Slave2daGroove said:

i was going to share a story but i dont think i will....

lets just say this topic hold a dear place in my heart....a lot has happened within this past year....still cant believe its been his long...

thanks for reminding me with this thread dex...

sosgemini said:

Ure not sharing?

I have made amends for the most part... and recently took a major step, filled a void you can say.

The only thing left is a good friend... who's husband has been cheating on her for years, really mind controling. I mean, he dressed her (insisted on buying her clothes)... had her cut her hair just so... bought her all that money could buy... nice house, two beautiful children...

Yet he was never home... work was always his excuse.

About two years ago... I was going through some major changes, had not disclosed much of my current days (then)... I just was not ready to talk about my life at the time. For the first time (besides all my friends chaos)... I was the one going through a seperation... moving out on my own and trying to get through it all the best I could.

Well... she kept calling, wanting to know why I had not called, or talked about what I was going through...

By then, I was to the point... I just needed my space, time to work through what I had to... free of friends/family opinions.

She then... she called another best friend... and was questioning her... and in the end... she was wondering if I was the one her Husband was having an affair with. I was shocked... then... at the time, I just did not have the energy to verify her wrongful thinking.

Since then... I simply have not spoken to her. Although I know it's time... I am not sure about regaining the faith, the faith of our friendship... even if he has driven her insanely to the edge.

...

I have not thought about this, nor expressed it to this degree... intil now.

Silly threads...

I will take this challenge... you crazy nut. ~Smile.

Like someone said earlier, sometimes the relationship is damaged beyond repair. That's what happened to me. I recently had the chance to talk to this person and we actually reconciled but I haven't spoken to her since. It'd be too much to take to rebuild our past friendship. I'm just happy that we had some closure and parted ways in a friendly manner. I don't know if it's right or wrong but I've moved on since then. No hard feelings or malice towards her, I just have other friends I trust so I talk to them instead.

dreamfactory313 said:

aight...since freespirit was gracious enough to take dex's challenge seriously i shall share my own story...

in dec 2003 a decided to host a reunion/party for a group of us folks that worked together at Cingular. Everyone was invited but two people...One person was never really close to us and had harrassed a co-worker and make accusations towards me that none of us got over..The other happened to be an ex-lover of mine. Chris was his name and because he and I left on bad terms I just didnt want to invite him..Well, after the party I happened to come across Chris online and we had a great conversation and apologized to each other for the things we had done to each other.....A month later Chris was killed by his father (who also killed Chris' mother and himself.)

Chris' death was a hard thing for me to get over....I would have never forgiven myself if I hadnt had the oppurtunity to apologize and let bygones be bygones....

Life, its such an amazing, powerful and at times confusing thing...

You know folks, I hate devote a threads...At times I despise the cliquishness that is the GD forum...But the people that make up this forum (and this site) are some of the most giving and beautiful people I have ever come across...I dont think I've ever been able to thank the people that touched and helped me through a very difficult year....

Freespirit, Anxiety, Byron (byron...you re-tought me the gift of smile...i can never thank you enough.....you brought the sole genuine smile to my face all of last year).., Natsume, Madartista, Milty and Supa....thank you all for being orange moons and shining your bright lights when i needed them..and to all the folks in the p&r forum who shared their condolences later on last year..(i dont wanna name all of y'all out of fear of forgetting someone...but thank you..and special love to all those who sent orgnotes).....

i never shared my appreciations before because i never cound find the right moment..to be honest, i wasnt well enough to articulate a coherent acknowledgement....glad to see i can address these things now without getting overwhelmed by my emotions...eek, now im rambling...

so there it is, thats my story... "thanks" guys!!.....

sorry for the threadjack!! back on topic!!


your'eanoragnemoonedit....
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sosgemini said:

eeks..theres a reason why i mentioned my dislike for some aspects of the gd forum...its that stuborness that has not allowed me the oppurtunity to thank some folks...so thanks dex for creating a thread that gave me that chance..

sosgemini said:

And you just brought one to mine...

