..its very cruel..

On one hand I want to forgive, forget, BELIEVE.. but if that person truly is corrupt, what do you do..??? when you have no real evidence, just a suspicion.. makes one paranoid a touch..

Have you ever experienced this?

You wanna help, but they are either playing a game or in denial???

I think I'm experienceing it right now...but it's hard to tell. The person is crafty at best,

superspaceboy said:

Exactly.. and it is even worse online...

i often think people are messing with my mind

most of the time i am just thinking too much

hoping for something that isn't there

reading too much into things

well you know my situation



fuck the lot of them honey

Sorry!

doctormcmeekle said:

so you should be


beg for forgivness

lollyp0p said:

Nah, only kidding! I'm not really sorry.

lollyp0p said:

I think he should apologize

Stop turning this thread into a fucking joke, please!

superspaceboy said:

[insincere]Ok, I am sorry! [/insincere]

REDFEATHERS said:

Red, read my initial post in this thread:

http://www.prince.org/msg/100/114206

Some people are very very good at playing mind games and making you think that it's all you and that you are crazy. Many times your gut is telling you something for a reason....

people will do that. if you feel that way you should try to keep them outta your life.

i think when you play mind games with someone you need to be very careful. this can all turn around into something very hurtful and ugly. sometimes reddy red its hard to forgive and forget..i guess the best thing you should do is just disconnect yourself with that person ..yes its true you do want to help them but they must want the help too. its a two way street with that, it cant be just one way.some people like to prey on a vunerable situation or person ..they think its cute and they use that to get want they want. its a shame if thats the only way that you think you can connect to someone is by playing mind games.
but they who play this hurtful and deceiving minds games must also remember

WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND .....YOU WILL REAP WHAT YOU SOW!!!!!.

REDFEATHERS said:

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Thanks, I know that truly, but sometimes I am too soft and if I think I cannot forgive and forget makes me feel mean and/or nasty..

I am not being made to feel crazy.. just like a decent person, but when you are battling with someone who clearly isnt living a focussed life, it can be hard.. what do you do? work with them or let go?

heybaby said:

Its harder than you think when you have had close connections with them..

REDFEATHERS said:

it really depends on what you're getting from that relationship and what you can realistically expect to receive from it in the future. Sometimes you can work through challenges, but many times people don't change and a person who manipulates have issues that they need to work through, issues you probably won't be able to help resolve. If it's hurting you, you should move on. You don't want to stay too focused on something that hurts you

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Some people are clever and make out all is ok with them.. I think I have to go with my gut feeling on this one.. but what if its wrong?

REDFEATHERS said:

Like I said, you don't get gut feelings for no reason. Perhaps you should take a little more time to focus and discerne exactly what is happening here but I still say to leave it alone if it's causing you pain and or confusion. Relationships should be natural and not so laborious.

fishbellyblack said:

REDBABY said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Not pain, just confusion.. this person comes across very *cute* but I think actually thinks they are very clever..

REDDY RED HERE IS SOMETHING I HOPE WILL HELP YOU OR ANYONE ELSE

Everyone Can't Be in Your Front Row... Life is a theater - invite your audience carefully. Not everyone is holy enough and healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships, friendships, fellowships! Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention to: Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth up hill and which ones are going down hill? When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know and appreciate you and the gift that lies within you? The more you seek God and the things of God -- the more you seek quality, the more you seek not just the hand of God but the face of God the more you seek things honorable -- the more you seek growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW and who should be moved to the balcony of your life. You cannot change the people around you...but you can change the people you are around! Ask God for wisdom and discernment and choose wisely the people who sit in the front row of your life.

REDFEATHERS said:

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Red hun.....

I've done that too... embarrasingly 2 many times.....I guess it's 1 of the 10 naieve mistakes women make. Why take someone back into your life when they have hurt u in the past?

but as forgiving as some women tend 2 be.(even me..).. look back at the past patterns/history.....and look at why u would want to for yourself...as in what can this person really bring to the table???

people don't magically change and if they do..it does not occur quickly...especially if they have been in the same patterns for many years.

here is a link to what I think u might find as in interesting page....

pay attention to the wannbe and the sociopath.....
maybe I'm wayyyy off.. but I found it useful.

http://www.bullyonline.or...serial.htm

Love & Light

I've had that happen to me and no it's not you, you are not crazy and go with what your head tells you.

You know how I feel on this

People still do this?

What a waste of energy.