Bill: "True knowledge exists in knowing that you know nothing."
Ted: That's US, dude!

Thank you PT and Julie

MrJoker said:

you are a nut

I think that if the two people (or however many people are involved) have talked it out thoroughly and feel as if there's nothing more to say, then, yes, continuously bringing the painful issue up is only going to slow down the healing. If a person has decided to "forgive and forget", then focusing on the future and perhaps behaving in a new way to avoid the same types of problems is the only way to stay healthy.

BUT if a person hasn't had the opportunity to really express his/her pain and feelings/thoughts, expecting that person to not talk about it is almost impossible. IMO, only feeling truly heard and acknowledged will allow a person to move along into forgiveness and letting go.

"We may be done with the past, but the past ain't done with us"

$1 to the first person to say what movie that's from!

AnotherLoverToo said:

I agree but sometimes by expressing the hurt feelings and talking about them are pointless if the other person or people are not willing to atleast listen. But I do see what you are saying and I agree

There's no problem that you cant fix with enough

Case said:

Dude Where's My Car!

EverSoLesa said:

I think that if someone in my life is unwilling to listen to very heartfelt feelings I have, then they have no place in my life. Those who truly have loved me, listened to me and vice versa. Even if they don't agree with me or see things the same way--they still let me have my say.

althom said:

AnotherLoverToo said:

then you are truly blessed and in the last few weeks I have seen that in my life too

althom said:

thread jackers