When it comes to having love or money I think love is more important.

I've lived without love for many years. I know it's great and would love to have it. But in real life, I need money to buy food, clothes, and have a roof over my head. So I'll choose money.

i choose both. and i give myself permission to choose both. so there.

Anxiety said:

i agree 100 %


love and money

Mach said:

Ohhhhh yes....

See? and they say men are bad.

Look at the three ladies above me, how they're cheating so easily in this simple game.

Heavenly said:

WTF ?







ok ok ...


i love love
i like $

i love that i have enough $ to be able to be happy in love

$ cant buy love

but love can help intentions on having enough $

ROMANCE without FINANCE is a NUISANCE

Would you give up one for the other??...

Byron said:

Who's that question for?

Chico1 said:

For anyone who wants to answer it..

Byron said:

i would never give up love for $

i would give up as much $ as i could ( and still live ) for love

( love = my husband/family ...IMO )

Byron said:

oh ok.

Mach said:

Some people ask themselves that question all the time when it comes to love/relationships...they have/feel the love with another, but ask themselves "Can I be happy with someone who doesn't make at least $30,000 a year and have a pension fund??"...Maybe the question could also be asked, "Which do you prefer, love or security?"...

Byron said:

Ummm no

If I gave up love for money I would just found out a way to get love and vice versa

ThreadCula said:

?...What do you mean? (Didn't quite follow you there..I'm slow today..lol)

Byron said:

Ok...
If I lost the opportunity to be in love to keep $$$,I would come up with a plan to find love
So basically Im saying I wouldnt give up one for the other because I would find a way to keep both
make sense?

Education edit
[Edited 2/6/05 13:00pm]

Byron said:

~ nods ~

my strongest feeling of "security" comes from ( is within ) love

** thinks some more **

perhaps ... beacuse i 100% own my home ... my land ( never had a bank loan on them ...paid cash ) my cars

because i have very few $ in credit card dept ... $ seem alittle less of value to me

yes, sure i need to eat and do the things for my kids thats takes $

man ... again ... i dont guess i have a point

love is far more important to me then $ ... is all

but i respect that $ is needed to live

Love won't pay the rent and money won't make you happy. Gotta have both. Sucks. I hate money.

ThreadCula said:

Gotcha now.. ...Makes perfect sense.

Mach said:

Ah, well see...you have security, so issues of money don't enter your mind. But what if you lived in an apartment...didn't own any land...were still paying on your car...and you met and fell in love with the man you're now married to, and he was in even worse financial shape than you..lol... Do you think it would effect your desire to spend your life with him, even a little??..

Byron said:

i'm not sure Byron ... cuz thats not the life i created ... and that all seems so strange to me ...

but if i were to be that woman you just spoke of ... i guess my feelings about $ would be different... my feelings about my man though ... i dont know...i am going to say ...no... they would not be different

but how would i know

i dont know

Byron said:

I wonder how many people really marry for money. Honestly. It seems like such a stupid thing to do. Not WRONG, per se. But misguided. Because as I said, you need both, and choosing money and cutting yourself off from love. . . I don't know, if there is somebody who has had that arrangement and been happy, I'd love to talk to them.

tackam said:

In a very real way, you're right...

Mach said:

You're being honest..

Do you feel that your values concerning love and money could fluctuate depending upon the circumstances you find yourself in?? (this goes for anyone else, too..)

tackam said:

Yeah, I tend to agree.. ...it's not WRONG necessarily, just not the best reason for marrying. I'd also tend to think that the heart's desire for love (when it's not present in the relationship) would be stronger than the mind's desire for money (when it's not in the relationship)...

Byron said:

fluctuate yes ... more so on the $ aspect

my values concerning love would ...less so then $

so... what kind of circumstances do you mean ...though ?

oh... thanx btw

tackam said:

I think it happens more often than we would lke to think. I think finding "true love" in life is extremely rare. (I should add, my definiton of true love is probably different than most peoples also...) Marriage to me seems to be more about convenience, companionship, family and habit. Not very romantic but quite practical. And of course, I'm not saying that's everyone. I just think that's the majority. But what do I know? I could be wrong.

Anxiety said:

Yep!!!!

I want a 3-way with both.....

Mach said:

Well, kind of like the scenario I painted up above before...any situations in which the security you have surrounding you now wasn't there yet (but could arrive sometime in the future...tho not guaranteed to do so). Wondered how many of us need the "security" there first, then the love there second...or vise versa...