last night i was shopping for a lamp for one of the bedrooms in my house.i was looking at one, when a family of a mother, a father, and two sons, one about 12 and one about 8 comes up and is looking at some about 3 feet away from me.

i notice the 8 year old looking at the lamp in my hand, and then turns , looks at his dad, and says full voice: "that's so fucking queer."

and rather than correct the child in one or all of the numerous things wrong with such a statement, the dad just said "i know, son, i know."



sometimes i just want to be a recluse, and not have to deal with this kind of depressing stupidity.
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cborgman said:

not all parents would allow such talk

if they were mine... oh man... shit would hit the fan


there is not a single excuse in the world for that kinda speach or thinking ...

Mach said:

if it woulda been my kid they would have gotten a major cuff upside the head and woulda been making some very sincere apologies to the person in question.

the part that blew my mind more than anything was the kid could not have been more than 8, and they allow him to curse freely and use degratory insults. the mother didn't even look up from the lamp she was looking at.

I'll bey you in a second!

JDINTERACTIVE said:

bey?

cborgman said:

Dont you bey at me like that!

JDINTERACTIVE said:

BEY!
BEY BEY BEY!

(is this some kind of british thing? or just a silly org thing?)

oops... got it.

thanks, jd... smartass

Welcome, another future homophobe.

and people wonder why some kids are so bad

ella731 said:

Hello

Fauxie said:

morning!!

ella731 said:

Evening Ella

cborgman said:

I would have a hard time keeping my mouth shut. I probably would have been escorted out of the store

That is LAME!

Some people should not have children.

Kids are more or less a reflection of their parents and obviously in this case they are idiots

endorphin74 said:

I agree. Unfortunately, it seems like the ones who shouldn't have them are having the most!

Good thing that wasn't my kid. I woulda popped him one, then made him go over and aplologise.

cborgman said:

Nice mouth on the 8 yr old.

I wouold have conjured up the nelliest voice in me...and said "Well, do you think it's queerer than me? or that lamp over there?"

cborgman said:

Well, you know the boy wouldn't have known that unless he was queer his damn self. HAVE A NICE GAY!!!

F*ck em, Chris.

dancinggyrl said:

i wanted to say something, but... it woulda been more trouble than it was worth since the parents obviously supported it and had likely taught it to him to begin with
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Life's too short to not tell people off when they have it coming...

here's the shitty part, something similar just happened again.

i am on my lunch break at work. i am standly quietly in line waiting for my turn to order (they bring in caterers for us almost every day. today it was Sam;s barbecue - YUM), and the guy and girl in front of me are chatting.

when you are at the end of your training, they send you to nest with an accomplished TSR. the girl is apparently nesting, and she was telling the guy "oh, the guy i sit with is so HAPPY!"

i laughed inside, as the best TSR's have learned to smile while talking as you can talk a pissed off customer down subliminally this way. kinda cracks me up as i think she is amazed at which the way TSR's do this, and chalk it up to new person naivite.

"happy?" her male friend asks.

"oh, you know... HAPPY" she lisps, and overgesticulates the limp-wristed crap.

"oh... HAPPY" he says.

i sighed, and they both looked at me like i was mentally retarded.

god, i hate texas

Just ignore the ignorant coworkers.....but I'd have definately bitch slapped the kid....It sounds like he needed it.

cborgman said:

Says it all right there.

cborgman said:

And if we say nothing...what does that say? About us? About our tolerance of such behavior?

Not to say I'd have any more balls than you to say something...but I live in a place where that's NOT tolerated...even straight folks will say something here. I forget sometimes what it's like in other cities...even big ones.

I really think that in BOTH of these situations a simple reply...witty, yet respectful could have put these people in their place. Certainly the second encounter a simple interjection of "Happy..you know gay. You do mean gay right? It's OK to say GAY these days you know" and give the girl a lil pat on the hand. It's at work...you can call these folks on it. The store situation is a little trickier...but I may have mentioned the boys swearing and manners than anything else.

I nearly punched a little brat whilst getting on the bus this morning.

There were loads of kids throwing snowballs at the passing traffic. I was at the bus stop and I'm not a morning person at the best of times.

Well, the bus door swung open and this little twelve-year-old shit tried to throw a snowball in the bus driver's face whilst I was getting on the bus. It hit my shoulder instead!

So I turned around and screamed, "Get the fuck away from me before I twat you!" and the little shit said, "It wasn't me, it was my mate!". I lunged towards him and said, "I don't care who it was, fuck off before I punch you!" - and with that he ran off and I got on the bus.

I think I seriously would have punched him if he hadn't ran off. I really would have. I guess that would have been bad, but who cares?

As for people making racist,homophobic or other stupid remarks in my presence, I never let it slip. Even if they're strangers, I'll say something. I don't care. I've been beaten to a pulp before, so I really don't care as I know what it feels like now and I know that physical wounds heal much faster than mental ones.

I know you probably think that I'm making this up but I really do scream at strangers for their blatant stupidity. Most people are just too shocked to say or do anything and the five seconds (or so) of shock gives me more than enough time to slip away. Ha! Ha!

i think if i were subjected to what you're going through i might actually reach a point where i'd confront the people making these nasty remarks. i've shut some people down using this technique before, it can be tricky, but when you politely confront people with those little jabs they make and that they think you'll take without a fight, sometimes you can shame them

a good way to start is when the comment is intended to be loud enough for you to hear. walk right up to the offender with a big smile and say "excuse me? i could have sworn i heard you say [insert remark here] but that's so tacky and rude i know i must have misheard you. what did you say?"

this tehcnique does not work on drunk people, crack addicts and bikers. also, those who are simply too stupid to 'get' it.

but anyway. don't let the bastards get you down. fuck 'em all, dammit

Completely uncalled for and obnoxious

If that were my kid, There would've been some serious consequences

Being bad is one thing, but allowing your kid to be disrespectful is downright bad parenting


Smooches;)
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