when me and my boyfriend first got together, I was so happy, there was nothing that could take away my joy, not even our arguements, but lately i've been feeling like something is wrong. I'm not happy like i use to be and i feel like i'm bored in the relationship, like we just do the same old things all the time.

I keep telling myself that I am just making a mountain out of a mole hill, or just trying to stir some drama up or find some unintentional way to sabotage the relationship (as i have done in the past due to fear of getting my feelings hurt). Other times I think that i shouldn't take how i feel lightly and just explain it to him. I don't know what to do or what to think, could someone help me out here...

How long have you been together? How old are you? Does he feel this way too? Have you talked with him about this?

2the9s said:

i'm 22 he is 24, we have known each other for like 4 years and were friends 4 years. We started going out last summer and started a relationship 3 months ago. he says that he is happy.

it just sounds like you're coming out of the good ol' honeymoon phase. it can't be skyrockets and dancing kittens forever, though those moments certainly don't go away. i think relationships are fluid - sometimes enjoying each other takes the front seat, sometimes it takes the backseat, sometimes you both wind up in the backseat and...well, that's another story.

but it just sounds like the novelty of a new relationship is wearing off...hopefully you two can take it to the next level where you kinda mellow into the relationship a bit and let it bleed into the other parts of your lives. ya know?

You should definitely be honest with him about how you're feeling. Maybe he is bored also.....Talk it out before you do anything drastic


Smooches;)

run for the hills




ok sorry. the others have much better advice to offer. listen to them

Anxiety said:

i hope so

missfee said:

What do you want to do?

MsMisha319 said:

i don't know he just pisses me off right now, almost everything

2the9s said:

i want to figure out whats wrong, i don't want to break up though
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missfee said:

Maybe you're gay, and the boredome is a sign of it surfacing from some deep hidden shameful place?

Or Maybe he's going through some stressful point in his life, like at work. We do that when we're stressed out you know--fall into a boring rutt.

maybe talking everyday is too much or something. I don't know what to do really. i just want to cry.

missfee said:

Well--let me tell U.
That was one of the biggest complaints my ex girlfriend had about me.
I simply didn't talk enough or let her know what was going on.

THe problem is that alot of times, not saying anything is just fine with us.
Girls need constant reaffirmation that everythign is fine, and guys assume everything is fine until told otherwise.
Wierd.

At least the sex keeps us together.

missfee said:

You said sometimes you feel you want to explain it to him, so do that.

Just don't do it in such a way that puts the whole thing on the line all at once, you know?

Make it like you want to talk about things in general. Maybe he's feeling the same way and doesn't want to speak first.

Yeah sounds like the honeymoon phase is dying down
Talk to him and make sure he knows you're serious...

Try new things, go out on nights u dont normally go out,take a vacation together

Or tell him to start an account here and I will give hima good talking to.








[Edited 1/20/05 18:15pm]

AsianBoi777 said:

this is apart of it too. I feel like because he isn't saying anything, i don't know if i'm making him happy or just boring. I need some feedback. Last i asked him he said that i still made him happy.

2the9s said:

naw he already is jealous of the fanship i have with prince. he says i'm obsessed but i'm not.

missfee said:

Yeah, me neither.

just wanted to thank all of you for the advice that you have given me. i talked to him and asked him some questions about our relationship, and he said that i made him happy, and told me how. I asked him if we could do different things regarding spending time with each other because things were getting repetitive and he didn't have a problem with it, so now things are pretty good again. Thanks for all the help.

-missfee