So I'm all moved in and have almost everything all set up. Loving being in my own place by myself. There's just one issue. The bitch upstairs. She is a tiny tiny girl and is so friggin loud it's making me crazy! Apparently she has a dog and likes to throw loud objects around the house for him to chase. Last night she was banging around until midnight and then again at 5am this morning.

Sooooo...I left her a note! I was nice about it, but told her we needed to discuss the noise situation because it's starting to make me crazy! I said feel free to come and speak to me about it or I'll assume she is going to keep the noise at a respectful level. Think I was right for doing this? I don't believe dogs are allowed in the apartments so I didn't want to go and rat her out to the landlord. I thought addressing it this way first would be better. But now I'm having second thoughts and the deed is done. What do you guys think?

Kill the dog and gag her bitch..

REDFEATHERS said:

I've already been thinking of ways to kill the dog when I'm lying in bed trying to sleep. Antifreeze is sweet to dogs, right?

don't be a note-leaver. drop by your neighbor's apartment and get an understanding in person. seriously. otherwise it can escalate into something much uglier, and you don't need that kind of shit in your home.

Anxiety said:

that could be true

but remember, you pay just as much to live there as she does, nothing wrong with standing up for yourself

Anxiety said:

She's always in and out and I never catch her. That's why I told her when she gets home feel free to come by my apartment so we can talk about it.

When are you haveing a house warming pary, cunt-tard?

2the9s said:

Whenever your smelly cunt can come!

You definitely weren't wrong to address it, and address it soon. The sooner you talk to her about it the sooner you'll (hopefully) get a resolution. You'll only get resentful if you don't talk to her now, and then things will get ugly later if you blow up on her.

better to let her know that you won't put up with it right from the start. like naked said... you pay just as much to live there

you can be a nice neighbor and not rat her out but she has to be a respectful neighbor and not disturb you in your home.

if she continues... then all bets are off

emm said:

I don't want it to get ugly. I think maybe she doesn't know she's being loud. She's fairly new there too and the girl who's apartment I took over was too scared to say anything to her. Hopefully she won't take it the wrong way cuz I really did try to be nice to her about it.

The joys of apartment living

When I moved into my present place I specifically asked about the specific neighbors and picked an apartment which is on teh end and next to the laundry room so no side neighbors and the lady upstairs is older and makes virtually no sound. I refused to be anywhere near KIDS. She has been here forever and isn't likely to move.

In other apartments it would seem that as soon as you got one set of neighbors trained a new group would move in and you would have to start over again.

lovemachine said:

What do you mean by "trained"? Did you confront them about the noise? I just don't know if I did the right thing or not...

nakedpianoplayer said:

true! i'm just saying to back up the note by putting a face with the words, even if it's difficult to catch up with the neighbor. at least make a concerted effort to speak with the neighbor. it makes a world of difference.

Anxiety said:

I agree with you, she may detect the wrong "tone" from the letter. I'm gonna try to catch up with her to talk about it and let her know I'm not furious, but that it has to stop.

You did what I would have done. Ask her to not play fetch in the house. That is for the out doors. If it's just the dog, then she needs to keep it quiet...esp if there are no dogs allowed. If noise still continues, tell your landlord.

You can't ask her though to not walk around or make normal noise...like if she has no carpeting...that's a big noise maker. It could also reflect that your apt is going to carry noise like that.

So, even without dog noise, there still may be noise. You may need to slightly soundproof your apt from hers.

In terms of music noise (which is MY biggest issue as I dj) the proper times to play are from 10 - 10 (weekdays...11 - 12 on the weekends, depending) at a slighly higher volume...and the rest of the time at just a personal level.

Good Luck.

CarrieLee said:

Yes a lil note (friendly and simple) to just meet in person. You have told her what the meeting is about. And besides you get to meet your neighbor too. Harder to piss off someone you know and/or like.

CarrieLee said:

We had a neighbor in our last apt who was below us and would get migraines. She had to "talk" with us and sort of give a heads up. I felt like each new neighbor she gets, she has to go thru the same thing. She didn't seem too happy to see us go. Sure we got the occasional boom boom on the floor, but we were always conscious about the sound level.

congratulations on the new apt

and also the note was a good idea, just go meet her when she gets home and tell her you didnt want to come off pissy just wanted to make her aware if the noise level, sometimes you dont even know how much noise you are making.

TwinkleBitch said:

I know to expect noise, she's a heavy walker I can't tell her to change the way she walks! But she was banging things all around the apartment last night until midnight. Throwing things around the house for the dog and being very loud. Maybe if she let me sleep till 7 i wouldn't be pissed about the noise until midnight!! But 5am!!! AHHHH!

ella731 said:

That's what I think too. Thanks Ella!

CarrieLee said:

damn! i would be so fuckin' mad. its nice of you to not go to the landlord, i think she should appreciate that. since you already left a note just be friendly if she comes to you with an attitude, ya know try to disarm her with kindness. if that doesn't work...

CarrieLee said:

You should bake her some brownies too.

2the9s said:

I would do that! She's young and seems cool, she's just noisy and needs to stop bowling in her apartment!

CarrieLee said:

This sounds like another flaming bag of dog turd moment.....flaming poo sorts out so many issues maybe we should suggest it to Dubya

mdiver said:

or maybe we should go straight to the UN and solve all the worlds problems with flaming bag o poo

TwinkleBitch said:

yeah. and the neighbor may not even know how annoying she's being.

ella731 said:

I'm game if you are we could leave one outside the secretary generals office, that would get things sorted

mdiver said:

let me know the time and place