My five year old daughter is being bullied

I have been through a lot this past few months but nothing has hurt me like hearing my baby explain how 2 other girls have degraded her, and pinched her and pulled her hair.

She is really big for her age and is already the size of an 7-8 year old but she is so loveable and placid even though she is so much bigger than these other girls she will not defend herself, she is emotional too having had to deal with the break up of mine and her fathers relationship

I have told her I'm going into the school to see her teacher but she has cried and begged me not to incase it just makes it worse and as a child who was bullied myself i know that it can have that effect

I feel impotent but all i want to take all the hurt away! I nearly cried with her when she was telling me.

Bullying is illegal where I live.

Tell the principle anyways, do something about it, at least for her emotional and mental health. Why subject her to that on a 5 day basis and only gets a break from it on the weekend.

contact the parents of these kids, report it to somebody or child welfare too.

Report it to the police if the school wont deal with it. Other than that - transfer to another school.

good luck

the best thing to do is to have a talk with the teacher AND the parents of the other kids. my son was being picked on before also. i usually a peaceful but things like that piss me off. i talked to the teachers and they talked to the kids and there was no problem after that. i know your daughter doesn't want to be viewed as a tattle tell so what you could do is tell the teacher to look out for her and watch whats goin on with her and the other girls and if the teacher sees something then she can reprimand them without saying that you said anything. you can't just do nothing. her grades might suffer especially since she is sensitive over your breakup with her father.

lollyp0procks said:

...big huge hugs for Bobbi

Hey, u know somethin, I used 2 go through precisely da same thing when i was a kid too. And like your little girl i didn't want my parentz going in to make "matters worse". Thinking back to my own mentality at da time, i can say it was cause i already felt a bit victimized, dat i didn't wanna feel more helpless. She will grow out of da insecuritiez and bloom majorly as she growz up just so long as she is encouraged 2 just be herself and maybe encourage her in anything she is passionate about- because she will have an outlet and realise dat those girlz (or boyz even) have absolutely nothin on her!! Gain her permission to tell da teacherz first...they SHOULD know, and i think teacherz do notice when something is not going right with a kid and they've been picked on. How they handle da situationz is a case of they're individual decision.

It's so sad to hear this!! Remind ur daughter dat she's a superstar at what she does, and these kidz are just jealous cause she's probably very smart, and tell her she's beautiful inside out alwayz!!!

My parentz did dat and it did wonderz for my ego

heybaby said:

this was what i was thinking of, what i really want to do is get the kids heads and knock them together

lollyp0procks said:

i know it makes you really mad, 'cause i think smoke was coming outta my ears!

lilmissmissy said:

excellent advice sweetie

we call her Bobstar because she is our little superstar

heybaby said:

I know there are other parents on here and just wanted to know i am not alone, I feel kinda responsible as you always want to protect your children and i feel like i have failed her

Natisse said:

I'll be sure to pass them on along with a big first thing honey

lollyp0procks said:

Awwwww datz da way!! And datz so sweet!!!

lollyp0procks said:

thank you sweetie

Steadwood said:

I was bullied most of my school life My parents went to the school and nothing changed i needed to hear some positives really the only thing that made my life better was when a sensational girl who still to this day is a friend stuck up for me and her being one of the most popular girls the bullying stopped when i was with her.

lollyp0procks said:

its not your fault. you can't be everywhere at the same time. if your not that busy perhaps you could volunteer at the school for a couple a hours out the week or something like that. at least you could watch her a little for your peace of mind.

Natisse said:

sweetie you really were lucky children can be so cruel and not really understand the consequences of there actions and futher more the consequences can have quite long lasting effects

lollyp0procks said:

Kids can be the cruelest of people.....Having peer support is a powerful ally.
Different situations call for different actions.

lollyp0procks said:

Kidnap the little fucking idiots and make 'em feel what it's like to be on the end of a sex-depraved sodomizer's stick...
Or if you really want to fuck with their heads get to their parents and tell the kids it's all their fault something awful (think of something creative) has happenend to them and that their parents are forever dissapointed in them in their death...
And this all is nothing compared to the shit people still go through in their heads who got bullied by little, useless, waste of space fucks...

