about 3 years i broke up with a girl i loved very much (actually she dumped me) a lot of you know the cool story about how we met and stuff so i wont go into that but i will always love this girl and its taken a lot of time for the pain to go away and it is. UNTIL every few months i dream about her!...its always a GREAT dream we are always hanging out having a great time just like we did when we were together and then i wake up missing her like crazy all over again (it happened again this morning) its hard to enough get over somebody you still love but the dreams really make it even worse..maybe cuz we never fought and had a great time when we were together thats why i still dream of those times..i dont no..but it is depressing

I hear u!


I often think the subconcious wants us to think of happier times or something?



Like my old school mates that I have not seen in years yet I still dream of them? Good dreams too.

U don't have a pic of her u look at daily do u? That might spark off a dream about her.....
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thesexofit said:

no i don't...sometimes i look at the letters she sent me when we were together..but not too often

? Iam just thinking out load. The subconcious is a wierd thing. Some cannot even remember there dreams as soon as they wake up.

I've said this before but sometimes I feel like dreaming is the only time iam truly happy.....the past is a muthafucker.....in my case, maybe I can't let go that those old mates of mine are gone now?

I do feel ur pain buddy.....

Sure they stop....

2the9s said:

hah to bad i dont drink i should take it up

Instead of waking up in bed u could wake up on a railway line (like I did once)

thesexofit said:

Do tell!

I had a similar situation, and the dreams did finally stop after a few years. The relationship ended on a bad note for both of us, so it was a relief that I didn't have any dreams about her anymore.

Now that I've said this, I'll probably have a dream about her tonight.

Basically me and my mates were at a train station (?) and I said I needed some fresh air or something (have a piss?).....my mates slept 4 a while, then stumbled across the city home forgetting about me. I then, after going outside the station, found myself lost and proberly just thought why not sleep here on tracks. I forget the rest.....

I will never forgive my mates. Engineers found me on it early morning. They found it fucking hilarious.....I had a hangover so pride was not something of a top priority then. I seemed not to care.

I'd like to say that they do after a while but it hasn't happened yet for me as well. My relationship ended badly a few years ago but from time to time I still have dreams about her. I guess if you do care about someone it's only natural that some of your feelings and emotions still linger about in your dreams. Keep in mind that the dreams you have about her are in fact GOOD dreams. That should count for something.
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Mazerati said:

Poor Maz, that's gotta hurt.

I'll trade you for whatever dreams I have on any given night. I don't want them anymore. My best friend says I yelp or whimper about every three minutes, not happily either. Stop whining about happy dreams, there are much worse.

Teacher said:

Agreed. Dreams (like you have) create visions of our desires. I really, really liked a guy once but it never worked out though we were friends. Sometimes I still have these blissful dreams about him and I really enjoy those dreams.

For at least 10 years, my best friend from childhood would appear in my dream every night. Then at one point she stopped coming. I think I matured or grew out of whatever complex was creating the dream, but it took a loooong time.

I also go through periods where my nights are full of nightmares, fighting dreams, chasing dreams, disgusting dreams, killing dreams, bloody dreams.

but anyway, it sounds like you're still deeply attached to this girl on some level. the dreams will stop when you really move on, truly. but these things can literally take years.

I can totally relate to you on this one. Two years and still the ocassional dream and I did the breaking up (although, only after not being able to get her to move a thousand miles to live with me).

so let me get this straight.....the dreams don't stop?...Great

I don't think they stop. Broke up 2 years ago, still think of her every moment.
I'd probably never give up hope, even though I know it's probably never going to happen, since she's married now

Stax said:

heh sounds similar only mine moved 2000 miles to be with me and then moved back

you guys should check out this great song by Reo Speedwagon
called in "In My Dreams" its perfect for this subject

here are the lyrics

There was a time some time ago
When every sunrise meant a sunny day, oh a sunny day
But now when the morning light shines in
It only disturbs the dreamland where I lay, oh where I lay
I used to thank the lord when I’d wake
For life and love and the golden sky above me
But now I pray the stars will go on shinin’, you see in my dreams you love me

Daybreak is a joyful time
Just listen to the songbird harmonies, oh the harmonies
But I wish the dawn would never come
I wish there was silence in the trees, oh the trees
If only I could stay asleep, at least I could pretend you’re thinkin’ of me
’cause nighttime is the one time I am happy, you see in my dreams

Chorus:
We climb and climb and at the top we fly
Let the world go on below us, we are lost in time
And I don’t know really what it means
All I know is that you love me, in my dreams

(solo)

I keep hopin’ one day I’ll awaken, and somehow she’ll be lying by my side
And as I wonder if the dawn is really breakin’
She touches me and suddenly I’m alive

Chorus repeats 2x

Oho, in my dreams

Give it some time I guess. And don't focus on it too hard. I was love-sick for four years. He broke up with me when I was 18 and I could only say I was 'free' again when I became 22. I had boyfriends, but never 'for real'. Yes, you could say it ruined a beautiful period of my youth. But I experienced love, that's for sure. It will pass by. I truly hope for you that you'll not be dragging her with you until you're 60. The fact that you only dream about her is a good sign. It's a step further than the 'staring out of the window and crying your heart out' thing.

Aselosreve said:

exactly what i was thinking

I can't manage years of this, I'm fed up of dreaming about everything being ok and I'm happy again only to wake up to the bitter reality



and alcohol doesn't tend to stop the dreams unfortunaly i've been experimenting.

I just have bad bad horrible dreams..

REDFEATHERS said:

Yes they stop, but I remember having them off and on for about five years. I still get the occasional dream about that certain person, but they're like once a year or so. The hardest part is waking up and realizing it was just a dream because it seemed so real. That depressing, crushing feeling is excrutiating.

I think dreams happen to clean out our brain. Like throwing stuff away in the trash on your computer. It clears out the extra stuff.

I usually can't remember mine but when I do it is usually good stuff.