AnotherLoverToo said:

yeah, althom's such a tosser!

althom said:

Son, she talked like Moon Unit Zappa in "Valley Girl" and had lips like Molly Ringwald on steroids. Trust me...that date was the unerotic experience of my life.

Case said:

Molly Ringwald's lips

A coworker of mine thought I would mesh with a friend of hers and we went out for the first time tonight and he analyzed every word that came out of my mouth. FOr example, I mentioned I as turning 30 this year and he said something like "I sense fear in your voice and I have two theories about that..."

After a few drinks, I said I was tired and ready to go. He insisited on walking me home (that was nice of him) and when he asked me if he could take me out again, I said I didn't think there was anything more there than a friendship. I extended my arm to shake his hand - I wanted to end the night on a polite note for the sake of my friend. So what happens? He freaks out on me! Starts analyzing (at the top of his lungs, by the way) why I decided I didn't want to pursue the "potential relationship" and said "I just don't have time for this" and walks away.

I was so riled up after that and came home and had a few glasses of wine so don't mind me. I'm just venting, babbling....I always feel like I"m the bad guy but I hate games and I felt that I did the right thing by being honest.
[Edited 2/3/05 20:14pm]

Aw, honey, I can totally relate.

I've had some amazingly, um--unfortunate--first dates via online dating. One guy talked about computer games the whole time and swore to me that he's psychic. With another guy, we had one "ok" date and then a few days later he admitted he lied to me about his age (it was a 5+ yr difference) in order to broaden his dating pool because he just wasn't attracted to women his age (?!? ALARM BELLS). When I told him his lying bothered me and that I didn't think I was interested in another date with him, he told me that I was overreacting and that it was something else that I just didn't want to admit to myself that was the real reason behind not wanting to go out again.....

I could tell lots of stories, but this is YOUR thread. Just sayin' that I've been there and you just have to laugh it off--and smack the dumbass friend who set you up!
[Edited 2/3/05 20:37pm]

You should have called me right away.

I sense fear in your post, and I have two theories about this....

Thanks for all your feedback. Believe me I know rejection sucks - I've been there! But at the same time, why waste your time and theirs? Why say "i'll call you" if you really won't?

So what happens? He freaks out on me! Starts analyzing (at the top of his lungs, by the way) why I decided I didn't want to pursue the "potential relationship" and said "I just don't have time for this" and walks away.

I hate games and I felt that I did the right thing by being honest.

Byron said:

i actually don't have anything to contribute here, i just wanted to list things in two as well...

1) this is the first line

2) this is the second

see how they are numbered? this is fun!

Sorry you had to go through this Gypsy woman! I am not dating and don't intend to start. What is mine to have will Will be evident to me in time I believe. I have had enough expensive dinners etc....

man, no one in this thread can bullet above two...

1) Case can't

2) Byron can't

3) I CAN!!

I would have walked out the moment he said, "I sense fear in your voice and I have two theories about that."

..

Why say "i'll call you" if you really won't?

Gypsy, I've been on a few Blind Dates From Hell, too. However, from what it sounds like, this guy was just following a lot of bad habits that many men have:

1. Condescending you--that shit about "I have theories about that..." is him trying to sound like he's smarter than you. Many men HATE IT when a woman is smarter than them, so they stupid shit like that to make it appear that it's not the case.

2. The At-the-Door Freak Out--Men HATE rejection. It's like getting a kick in the balls. Men are pussies.

Anyway, sorry you had a bad time. I've been there.