I feel for you and your daughter lolly

I know your daughter doesnt want to create waves but you MUST report this to her teacher and the principal. Schools should be very concerned about any bullying and will take action to remedy the situation. Also, staying silent just makes your child a victim. You need to take action to show her the way.

The other thing is that your childs teacher can take remial action against the kids that are doing the bullying. Unfortunately, teachers have to do alot of parenting these days as it appears these bullies arn't getting the required level at home.

Let us know how it goes.

Sad to hear this

I was bullied once too
Eventually i just kicked the kid and from
that moment on it stopped completely
I'm against violence but sometimes it's the
only thing to do when nothing
else helps
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Heavenly said:

I have no real experience of bullying at all although a friend of mine recently had trouble with his 8 year old daughter at school being picked on... viscious notes... name calling etc.

As parents they went and spoke to the teacher and to the headmaster/deputy head and asked that the matter was dealt with discretely, without it being bought to the attention of the bullies.

As I understand it the situation was monitored quietly until they could verify exactly what and who the problem was and it could be dealt with.

I think if you involve the school, discretion is what you need from them really, rather than them going in all guns blazing.

I hope that you get this sorted and that your daughter is okay

what you really want to do is try and change her school it worked for me! think about it.

thanks everyone



I'm going to go into the school on monday and try and find out who the girls parents are, then again the look of some of the parents outside the school and the language they use on a school playground they would probably congratulate there brats

Neversin said:

Marvellous!

DO TELL!!!!! It seldom makes things worse if the principal, teachers and parents of the bullies do what they're supposed to. I was bullied and eventually told, and after that I became best friends with the bullies when they understood what they'd done. Tell EVERYBODY Lolly!

I think you should wrap Bobbi in tinfoil, so that the bullies mistake her for a killer space robot.

Alternatively, go tell the teachers, and pester them until those little c0cks get expelled

lollyp0procks said:

I think you have to take action of some kind and inform her school (presumably they are prepared for dealing with this type of abuse).

I was bullied as a child because I was very big for my age - tall and stocky. Unfortunately I wasn't able to confide in my parents as they weren't the type of parents I could talk to.

It's strange though, because at age 10 I towered above all the other children in my class by being 5'2" ... and then I only grew an inch after that so now I'm 5'3" and short.

I think you need to talk to her teacher first, before you tackle the parents. It would be helpful to get an objective view on what's been happening, and to ensure that the teacher is aware of your daughter's unhappiness. If things don't get better, I'd then go to the parents, but not with a preconceived notion that they will condone their childrens' behaviour, otherwise it could end up being more confrontation than the situation requires, and may make things worse for your daughter.

Reincarnate said:

Bobbi will probably be the same I'm only 5'2" so i can't see her getting much bigger

I will definatly speak to the school on monday!

Rowdy said:

sound advice there rowdy

p0pRocks said:

Oh... you meant next Monday!

You have to do something Lollypop, whether it's telling the teacher, parents, prinicpal or even the school board if you have to. Yes, sometimes, it may make it worse (I know from experience), but you don't want your daughter to continue to being tortured. I used to dread going to school during certain years (especially junior high, 4th, 5th & 6th grade). I was bullied because I was shy and somewhat timid, so that made me an easy target. I never told my parents for different reasons, but one time my mother found a note a girl gave in in 5th grade telling me she was going to beat me up if I didn't give her money. My mom went ballistic and it did stop THAT girl. But when I was in 8th grade, almost the whole year was hell from one girl who wouldn't STOP bullying me even after the teachers and principal were told.
If you can do something to to make it stop, please do. it's just dreadful to be bullied and anyone who has been bullied will tell you that they never forget it. Now don't get me wrong, I'm a well-adjusted individual, but it's such hell at the time!
I hope it works out for your daughter.
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RocknRollisalive said:

shes off school for half term

p0pRocks said:

Like I said..... or if you'd prefer....

Whatever's good for you


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RocknRollisalive said:

is whats good for me, as per usual

p0pRocks said:

She needs to get all crazy on them like she's going to hurt them...or try to scare them a little, maybe they'll back off.

lollyp0procks said:

Your poor daughter! I can TOTALLY relate to how she must be feeling, because I was bullied from second grade and all through high school. I , too, was an easy target, because I was quiet and shy. The kids knew that they could say and do whatever they wanted to me, because I would not fight back or get angry, I would just start to cry. Oh, they would love that, and it got them the result that they were looking for, I realize that now.

Your daughter is very lucky that she has a parent like you who is concerned and wants to help remedy the situation. I was not so lucky growing up, since the bullying was largely ignored by my teachers. I remember being bullied, and looking up and seeing the teacher noticing what was going on. She turned her head away, as if she was thinking to herself, "Oh well, if I ignore it, it will go away." WTF, the teacher should always be in control of the classroom, and should not let this kind of crap go on.

I did have one teacher in fifth grade who was great, she did her best to get the teasing to stop by talking to the offending kids. Unfortunately, it only made the situation worse, and then the same teacher told me, "To try to not let it bother you." How could I not let it bother me, when it happened to me constantly and every day at school?? Pretty hard to do, especially when you're a shy kid like I was.

I couldn't talk to my mom either about what was going on in school, unfortunately. Every time I would try to tell her about it, she would just get mad at me. So that definitely shut all lines of communication down there. My mom was somewhat aware of the situation, because she once said to me, "Too bad you couldn't tell ALL of them off." I told her, "Well, that would be pretty hard to do, mom, one kid against 40." That would go over like a lead balloon, and would just make things that much worse for me.

I strongly advise you to go to the teacher, principal, kids' parents, and whoever else to get the teasing stopped now. If your daughter continues to have to attend school under these conditions, her self-esteem and her grades will suffer. Believe me, I know, I am speaking from experience here. My grades in school were very average to poor, because I could not concentrate on my schoolwork, all because of all the teasing that I endured. I hated going to school, because it was like walking into a freakin war zone. I still suffer from self-esteem and shyness issues (resulting from the bullying that I endured as a child) that have greatly affected my life and the choices that I have made. I don't think I've ever really gotten over the childhood teasing, probably because I didn't feel like there was anybody who understood me or who cared enough to help me.

I think if I did have somebody who was willing to help me out to get the teasing successfully stopped, that things would have been a lot different. I wouldn't be the shy person that I am now, I would have gone to college to get a higher education, I would have gotten married, have kids, the list goes on and on. Please don't let your daughter wind up like me, please do something about it now, while she's still young!

A hug for you and for your daughter .

Hey, I don't know how much this can relate to your situation, but I get bullied quite a lot too. Obviously, unlike your daughter, I can defend myself, but it happens a lot more in middle school just to let you know! So you should take care of the problem before it becomes REALLY BIG in middle school because when you get to this point (I'm in 8th grade,almost in high school) you either are liked by most of the people for 4 years, or hated for 4 years, and being hated really SUCKS so I hope you can make sure your daughter doesn't have to go through with that!

*hugs and kisses for your daughter*

Cloudbuster said:

you are a sick person

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anywhoo, lolly

Christopher said:

hello Christopher

lovely out of context quote you are my hero

p0pRocks said:

if i was really your hero....id count to ten and fries would be on my doorstep.