I think i have a stalker

Lately i have been suffering really bad insomnia and thought that being online was probably making it worse so tonight i went to bed

I really couldn't sleep so i went for a walk, not so clever at 2am but i was so restless I walked along a really beautiful canal path in the day! i didn't realise at night it was scary foggy and over grown

I had been walking about 15 minutes when i heard someone i walked faster....

so did the person then he called my name! 2am on a deserted canal path and i bump into my ex boyfriend who i haven't seen for years.....

thing is he lives in over 30 minutes drive away and has recently started e-mailing me for nothing in particular saying he was concerned as he had heard rumours about my unfortunate love life!

He walked all the way home with me (nearly an hour) and then just disapeared but he had no reason to be where i live, and i have no idea what he wanted !!!

could it all be coincidence? I'm a little freaked out by seeing him again especially after the last e-mail he said I was the first girl to break his heart and he never forgave me

Should i be scared?

p0pRocks said:

OMG!!!!

Lord have Mercy!!!!!

I would be extremely cautious to this
I have had dealings with a stalker and seriously u seem 2 always be looking over your shoulder and fearing about going out and even coming home.
Be careful, be aware. I hope that ur incident was a one off.

sounds very suspicious. be careful. alert authorities if it really creeps you out.

That would be one almighty coincidence. At least 5,000,000 to 1.

Dont freak out but I'd be very concerned. Did he say why he was there? (I'm guessing he didn't).

Do you have any male friends or family that can come and check outside your place at night to see if there is anyone out there? I'd also consider notifying the local police if you suspect he is hanging around.

I think you should be concerned.

I didn't want to panic you sweetie but I agree with everyone...it sounds like you should watch your back definately have someone check if he's hanging around not that I believe in them, but this would have to be one hell of a coincidence especially as he never told you what he's doing around at 2am...

Ok reading that alone was scary!

On 2 different occasions,I've had 2 different men follow me home and knock on my door

My boyfriend got me a guard dog then a tiny gun

If u have a tiny bit of fear...its not good
Keep a look out and think about what u can do to protect yourself

I asked what he was doing and he said thinking about the past!!!

just reminising (sp) I have had a stalker before but it was a stranger who followed me around, cause he knows me and knows my family and friends it makes me feel even more icky, he could have been out there other nights too for all i know

thanks for your concern I thought i was over reacting at first but writing it down made it look more sinister i guess

My dad will look out for me and i think I'll stay arround others for a while until i can confront him

i mean just when things were settling down for me

Maybe YOU'RE stalking him!!

2the9s said:

no thats you silly

look outside your window

Has he done this kind of thing before?

2the9s said:

Hey, what happened to JaRule? You're not nearly as funny without the holla!

CarrieMpls said:

I had to cut him loose.







(Okay...*he* cut me loose! )

Natisse said:

sweetie will more than likely wake the house up and don't want to worry them at 3:30am

you really are a sweetie but i'm too shaken to be explaining to the parents

2the9s said:

not as far as i know, when i first got with my husband he used to turn up at odd times in bars and things but i never suspected anything

maybe he is a little weird

I don't want to make a fuss and end up looking stupid though, he is good looking and sucessful nobody would belive he was following a single mother of 2 around :

p0pRocks said:

ok I'm calling you tomorrow tho definately when it's a more respectable hour for you

Natisse said:

not early sweetie i think i shall be catching up on some sleep

anytime after 8:30pm my time up until about 10pm mytime is usually ok, have guitar lesson until 8:30

will be lovely to hear from you

might get my dad to drive me and pick me up from practice tomorrow

ohhh i hope my dad doesn't see him, he never liked him in the first place

p0pRocks said:

ok hon but I might try you during your daytime...not sure yet I'll see how long I can stay up for either that or I'll ring you tomorrow night your time

it sounds like your Dad is a good judge of character

Natisse said:

yeah bless my dad, he is adorable, will be mad when i tell him tomorrow and the fact that i haven't woken him up will make him cross, I'm nearly 25 and he still wants to protect me

p0pRocks said:

awwww of course he does! no matter how old you are you'll always be his daughter he wants to look after good idea to get him to pick you up tho until this is sorted...

p0pRocks said:

Yes, you should be scared. Print and keep all the emails you get from him. Do NOT respond back to any emails. Do tell him the relationship is over, if he keeps emailing do NOT respond. And change your email address, use a diff. password. If you move, get a PO box number and use it for all your mail. Keep a log of any run ins with him such as the 2 a.m. walk.

And do not come and go from home the same time every day. Change your schedule frequently.

And file a complaint with the police.

Walking alone at 2 am?

Sorry but somebody had to tell you. I mean, that would be the first question if you went to the police. What were you doing? Looking for trouble?

Sorry again.

That muufucka sounds crazy

Okay... Sorry sweetie but this isn't a good thing!

The fact that it was after 2am and you were only 15 minutes from home means it is unlikely to be a coincidence... bearing in mind the fact that he has been emailing you and says he has been 'thinking' about the past.

Saying that, I don't think you should let it scare you or panic you at this stage... just be cautious, and I agree with Luv4U... don't respond to emails etc.

Please be careful and you know where I am okay




Bottom line is... no-one should be challenging my stalker crown

p0pRocks said:

you iz out late!

well,to be fair when im out "walking" at 2am i usually dont speed up.... i slow down and tell them my prices.


j/k

be safe...and if all else fails.... carry some poprocks and dr.pepper with you and shove them in his mouth and run!
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If it's possible take somebody with you to go walking. Dont go on your own at 2am

Be careful

I had a dream of a peeping tom last night and it frigtened da shitz outta me!!
Hey, u know u can tell if a person is not quite there if they don't look right in they eyez. I mean, there is a look. Besidez what this guy was doin soundz scary- 2am in da morning callin out ur name? WTF is dat? Keep ur daddy nearby

luv4u said:

He should know the relationship is over it ended more than 8 years ago and was puppy love!

your advice is brillient thanks

already spoke to my friends boyfriend who is a police officer and he said basically if i wanted to make a complaint a police officer would go round and give him a warning.

He has e-mailed today, asking if I'm ok because i looked upset. I have ignored it i don't want to encourage him