JDINTERACTIVE said:

Symbolina said:

i don't like mind games either, but in dating or trying to get someone's attention, a game is always being played, just depends on which game is being played....

to answer the question, no i don't like to be chased, for the fact that I find that guys who like to chase, once they get what they want and they have the girl right where they want them, then its like they stop giving all the attention that they used to get her, and then ironically it is the girl who has to chase her man for attention!!!! Its almost like a "what comes around goes around" type thing. If you tell me that you are interested in me and ask me out and i say no, then thats what i mean. that means leave me the fuck alone. If the guy keeps chasing (and yes this has happened to me before), and this is mean, but i practically will ignore him until he stops.

chasing turns me off. too much time is wasted. if a girl turns you down, then be a man about it and leave her alone. if she really likes you, then she'll be the one asking you out once she sees that she isn't the only one you are interested in.

I'm not one to play games in order to make somebody chase me, and that's probably why I've never experienced it!

I don't need to be chased, but I certainly agree that attention is nice. . . and appreciation. . . I had a slumber party with a girlfriend this weekend, and she made me a princess crown out of magazine clippings and clear tape. It has pictures of jewels and fabulous shoes, and words like "sexy" and "the best". . . it made me feel more loved than anything she could ever buy me, and it was genuine, not part of some stupid cat-and-mouse game.

Attention is nice but it's not going to make me love or want him any more, if it's meant to be it'll happen naturally.

you admitted to being a feminine boy i shall save this thread for future reference

testicleman said:

WTF you talkin' about? Women always have and always will be in control. Some just don't realize it.

missfee said:

damn it, this post is so right it has me thinking

Chased... no. Appreciated... yes.

I don't like to chase women
What's up with that ?
You either want me or you don't
Don't play games !
[Edited 2/20/05 19:42pm]

i love attention from men (hence the username), but like carrie said not the creepy kind thats unwanted or stalker like i guess it depends on how its done.

Chased/persistent attention makes me very uncomfortable and if it gets redundant, I will say something to let it be known.

This happens to me quite a bit at work. I work in a fairly large hospital that beds up to 500-600 patients. I see so many new faces each day... although I see many of the same as well.

I try to keep a pleasant attitude with the majority of people... although there have been times when I had to make a strong statement to lay off.

For example... now that I am thinking about it...

There was this one Tech... each day he would be very friendly, greet me... and give that long overdue gaze as I walked by. Then... as time evolved, he would add little sounds when I would walked by, I am not sure how to spell these sounds. Ugh. One day he even stopped me in my tracks... and asked if he could touch my skin on my face (CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT)... I was like. A few more things occurred... I think you get the gist and I finally told him he was really making me feel uncomfortable. Still to this day I see him and now he is very respectful... he really is a nice guy, he is... I don't know what his deal was, but I put a stop to it in a very passive, to the point manner. I could tell he felt bad. Perhaps people just get caught up in a moment, I don't know.

I get approached all the time... although it is not usually uncomfortable to this degree, but it does happen.

Believe it or not... I don't like aggressive attention, never have and my tolerance level it is getting worse as I get older.

Do I sound horrible? So be it.

heybaby said:

<-- althom has a chance now!

Chase me - I like being chased, but I will not chase a man

althom said:

that thing looks funny as hell!

heybaby said:

it's hos real face when he takes that stupid helmet off.

Milty said:

Who you calling a ho?

althom said:

althom said:

ho, ho, ho

luv4u said:

unless I like the person, but it's just creepy. I'll take out a weapon or something if he gets near me.

althom said:

oops.....ho

Hell YES! That is the only way a guy would ever get with me. Seriously if I have a crush on a guy nothing would ever happen if he did not approch me first! I would never hit on a guy. There is something so unfeminine about that to me. I belive the guy should chase the girl but I'm old fashioned that way. Men in this day in age are so passive and lazy. Sexually agressive men are hot!

But there is a diffrence between being sexually agressive and just obnoxious. Like they idiots who are like "Danm baby! You are fine, let me get your number!" Please DONT EVER APPROACH a woman like that. Just don't Just be nice, talk to her make eye contact tell her you like her dress, her hair, her nails. Don't go overboard but let her know you find her attractive.

NO.

life is too short for playing games.

if i like somebody, i'll let them know.

simple as that.

Dewrede said:

playing games is such a waste of time...

if that's intimidating to some, we're not compatible anyway.
[Edited 2/21/05 7:57am]

In all my past relationships, I let the man chase me, and all of those relationships ended rather badly. So last year I decided 2 take matters in2 my own hands. Dammit this is MY life, I know what I like and what I want, so 4 the first time ever, I chased a man (musicology74) and I am very joyful with the outcome, he is everything I want in a man (because I found out first by chasing him) It works girls, just tell a guy what u are really looking 4 and expect from him and he will let u know where he is at with it.

I am looking 4ward 2 a lifetime with my beloved

Be Joyful

RhondaJoyDiva said:

wow...cool

Sweeny79 said:

Honesty and self-knowledge are the key to a successful relationship. Good to see someone's honest.
[Edited 2/21/05 17:13pm]

Milty said:

Yes.

Today as I was doing my rounds... I entered a room (like I always do), too many to count.

I ask the patient, "Would you like to make a Lunch order?" His reply... as he laid in the hospital bed, "What are my options...? YOU!?"