Recently I walked awawy from almost 1 1/2 years of dating a married man. He stated in the beginning that he was not happy. I guess I had no business getting involved with him; but our friendship grew into love and intimacy. I have tried to walk away a few times but it was so difficult since I work in the same Department with him. I also found him contacting other women who were attracted to him and old friends. Do you think that he is a player. I realized that he may never wanted to leave his wife for me. He claimed that he was in love with me and that I am was and still am his best friend.
Please advise.
Hurting inside.

Trixiebldg37 said:

no no no no no!

That is a definate NO!

charlottegelin said:

Do you think that he still cares for me?

charlottegelin said:

co-no! Might be hard, but you got to walk.

His wife should be his best friend.

I had a similar situation and thank God I realized what a mistake it all was before things got too far out of hand. Stay away from this guy for your own good and his.

the heart, it will lead you into all sorts of trouble, but this is one kind of trouble you just don't need

Trixiebldg37 said:

sorry but he only ever cared for himself

Trixiebldg37 said:

if he cared about you, he would be married to you and only be with you. it seems hard right now but if you leave him alone you'll see it was a waste of your time....and years.

Trixiebldg37 said:

not ever as much as you truly deserve

charlottegelin said:

Do you mean by that quote that it is better to have loved than not loved at all?

Trixiebldg37 said:

in this situation YES

Stax said:

Today he said that he still wants to be friends, but I told him that I cannot turn off my feelings for him that easy and just be friends for now. I realize that he did not put up a fight for me in any way. He said that he would support me if I needed to date other people. Crying!

i wanna say give yourself lots of distance from this person - but it sounds like you work with him.

also a dodgy situation - dating at work.

hun... you have done the right thing and when you are feeling lonely for him remind yourself how you would feel if you were the one he was cheating on.

i don't trust someone who would cheat. it hurts but you will see that you were wasting your time with him.

move on to bigger and better things all the more wiser from your experience!

emm said:

lust

yes

get as far away from this person as possible. start looking for a new job.

never date a co-worker and never ever ever date a married man. they have too many issues.

JasmineFire said:

This also applies to married women who are in these situations.

MrJoker said:

crazy married people.

It's the lack of respect for his wife that he has for you as well.

So.....what's the problem?

EvilNatisse said:

OMG please no not on this one

Natisse said:

EvilNatisse said:

well it's something I feel pretty strongly about...you really have to NOT post similar to how you normally do if you don't want anyone to know who you are, by the way

Natisse said:

I respect your opinion. I needed to hear that.

Trixiebldg37 said:

oh lol no Trixie that wasn't to you, hon, sorry see Althom now this is getting confusing!

could think of it like this ...


if he was your husband... he would be cheating on you with another woman


how would that make you feel ?

Mach said:

Very sad. I hear you. I think it has already happened and he is not even my husband.

Trixiebldg37 said:

A possibility; reality and my biggest fear.