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Is it possible to break up and still be close ? .
I'm finding it very trying. Complications arise, all things said are over scrutinized, and I end up feeling bitter. And it doesn't help that you women have a power over men you've only YET to understand. Evil creatures that you are. | |
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guys suck too!
and 2 answer your question...no it's not possible...i tried with my ex and i only got real bitter, and now im all alone.. | |
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Ex-Moderator | It's possible but it's few and far between. And for goodness sake, don't try to right away. You meed time and distance for that to all work out. |
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Hard, but "close" can happen. True friends? Who knows. The longer your together, the longer odds, I think. a psychotic is someone who just figured out what's going on | |
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Yes it is, it's not going to be easy. Then again I don't think there are many women who are easy to deal with period. | |
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cuntroversial said: Yes it is, it's not going to be easy. Then again I don't think there are many women who are easy to deal with period.
Dont be so bitter...all women and all men arent alike you just gotta find the one that works with ya! | |
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PurpleThunder said: cuntroversial said: Yes it is, it's not going to be easy. Then again I don't think there are many women who are easy to deal with period.
Dont be so bitter...all women and all men arent alike you just gotta find the one that works with ya! I'm not bitter towards anyone. I knew this even way before I had gotten into my first relationship. edit: let me rephrase that, I'm not bitter towards my exes. [Edited 2/25/05 19:48pm] | |
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it's possible, but then who would you have to focus all your hate and bitterness on?
i say VILLAINIZE, VILLAINIZE, VILLAINIZE!!! | |
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Anxiety said: it's possible, but then who would you have to focus all your hate and bitterness on?
i say VILLAINIZE, VILLAINIZE, VILLAINIZE!!! you.....ROCK. | |
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It's possible if you were close friends before you became a couple. If not the not very likely. | |
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AsianBomb777 said: .
I'm finding it very trying. Complications arise, all things said are over scrutinized, and I end up feeling bitter. And it doesn't help that you women have a power over men you've only YET to understand. Evil creatures that you are. I really like your avvie. Haters travel in packs and they are offended or threatened by klhk, haters express intense hostility toward the subject of hate. Haters are annoyed and roll thier eyes when klhk is paid a compliment. ask yourself, are u a hater? | |
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Difficult...but possible. And way worth it. | |
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Yes it's possible. I'm fortunate to have all my ex's in my life. The only thing is that I never go back. It takes a while but you can become close to people you've been with.
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klhk said: AsianBomb777 said: ..
I really like your avvie. Me too.... :swoon: | |
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AsianBomb777 said: .
I'm finding it very trying. Complications arise, all things said are over scrutinized, and I end up feeling bitter. And it doesn't help that you women have a power over men you've only YET to understand. Evil creatures that you are. It is hard! But I think a lot of it has to do with how you broke up. I always found it too hard staying friends if she was the one that made the decision to break. | |
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althom said: I think a lot of it has to do with how you broke up. I always found it too hard staying friends if she was the one that made the decision to break.
True. My best friend is my ex. We broke up not because we did not love eachother anymore, but because we just made eachother miserable. It's amazing to see how we are still friends now and can have fun again! | |
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AsianBomb777 said: .
I'm finding it very trying. Complications arise, all things said are over scrutinized, and I end up feeling bitter. And it doesn't help that you women have a power over men you've only YET to understand. Evil creatures that you are. I'm so with you on this! I recently tried, it scared us both (cos we're sort of soulmates) and she decided to cut all ties.....it hurts! Now playing: Me'Shell's Bitter | |
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Yes, I'm close to all my ex's.
