ok, lets say we are talking about two women here, both of whom you know and have been talking to. the first one you know that when you go with her you have to be a 'family' man, one that goes out makes a living, takes care of home, respects your woman, and never cheat.

the second, you can pretty much do as you please.. come and go as you want, the bills arent really an issue, the kids in the house are pretty much taking care of themselves, you get the idea.


but, heres the trade - with the first one, you get to have a beautiful home, lovely dinners, a great circle of friends who are all married but go out together to have a wonderful time...

the second one, your relationship at home is really not that solid.




i want to know is it really true that most men would choose the second option ??? answering this honestly could help me solve a question i have been dealing with for a while now... thanks for the help

No. I'm not most man, I'm only one, but I would most definitely choose the first one.

Heavenly said:

you are such a sweetie

Definately option 1 here

mdiver said:

wow, seriously ?

you guys are really throwing me off here.

Most men think with their dicks, so they'll just go with the one that turns them on more, regardless of the other issues. Unless, of course, they're true idiots, in which case they'll go with Woman #1 and cheat with Woman #2.

3. Size of breasts.

Ace said:

thats what i like to see a little truth !!!!

thanks man, i appreciate it

spoken like a true man Atleast you're honest about it

nakedpianoplayer said:

Yep having someone you love and can trust is really important although Taureau did throw a spanner in the works when he mentioned breasts

mdiver said:

another honest answere

EverSoLesa said:

Myself, I've outgrown that foolishness (mistaking lust for something that's gonna last), but most guys I know still fall for it.

Wow! Just look at all these honest answers you're getting here.

Ace said:

see, i always thought it was more about having to commit to the relationship. you see, if you take #1, you are responsible for all of your actions..

take the second, and you are free to do what you like.. it seems most men arent really looking to get into a situation where they have to be responsible. at least from what i've seen.

Ace said:

but you still gave a very honest answere and didn't sugar coat it. I admire people who can be honest

nakedpianoplayer said:

So you're saying I'm lying?
Pffft

Heavenly said:

actually Heavenly we know you're not lying because you are a just like what you wrote, honest... but there are not too many men like you anymore

Here's the thing with the question, it depends on the women and the man. A man who wants things in life already has accepted responsibility or else he doesn't have shit.

Kids are another whole topic and raising someone else's kids is tough (from growing up around it). Why wouldn't the woman raise kids and get a job rather than expect someone to pay the bills and be dependent on someone?

Overall it's a maturity issue, if you really care about someone nothing will get in the way, if you don't everything will get in the way (other women, kids, etc.) This says nothing about making a committment which is something else all together.

EverSoLesa said:

I truly am not looking for fun when it comes to women. I'm looking for trust. And that can't be found with choice #2.

I may only be a monkey...but, I've always been a monogamous monkey...
if I can't trust my partner, I'm not hanging around...
so...I guess it would be #1 for me...

nakedpianoplayer said:

and that comes in all forms...including the "saying what you feel at the time because it seems right and then look the woman like she's crazy when she expects you to live up to it" form

Slave2daGroove said:

no no, see, the children belong to HIM.. so, i guess that changes things i just think a lot of men want the easiest way out they can get... at least i tell myself that, if feels better that way

applekisses said:

amen girl

its just best for me not to think about shit like this... its really disturbing to me.

nakedpianoplayer said:

It's disturbing to me too.

nakedpianoplayer said:

Most men would go for the option that had the bigger tits!

But really it depends on the guy. Some guys want the first and actively seek it. A lot of guys don't think it through and just get whatever comes along with it. If they actaully did think about it...we'd see a lot of the first and less of the second. Another thing is House, kids and wife don't take care of themselves...ever.

nakedpianoplayer said:

I think we have a different mentality here one hte org. But also when presented with the question...literally, you have to think about it. Most don't get this question presented to them.

First...as long as "marriage" does not come up!!

But a circle of friends of only married couples and shit bores the hell out of my ass....I like to keep pushing the envelope...I'm not one for the typical married/suburbian life....BORING!

My mind and heart don't really receive love and relationships that way...I would "go" for the woman who made me feel connected to her, the one where I found myself thinking of all the things I want to give her...not all the things she'll be giving me (home, friends, freedom, what have you...)

Given that, between the two choices you mentioned, the first one would be the better one to me...you haven't really given anything of value to offer in the second scenario...well, besides "freedom", I suppose. But there's an entirely different and more fulfilling freedom to be found in scenario one, that is, if you're with someone who fills you with passion, love and a peaceful heart...and hopefully that person will have no qualms with you still having a life that centers around you being you separate from them.