site" that keeps me around.

2the9s said:

awww. that's so sweet that you hang around here because of me.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

This is true.

JasmineFire said:

Puhhlleeeaze!

2the9s said:

same here...in fact i've never thought of this place as a website because of that very thing.

2the9s said:

i love it when you tease!