Freespirit said:

If you decide to follow thru, I hope your friendship is able to reconnect itself (I do remember this... )

Byron said:

Have you thought about writing a book man?

Maybe fortune cookies at least?

subhuman09 said:

Now that you mention it...

Byron said:

Untapped market!

To answer the original request, no.

MrJoker said:

What about putting aside EGGS?

subhuman09 said:

I don't like green eggs and ham! I do not like them, Sam-I-Am!

MrJoker said:

I wonder if Sam Raimi likes them.

subhuman09 said:

MrJoker said:

I always thought there should be a Necrocomicon for some reason.

Just a thought.

subhuman09 said:

Hey, that's good!
[Edited 2/9/05 22:56pm]

MrJoker said:

Boredom and a bloody chin don't mix.

Although it does make for a wonderful conversation piece.

Bruce Campbell's a cool guy outside of the Evil Dead series though too, had the pleasure of talking to him a little bit.

subhuman09 said:

Cool!

...and I'll try not to touch my chin anymore.

MrJoker said:

Makes ya think-Bruce would have one hell of a bloody chin.

U 2 are fucking amazing!!! Like Two Yodas from the Underworld!

I will not drink your "Kool-Aid"!!

DexMSR said:

Question: Did you estrange yourself from a friend you were dear to? Is that why you started this forum? I read these forums and I often wonder what reason they had for starting that particular subject. This must be of significant importance in your world. So...what did you do to get that friendship going again? Any tips for the ones you just ordered to do the same?

The people I want as friends, I keep as friend. the ones I believe to not be real friends, I keep as acquaintances or not keep at all.
I have no problem apologizing. I have no problems backing down from a fight if I feel this fight might hurt my friend for no good reason.
Some people call my sucker. I call myself someone who puts smiles on people's faces.

Freespirit said:

What do you guys think about projection?

I ask b/c I have a friend who on 2 occassions has been suspicious of me "messing with" boyfriends of hers, which has NEVER even entered my mind Once, when we worked @ the same place I saw her bf driving off from dropping her @ work. I was blocks away from the job so he dropped me off in front of the building. When I told her so&so just gave me a ride from the parking lot, she was PISSED for the rest of the day, very suspicious, didn't say SHIT, just looked @ me like I'd spit in her face Mind you, they'd been together for years so this wasn't a new & "questionable" relationship (at least not to my knowledge) & we had been freinds for YEARS. So I let that go though it really bothered me that she would think I'd be up to that...

Another time she'd given me her bf's phone # to call her @ his place b/c we were gonna hook up & that's where she was staying. A few months later came another "call me @ his house" scenario & when I mentioned that I thought I still had the # from last time she flashed on me, forgetting she ever gave me the #! So now she's like, "what are you doing w/ his #??" I explained to her that she gave it to me before but she was still WAY suspicious

Of course, all of this could be her suspicion of the men & not necessarily of me BUT the fact that she reacted that way really threw me. So again I dismissed it (didn't let it cause a huge rift) but never forgot it...

THEN ( this is long, huh?) one night we're on the phone, she's drunk. So drunk that she blurts out, "Where does so&so (my ex boyfriend) live so I can go over there & fuck him!"

I think it's all about projection. She wasn't looking @ me as a person, the friend she'd known for years & how likely it was that I would really do some shit like that (though people are capable of anything, but you gotta consider a muthafuckas character)... she was assuming that I'm capable of whatever she'd do herself, that's why she wouldn't put it past me (though I hope she knows deep down I'd never do that).

This doesn't even sound like your situation Freespirit, your silence was just bad timing for her it seems. But it made me think of all that in my own friendship...

Oh, and we're still friends btw, but I keep her at a certain distance b/c I honestly would NEVER trust her where men are concerned & that's a damn shame...

PurpleThunder said:

Wasn't me


And no, I believe that if a friend screws up enough they can burn in their own little Hell.

Heavenly said:

You are right in everything you say about yourself, wish that others could know themselves as well as you do.

DexMSR said:

We've already gone over this hun...you don't wanna see my boobs...you just think you do