Heavenly said:

at least I'm good at something i guess even if it is only fucking up

hope you are well sweetie

Heavenly said:

awwww in the words of who ever writes britneys songs...

"loneliness ain't killing me no more, I'm stronger"

You should listen to more crap pop they give out wonderful advice

I have to say it depends on the man/boy... unfortunately for me, if I'm in love I tend to give them too many fucking chances in some vain hope they might wake up and realise I'm the best ever.... but they don't so I try to move on. Getting better at it too! Let'em go, and let'em mourn the loss of a great woman!

Teacher said:

i hear ya there, i give WAY to many chances.... usually until i am so exhausted that i just dont care anymore im trying to do things differently.. im getting older now, and i dont feel like putting that much energy into something that is eventually going to lead to a broken/confused heart

so heres what i did... he called, i didnt answer the phone - i was informed by the folks in the chat room that i had to answer the phone, if only to see what stupid shit he came up with i returned the call, very calm... and to my amazement was able to stay completely calm throughout the conversation he asked me to let loose and tell him that i was angry, my answer was a very flat, "look, you know that im not happy about what you did... you know thats probably not the best way to treat me... and you know that i deserve better. me screaming and loosing my cool isnt gonna help the situation at all... instead, i'll just say - at this point, im not feeling good about this... if that means something to you, do something about it, if not.. well, then i guess thats that."

he was very quiet for a moment, and i said, 'well, im gonna go now, i dont want to waste the energy on this right now.'

dont you know... i felt GOOD !!! really really good about my response relationships are a trial and error process... some work out for you, others dont, no need to scream and act like a fool the book says if you do that it only makes the man look at you and think to himself.. 'see, i knew she was crazy, damn good thing i didnt go back over there'

this way, at least i looked good comming in and going out... now, we'll see what he does.

nakedpianoplayer said:

wow well done

i wish i had that much self respect i went for the

please take me back I'll do anything line

i really hope something works out honey and you end up happy

lollyp0p said:

i so much hear what youre saying but, since i have tried every other imaginable way to approach a man .... this is the next step - total and undeniable quiet and calm i have NO idea if it will work or not. but, in the end, i feel good, and i guess thats all that matters... right ?

ps.. do i think its gonna work out between us ? no.. sadly, i dont hold a lot of hope for this situation

nakedpianoplayer said:

you are right though the main thing wether it works out or not is that you feel good in yourself so long as you have your self worth you will be alright no matter what happens in this relationship.

theres alot to be said for dignity and the way it makes you feel if you keep hold of it

lollyp0p said:

youre so sweet ..... kinda like a lollypOp

nakedpianoplayer said:

Excellent woman!!! You rule! I'm happy for you

nakedpianoplayer said:

very classy - good job!

nakedpianoplayer said:

Yeah.....I agree! If he can't make a simple promise like that, he's just not putting the effort into the relationship. You deserve better.

althom said:

ooooh!

charlottegelin said:

What?

althom said:

saying all the right things, althom, you're giving me a warm fuzzy feeling!

charlottegelin said:

Well!

If I get a warm fuzzy feeling it means it's time to shave.

I want to read that book too, not the lesbian one, the not into you one, I wonder if they have it at the library? It will swiflty transport me back to MANY times of embarassment I'm sure!

althom said:

or go to the toilet...

bkw said:

althom said:

thanks baby... better is what im workin towards

for the record, i think i do deserve better.. along with all the women around me.... girls, if we dont put up with their shit - they will figure out it doesnt work this could be the end of all this shit


thanks for the support guys

btw, update, he called on his own.... is supposed to be here sometime today, we'll see

It surprises me hearing all this.

Can't imagine why a woman would want to put up with a guy that didn't appreciate her.

No "how to" book in the world is going to make up for someone's genuine character and caring for someone.

nakedpianoplayer said:

once twice three times their out!!!

subhuman09 said:

you'd be surprised what kinda fucked up men lurk out there in the world

nakedpianoplayer said:

I'm sorry to hear that, I guess I just hope people would talk more since that can solve so many problems.

Yes, there may not always be the right person to talk to but I think lots of things that can be worked out if people just let each other know what was up.

It'd cut out a lot of the wondering when things can sometimes be very simple.

Sounds like this guy might be one of those people that got into things for the wrong reasons maybe-and sounds like not all that great a pick.

Cause really, if you take care of yourself then you're able to apply things to being able to take care of somebody special in your life.

I hope men and women both just realize that there are some genuinely special people out there waiting-it's just best to take care of your own things in the meantime so when you get there you're able to appreciate them.

I think you can not settle and also not be unreasonable in wanting the best for yourself.

subhuman09 said:

awwwww sweetie, thats the nicest thing i think i've ever heard you say

relationships can be cold, cruel, heartless, rude, and without feeling this is true

but, they can also be warm, pure, full of love, and beauty all around... it just up to us what we will settle for.

my prince is out there somewhere and when i find him, im surely gonna ask, "WHAT THE HELL TOOK YOU SO LONG !!"

thanks again for your kind words

nakedpianoplayer said:

girl ain't that the truth I think we both know atleast one

nakedpianoplayer said:

You're welcome!



Just is more stuff to try to live by I think-if you worry about you then when somebody comes along you're able to be healthier in things.

Take care of you, and try to let the other things fall into place when you're ready for 'em.

Hang in there!

EverSoLesa said:

seriously ????






but, i said men are you SURE he falls under that catagory ??

subhuman09 said:

so sweet