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CAN YOU BE... ...TOO nice?
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Depends on who you're being nice to
I get told that Im to nice, then I'll get told that Im a bitch...hard to say what I am, depends on the person I guess. Some people I adore and love having in my life therefore I guess Im really nice and show myself to them more...and then there are the people who are like sitting on cold cement or thorns in your ass who you come across as not so nice when you deal with them cause they make your skin crawl. I think being nice is a good thing so I dont think you can be to nice unless the person you're being nice to treats you like crap | |
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PurpleThunder said: Depends on who you're being nice to
I get told that Im to nice, then I'll get told that Im a bitch...hard to say what I am, depends on the person I guess. Some people I adore and love having in my life therefore I guess Im really nice and show myself to them more...and then there are the people who are like sitting on cold cement or thorns in your ass who you come across as not so nice when you deal with them cause they make your skin crawl. I think being nice is a good thing so I dont think you can be to nice unless the person you're being nice to treats you like crap I couldn't agree more with everything you said Terra | |
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No. Those people who are opportunistic or rather take advantage of your kindness, are just nasty low life pieces of shit that deserve to burn in the bad place!
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I think a lot of people are being too nice to strangers. I'm not saying you should be nasty to them, but polite will do. | |
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Ex-Moderator | I think PT has the key in there comes a point where you can be taken advantage of for your niceness. It's great to be a giving person but at some point you have to recognize if your niceties are being appreciated or taken for granted. I have a friend who is truly one of the sweetest girls I know and she had to learn this lesson the difficult way. Bless her, though, she did not become bitter and jaded and is still one of the most caring and generous people I know. |
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i think it's more important to be civil than to be nice. niceness can be exploited. civility is the least and most you can give someone. | |
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Anxiety said: i think it's more important to be civil than to be nice. niceness can be exploited. civility is the least and most you can give someone.
Right on! | |
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but if you're just civil how do you get close to people? | |
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PurpleThunder said: Depends on who you're being nice to
I get told that Im to nice, then I'll get told that Im a bitch...hard to say what I am, depends on the person I guess. Some people I adore and love having in my life therefore I guess Im really nice and show myself to them more...and then there are the people who are like sitting on cold cement or thorns in your ass who you come across as not so nice when you deal with them cause they make your skin crawl. I think being nice is a good thing so I dont think you can be to nice unless the person you're being nice to treats you like crap I agree, the problem with being nice is that some people think you're weak because you're nice and walk all over you if you let them. You have to stand up for yourself sometimes,in a nice way of course. "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"-Dr Seuss
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Natisse said: but if you're just civil how do you get close to people?
you don't want to be close to all people. i think there are some people you need to keep at arm's length, don't you? | |
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Natisse said: but if you're just civil how do you get close to people?
You get close to people because you have things in common or simply because you're both interested in eachother and as you talk you notice you make a connection. | |
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Anxiety said: Natisse said: but if you're just civil how do you get close to people?
you don't want to be close to all people. i think there are some people you need to keep at arm's length, don't you? yes I agree there are some people you keep at arms length...otherwise you let yourself get in too deep and you're the one that ends up hurt not them | |
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cocofantasy said: Natisse said: but if you're just civil how do you get close to people?
You get close to people because you have things in common or simply because you're both interested in eachother and as you talk you notice you make a connection. I agree...I've been really thinking lately about things and I'd just love to know where to draw that line between those who are supposedly there for you and those who really ARE there for you...that line gets blurry for all of us sometimes I think | |
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Natisse said: ...TOO nice?
That's my problem!!!! | |
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EvilNatisse said: Natisse said: ...TOO nice?
That's my problem!!!! | |
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Anxiety said: i think it's more important to be civil than to be nice. niceness can be exploited. civility is the least and most you can give someone.
Surely you mean civility is the most you can give SOME people? a psychotic is someone who just figured out what's going on | |
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Stax said: Anxiety said: i think it's more important to be civil than to be nice. niceness can be exploited. civility is the least and most you can give someone.
Surely you mean civility is the most you can give SOME people? | |
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its okay to be nice sometimes but just make sure that people don't try to use you as a door mat. let them know it ain't happenin'. | |
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heybaby said: its okay to be nice sometimes but just make sure that people don't try to use you as a door mat. let them know it ain't happenin'.
Then you kick them in the nuts? | |
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EvilNatisse said: heybaby said: its okay to be nice sometimes but just make sure that people don't try to use you as a door mat. let them know it ain't happenin'.
Then you kick them in the nuts? anything to let them know i deserve respect. i used to be too nice but that doesn't work all the time. | |
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heybaby said: EvilNatisse said: Then you kick them in the nuts? anything to let them know i deserve respect. i used to be too nice but that doesn't work all the time. I say...RESPECT THIS!!!! And then I kick them in the balls.....works everytime! | |
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EvilNatisse said: heybaby said: anything to let them know i deserve respect. i used to be too nice but that doesn't work all the time. I say...RESPECT THIS!!!! And then I kick them in the balls.....works everytime! you are crazy! | |
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EvilNatisse said: heybaby said: anything to let them know i deserve respect. i used to be too nice but that doesn't work all the time. I say...RESPECT THIS!!!! And then I kick them in the balls.....works everytime! no wonder they keep you tethered to a post in the back yard. | |
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heybaby said: its okay to be nice sometimes but just make sure that people don't try to use you as a door mat. let them know it ain't happenin'.
true...lol I have to remember that one | |
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Nope. no such thing as too good. others can just be too bad. | |
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Heavenly said: Nope. no such thing as too good. others can just be too bad.
thats why she's gotta let them know that nice don't mean pushover. | |
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Heavenly said: Nope. no such thing as too good. others can just be too bad.
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