Yep, under a pseudo name. Ive been there and done it. What do you think the chances are of being unfaithfull and still continuing with the original relationship ?

Im suffering from guilt just wondering whether Ive ruined the relationship Im in. Do you think its possible to go on and pretend nothing happened ?

I have a very long story for this, but no time to type it all out. To summarize, it is possible to go on if you're significant other is a very forgiving person and you truly regret what you had done.

" pretend nothing happened "


you think the suffering from guilt now ... is bad ?






good luck with it all ...

the grass is never greener on yonder side of the fence

may look it
still tastes exactly like grass

globequake said:

Chances are great, folks do it all the time...



If you're the kind that's haunted by guilt, you'll probably fold soon. But it depends - if you're a man, your woman may not leave you. If you're a woman, just start packing now...



Sure

BTW, I've never actually cheated while in a relationship. I kissed another guy once but I didn't feel bad at all b/c the relationship was dead anyway, at that point I was just choosing a casket.



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[Edited 2/5/05 18:18pm]

funny, i JUST had this conversation

my answer is NO !!! once you have cheated, it will NEVER be the same no matter what you do... it will never be the same... the level of trust will be gone, you cannot get it back again, the relationship will never be pure again. however, this is just my answer and i may be a tad bitter

good luck with the situation, hope it works out for ya

CalhounSq said:

i dont like cheating....


but i do LOVE that line

I would never do it, integrity within a relationship is too important to me. If I had feelings for someone else, I would be honest about it, I wouldn't sneak around and try pretend like everything is fine, if you love the person you're with, you have to put yourself in their shoes, and be aware that being tempted by someone else would be hurtful enough, but to do it behind their back just makes it that much harder...

I think some relationships can definitely withstand a betrayal, but MrJoker is right, it does depend on how forgiving your partner could be, and whether the person who cheated is truly regretful, if you both really love one another... it can work... but I would imagine it would take a lot of time to truly heal, if ever.

Diva said:

nakedpianoplayer said:

It is kinda good, huh?

Have never cheated on anyone, never will.

No.

luv4u said:

and thats why we love you girl

cuz, youre sweet like that

I think that the only valid excuse for cheating is if you're drunk.

bkw said:

nakedpianoplayer said:

what you just said

nakedpianoplayer said:

I find that the fishslap does not hurt anywhere near as much as the brick.

bkw said:

thats true

I've never been unfaithfull although I might be in the future. I've become a bit more open and relaxed about relationships these days.

I wouldn't worry about it. You only feel guilty because you wonder what your partner would feel if they knew. The truth is, it's totally possible that your partner may be having weekly gang-bangs with complete strangers but they will never tell you, they would always deny it, and there is no reason you should ever find out the truth. You should address this 'possibility' by realising your own possibilities - that way, you'll feel a lot more comfortable with the possibility that your partner is getting gang-banged.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

There's a difference between being unfaithful and having open relationships. I have intimate relationships with other people, but my husband knows and is fine with it, so it's not cheating or being unfaithful. Those things imply lying and hiding.

Never say Never. It depends on the situtaion.

tackam said:

I did in fact mean being a bit more open minded.

I've never been unfaithful to a partner, but I've been cheated on before. And I stayed him for quite a while after, but I didn't really ever truly forgive him, so things were basically doomed.
Course, he was a nut and while he was truly sorry he hurt me, I never really believed it wouldn't happen again. And I was right. And I went back to him again. And then somewhere along the way I got sick of it all and left him.
The sad thing is, he's a dog to this day. He still lives in Mpls and it seems whenever I bump into him, he's got a girlfriend, but he still propositions me. Once he did this at a party we both happened to be at and she was there with him, just across the room. I feel sad for her.

CarrieMpls said:

That's really bad


I believer secrecy is the best form of honesty

Taureau said:

Yeah, it was. But it's long since over now.

As for the secrecy thing, I think under certain circumstances that can be an OK thing, but it is also a slippery slope.

nakedpianoplayer said:

Thanks

CarrieMpls said:

Re-reading this, it sounds AWFUL! I know what I was thinking but, goodness! it would take a long time to explain. Nevermind it.

CarrieMpls said:

It's Ok. If you're in town, look me up

JDINTERACTIVE said:

Uh huh. And?

Unless you mean you're being a bit more open minded about fucking around behind a partner's back, my point stands.

tackam said:

No.