CarrieMpls said:

I don't think you're wrong...I understand what you're meaning as well. When it comes to marriage, we do think in terms of what our lives will be like once entering into it with another...so issues of money and security will matter, as they should. I just wonder how many of us will walk away from love if those issues of financial security aren't answered yet, and how many of us will walk away from security if those feelings of love aren't passionate enough...

Byron said:

I know you're talking to Mach, but I'm throwing in my 2 cents...

I think it depends on a bit more than the money making aspect. If a guy I was "in love with" were doing creative things with his life, but just barely able to make out a living, I could live with that. If he had no aspirations or dreams and wasn't productive in any way, I don't think I could handle that. I know I wouldn't mind being the bread winner in a relationship. But I prefer someone who is at least trying to contribute something, even if it doesn't make a lot of money.

Love, love, love

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah, see, I agree with that, too... ...I don't need the person I'm in love with to make any money...but it WILL effect me if the reason they aren't is because they have no drive or motivation, no creativity or energy to do so...then again, I probably wouldn't fall in love with someone like that anyway..lol

Byron said:

That's pretty much what I was thinking too.

I'd freely admit that I wouldn’t mind if the person to whom you committed your life and devotion also happened to be rich! All other things being equal, who would complain about falling into wealth to ensure personal comfort and adventuresome investments and of course, charitable deeds? 'All other things being equal" implies what we all assume'. We fall in love first. Or at least we have the dignity to pretend to do so. There is something very unromantic about the though of falling in love for someone based on their wealth.

I think there there's something a bit tawdry about admitting you’d like to make an easy million by any means. Morally I think we all know we should earn our money. I mean, to what extent are extremely wealthy people happy anyway? I'm sure ther are many lonely, rich people would like to share their blessings with someone else.

Byron said:

I'd give up money for love. Let's say I met a guy that I really loved but he didn't have a dime to his name (couldn't by me things ect.) but I'd still stick by him through thick and thin. When we die we cant take the money with us but we can take love and knowing that the love is there makes going to heaven a little easier.

PurplePassion65 said:

If you pay me, I'll give you love.

HamsterHuey said:

Money cant buy real love.

Won't you tell me last time that love bought your clothes?
It's Like That
and that's the way it is

money is of no value when its all over and done. you cannot take anything you buy here on earth with you.. though, i personally believe that when you reach heaven's gate, there are loved ones waiting for you on the other side

i'd much rather fall into the arms of all the folks i've loved and lost in life... ones that have been my angels while im still here on earth - than to fall into that really expensive chair i bought.

nakedpianoplayer said:

nakedpianoplayer said:

But if you don't have love, that expensive chair (or you know, new sexy shoes, whatever) can be really comforting.

CarrieMpls said:

Let's go shopping!

money doesn't buy love, but it sure makes dealing without it a WHOLE lot more liveable.....

HamsterHuey said:

I'm way ahead of you! I've got plans for you and shopping in April/May.

CarrieMpls said:

I need shoes, shirts, non-jeans pants and a groovy haircut. And money. Have done so long without non-buddy love that I can do without non-buddy love.

Love cant buy you beer!

Enough said.

bkw said:

Wise words indead!

HamsterHuey said:

Then we're set! I have an expert opinion. And I'm definitely gonna be looking for shoes too.