Neversin.
[Edited 2/13/05 17:25pm]

lollyp0procks said:

oh definately...I'll be the first to admit I still have some issues about people and things that happened. There's a school reunion this Saturday night with some of these same people and to be honest I'd be petrified to walk in there with them all if I was going not that I think anything would happen, but it would just bring back so many bad memories that I've tried to move on from... I think a lot of us have been through that kind of thing tho

Neversin said:

I'm liking this

luv4u said:

Shes right do as she advises. Its a critical time in her development.

Natisse said:

I was bullied for years because i could manage to do "normal" I was either too loud/too quiet/too skinny/too short/too bossy/too clever/too thick/too sporty


and yeah it does have long lasting effects, i can't remember what bought it up but a friend who had no connection to school a few months ago bought up my little pony and started singing the song changing the words to ....

my little toni which would be alright but i instantly matched it to a period in school where the kids would circle me and chant "my little toni skinny and bony" and laugh at me

i also had a black board rubber printed all over my black uniform i did fight back on that occasion though and when the horrid girl put the rubber down (the old wood and cotton ones) i threw it at her and then ran really really fast

It won't stop unless something is done.
And I think it should be done by an adult. so I join the advices of other. tell the teacher, principal or parents.
If that doesn't help, just put spiders in their school bags

lollyp0procks said:

awww honey it's horrible and memories like that just don't go away...it's good tho that you know what it's like so you can empathise with Bobbi and know some of what she's going through

I was never bullied. Some tried, but quickly regreted it. Since I have a brother who's 4 years older than me, very popular, and very strong.
Every school I've been with, I had some friends who were pretty strong.
I always had some sort of connection to someone who can protect me, so no one really dared bullying me.

Not to mention no one had any reason. I was so quiet nobody every really noticed me.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

i know but i'm kinda really liking the idea of kidnaping

but hey i guess i should do the sensible thing instead

lollyp0procks said:

Well yeah...
ANYONE who has been bullied has a gut wrenching wanta stike out feeling come over them. Doing nothing only cements the already instilled helpless feeling.

Yeah bulliez suck

For me, it was like everything was wrong with me but i never agreed with what they seemed to all think of me. And to this day im not even sure was dat was!! When i was in primary school AND highschool- but in highschool i had heapz more friendz (they're more mature in those yearz and they tend not to turn on you as they do in your childhood yearz). I was alwayz a placid kid myself- i only ever once went through a "hitting" phase for like a year- and dat was cause i was pissed off and had had enough after my first year in primary school and decided to lash out over anything and everything especially wif my cuzzy- we get along da bestest now ofcourse but when we were kidz!! I was in constant competition wif her- in my family and at school. I noticed for some reason anyone who'd be my friend first at da start of each year would end up hating me and loving her for some unbeknown reason- and ofcourse dat pissed me off even more.

Also in your schooling yearz there is alwayz da "boss" of da group...and i never quite adhered 2 dat kinda thing- nobody tellz me what 2 do!! So dat didnt go down 2 well either!! Plus i was just different to everyone else!! I loved my bookz i loved my music (and hated most boy bandz all da other galz loved and disagreed with da whole idea of them!!), yeah i loved talking alot (look at this post it's so damn long- a good example of how much i blab) and i had a not-so-Australian accent- da teacherz loved my accent but my peerz- not so much. Got ridiculed for dat all da timez too. I was made fun of cause i did my hair up nice everyday for highschool etc etc etc

I fink this goes on for alotta peoplez- but watch and see how nice they are after all those yearz. They too mature and then they inwardly (well you'd hope) realize how dumb it all was!!! And datz da bestest satisfaction at all...And da icing on da cake is when you're doin well and gettin ahead...and they're well...not.

Just thought id share

Want me to go beat them up lolly?