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PrintableHeavenly said: ella731 said: exactly NPP, we all have insecurities about things, sometimes you just have to overlook things  ariel you are a wonderful man
dont be silly, anyone that is lucky enought to land you is a truly blessed  well taking in our age difference when you were 15 i was 10 so i was in grade school 
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Ariel, I said you're a fantastic lover and I meant every word. Every part of you. I love you.  | |
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Teacher said: Ariel, I said you're a fantastic lover and I meant every word. Every part of you. I love you.
Thank you. I guess part of being alone will of course not get you this feedback, which slowly makes your insecurities grow. When you do not feel the appreciation and love that kick those insecurities out, they stay inside and grow bigger and bigger every day. And with me, I always keep things inside for too long, until it's either too late, or I just explode. I love you too You are probably the only one in real life that I actually felt secure with  | |
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Heavenly!
I have known men that are huge, and I have known men that are less endowed.. It is all about the heart! ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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Never...the intimacy within lovemaking is what I want, not the physical act itself...and there are literally thousands of ways to make love to and with one another...so as long as there is passion, love and connection shared between me and my partner, we'll have unlimited ways of intensifying our lovemaking, and making it more than satisfying for both of us. | |
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Heavenly said: Teacher said: Ariel, I said you're a fantastic lover and I meant every word. Every part of you. I love you.
Thank you. I guess part of being alone will of course not get you this feedback, which slowly makes your insecurities grow. When you do not feel the appreciation and love that kick those insecurities out, they stay inside and grow bigger and bigger every day. And with me, I always keep things inside for too long, until it's either too late, or I just explode. I love you too You are probably the only one in real life that I actually felt secure with doesn't cover how I feel to know that I made you feel secure, not nearly. It's the best compliment I've ever been paid though. I am so happy I could make you feel like that..... but not too secure right?   | |
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Byron said: Never...the intimacy within lovemaking is what I want, not the physical act itself...and there are literally thousands of ways to make love to and with one another...so as long as there is passion, love and connection shared between me and my partner, we'll have unlimited ways of intensifying our lovemaking, and making it more than satisfying for both of us.
You got that right! ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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Byron said: Never...the intimacy within lovemaking is what I want, not the physical act itself...and there are literally thousands of ways to make love to and with one another...so as long as there is passion, love and connection shared between me and my partner, we'll have unlimited ways of intensifying our lovemaking, and making it more than satisfying for both of us.
I feel like I wanna make love to you 
lol. But seriously, that's the way I feel too. intimacy means everything to me. I don't fuck, and don't think I'm capable of it. But I do enjoy lovemaking. And hopefully I'll be with someone who feels the same way. | |
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Teacher said: Heavenly said:
Thank you. I guess part of being alone will of course not get you this feedback, which slowly makes your insecurities grow. When you do not feel the appreciation and love that kick those insecurities out, they stay inside and grow bigger and bigger every day. And with me, I always keep things inside for too long, until it's either too late, or I just explode. I love you too You are probably the only one in real life that I actually felt secure with doesn't cover how I feel to know that I made you feel secure, not nearly. It's the best compliment I've ever been paid though. I am so happy I could make you feel like that..... but not too secure right? 
You know, biting would've probably hurt more if it was just physical. Since it envolved passion, the pain was enjoyable 
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Heavenly said: Byron said: Never...the intimacy within lovemaking is what I want, not the physical act itself...and there are literally thousands of ways to make love to and with one another...so as long as there is passion, love and connection shared between me and my partner, we'll have unlimited ways of intensifying our lovemaking, and making it more than satisfying for both of us.
I feel like I wanna make love to you
lol. But seriously, that's the way I feel too. intimacy means everything to me. I don't fuck, and don't think I'm capable of it. But I do enjoy lovemaking. And hopefully I'll be with someone who feels the same way. Don't give up hope! When you are ready they will appear.. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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As you introduced the caveat of it being with someone you love then no it's not ok to cheat. Sex is an important part of a relationship, sure. But it's not the only part. Address the "problem" but ultimately if you love the person it shouldn’t affect the relationship at all. If you are sexually incompatible then maybe you don't really love this person, you just want to for reasons other than sex. Love and sex are inextricably linked. Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
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We live in a very materialistic world. at least there's more talk about materian than of passion. This is why I sometimes tend to believe that passion is very rare and almost impossible to find someone who will put love before matter.
I haven't lost hope yet, even though I feel very close to it at times. The fact that I'm still here, shows that there's some hope left in me. | |
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Heavenly said: We live in a very materialistic world. at least there's more talk about materian than of passion. This is why I sometimes tend to believe that passion is very rare and almost impossible to find someone who will put love before matter.