It just takes time, and a little distance. Usually as a result, I end up with the best, most protective men-friends in the world. I've never been able to cut any man from my life who I've been intimate with ... it just goes against the grain for me. I'm so lucky that I have a partner who accepts that and, with the exception of one man, is happy for me to see my ex-boyfriends/lovers. I still maintain a friendship with that man, but it's very much not talked about. | |
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I once thought so
it just means both parties respecting each others feelings and not over stepping the "friend" mark... ie declaring feelings present love and anything that can misconstrued as a plan to rekindle a relationship. It helps too if you were both honest in why your relationship failed and accept these. I have found out some people can't just be friends.... unfortunatly i think i lost one of my best friends recently through this but hey..... his loss | |
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all of my exes were/are losers so i don't talk to them at all. Once i break up with a person whether i broke or they with me i just don't want to be bothered anymore. i don't have kids with them but the man i'm with so whats the point? | |
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I'm friends with all but one of my exs....and my dumb ass best friend went and married the fucker. Twice. | |
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EskomoKisses said: I'm friends with all but one of my exs....and my dumb ass best friend went and married the fucker. Twice.
hasn't she heard of the boyfriend rule? | |
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heybaby said: EskomoKisses said: I'm friends with all but one of my exs....and my dumb ass best friend went and married the fucker. Twice.
hasn't she heard of the boyfriend rule? one of my friends is going through the same thing right now, one of our friends has married her ex.... some women | |
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i keep all my ex's in my basement. i let them out when i need pleasure. but we're still friends! Haters travel in packs and they are offended or threatened by klhk, haters express intense hostility toward the subject of hate. Haters are annoyed and roll thier eyes when klhk is paid a compliment. ask yourself, are u a hater? | |
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klhk said: i keep all my ex's in my basement. i let them out when i need pleasure. but we're still friends!
it would be nice to keep one for evey mood | |
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heybaby said: all of my exes were/are losers so i don't talk to them at all. Once i break up with a person whether i broke or they with me i just don't want to be bothered anymore. i don't have kids with them but the man i'm with so whats the point?
If a girl I want to be with is talking bad about her exes I know it's time to move on. Breaking up doesn't necessarily mean you can't (re)establish a friendship. I think it's a very negative side of someone's personality if they drop an ex like it's nothing unless they've been in an abusive relationship of course. I can completely understand some need less friends than others, but to drop someone you've been very close to is cold hearted. Sounds like you never truly cared about them to begin with. | |
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cuntroversial said: heybaby said: all of my exes were/are losers so i don't talk to them at all. Once i break up with a person whether i broke or they with me i just don't want to be bothered anymore. i don't have kids with them but the man i'm with so whats the point?
If a girl I want to be with is talking bad about her exes I know it's time to move on. Breaking up doesn't necessarily mean you can't (re)establish a friendship. I think it's a very negative side of someone's personality if they drop an ex like it's nothing unless they've been in an abusive relationship of course. I can completely understand some need less friends than others, but to drop someone you've been very close to is cold hearted. Sounds like you never truly cared about them to begin with. well lets see... one was verbally abusive one was slutty and abusive another was physically abusive another wanted to have their cake and eat it to. one was all or some so.... i'm worth more than that i don't need too take anything off anybody. second, i gotta man and a family and plenty of friends; i don't need to seek out any exes for friendship. if an ex wants to be friends cool but hi and by is sufficient enough. | |
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heybaby said: cuntroversial said: If a girl I want to be with is talking bad about her exes I know it's time to move on. Breaking up doesn't necessarily mean you can't (re)establish a friendship. I think it's a very negative side of someone's personality if they drop an ex like it's nothing unless they've been in an abusive relationship of course. I can completely understand some need less friends than others, but to drop someone you've been very close to is cold hearted. Sounds like you never truly cared about them to begin with. well lets see... one was verbally abusive one was slutty and abusive another was physically abusive another wanted to have their cake and eat it to. one was all or some so.... i'm worth more than that i don't need too take anything off anybody. second, i gotta man and a family and plenty of friends; i don't need to seek out any exes for friendship. if an ex wants to be friends cool but hi and by is sufficient enough. Well since they were all abusive none of the above applies to you which I think I already made clear in my post. | |
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cuntroversial said: I think it's a very negative side of someone's personality if they drop an ex like it's nothing
I can completely understand some need less friends than others, but to drop someone you've been very close to is cold hearted.
could you be talking about my ex? This is what happened to me..... | |
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