I haven't lost hope yet, even though I feel very close to it at times. The fact that I'm still here, shows that there's some hope left in me. Don't give up hope...as Sag said, when you're ready that person will appear...and sometimes even if you're not ready.  | |
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Yes. everything you say makes a lot of sense, and I believe it's the way it should be.
But...we ARE humans, and human nature is a greedy bastard who always wants better. For example, we always want more money, no matter how much we make. Even if we're satisfied, we'll rarely say no if we have a chance to get more money. "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fense". Sure, it only seems greener, but we still feel like it is, and it can get us to want it more than what we already have, even if it's not really greener. And since I know I have a flaw, it always makes me wonder if my partner is thinking that maybe there's someone better. Maybe I'm just a stop on their way to the top. A settlement until they can get something better. Does it make sense? | |
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Heavenly said: Yes. everything you say makes a lot of sense, and I believe it's the way it should be.
But...we ARE humans, and human nature is a greedy bastard who always wants better. For example, we always want more money, no matter how much we make. Even if we're satisfied, we'll rarely say no if we have a chance to get more money. "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fense". Sure, it only seems greener, but we still feel like it is, and it can get us to want it more than what we already have, even if it's not really greener. And since I know I have a flaw, it always makes me wonder if my partner is thinking that maybe there's someone better. Maybe I'm just a stop on their way to the top. A settlement until they can get something better. Does it make sense? STOP worrying so much, live your life and try to enjoy it. One day you will be looking over someone else’s fence at their grass. You will be comparing it's greenness with a blade you carry round in your pocket from home. The owner of the lawn you are studying will say "hey, what the fuck are you looking at my grass for?" You panic and turn to run, as you turn you knock a young lady off a bicycle and you get to chatting. She turns out to be the woman of your dreams and you the man of hers. The moral? STOP looking at grass and check out the women on the bicycle. You might meet people without having to scrape them off the road first. Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
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PREDOMINANT said: Heavenly said: Yes. everything you say makes a lot of sense, and I believe it's the way it should be.
But...we ARE humans, and human nature is a greedy bastard who always wants better. For example, we always want more money, no matter how much we make. Even if we're satisfied, we'll rarely say no if we have a chance to get more money. "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fense". Sure, it only seems greener, but we still feel like it is, and it can get us to want it more than what we already have, even if it's not really greener. And since I know I have a flaw, it always makes me wonder if my partner is thinking that maybe there's someone better. Maybe I'm just a stop on their way to the top. A settlement until they can get something better. Does it make sense? STOP worrying so much, live your life and try to enjoy it. One day you will be looking over someone else’s fence at their grass. You will be comparing it's greenness with a blade you carry round in your pocket from home. The owner of the lawn you are studying will say "hey, what the fuck are you looking at my grass for?" You panic and turn to run, as you turn you knock a young lady off a bicycle and you get to chatting. She turns out to be the woman of your dreams and you the man of hers. The moral? STOP looking at grass and check out the women on the bicycle. You might meet people without having to scrape them off the road first. yeah what he said..... In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Heavenly said: Yes, it is something that is troubling me. ok, the examples you gave of someone with a broken leg, or someone becoming disabled is after the relationship started. what if those disabilities were there from the start? would you get invloved with someone who you know would never be able to satisfy you sexually? Heavenly said: And yes, I agree, cheating is cheating. So let me ask it another way, would it make you grow apart? or would you still feel as close to this person as with someone who COULD satisfy you? In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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nakedpianoplayer said: well, sex is important, yes...
BUT, i think you can always work things like this out IF your partner is willing. now, if your partner just wont listen, and doesnt WANT to help make the sex life better - then my answer would be that your partner just isnt that into you. if they were, they would want you to be happy on all levels... im not saying do something they dont feel comfortable with, but, come on... you are a couple, and sex is a part of that. does that make me mean ? NOPE!!!! | |
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Heavenly said: If your partner can't satisfy all your needs, would you cheat on them with someone else?
Would you settle for toys to complete your satisfaction? Would it affect your relationship to a point where you might consider breaking up and looking for someone else? How important is your sexual satisfaction in your long term relatioship? Would you settle for less sexual satisfaction if you really loved your partner? I'm talking of course about people you love, not people you date for sexual pleasures, but someone you really love and care for. Sexual satisfaction is so over rated.  Well maybe not satisfaction...but Sex in general. I mean what are ya gonna do when you both are too old to enjoy sex? Sex is nice. But I think most men get bored with whatever they are with...eventually. People put too much stake into it. And break up stupidly over it. It causes all kinds of weird jealousy. | |
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Byron said: Never...the intimacy within lovemaking is what I want, not the physical act itself...and there are literally thousands of ways to make love to and with one another...so as long as there is passion, love and connection shared between me and my partner, we'll have unlimited ways of intensifying our lovemaking, and making it more than satisfying for both of us.
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